Growth from Darkness

The inability to ask for help is a common trauma response. It can be caused by a number of factors, including: Feeling like you don't deserve help: Trauma can make you feel like you're not worthy of being helped. You may believe that you're weak or that you should be able to handle things on your own. Fear of being rejected: If you've been hurt in the past by people who were supposed to help you, you may be afraid to ask for help again. You may worry that people will judge you, abandon you, or make things worse. Feeling like you're a burden: Trauma can make you feel like you're a burden to others. You may believe that your problems are too much for anyone else to handle. Not knowing how to ask for help: If you've never asked for help before, you may not know how to do it. You may be afraid of saying the wrong thing or of being turned down. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/growthfromdarkness/message

The inability to ask for help is a common trauma response. It can be caused by a number of factors, including: Fear of being rejected or abandoned. People who have experienced trauma often have a deep-seated fear of being rejected or abandoned. They may worry that if they ask for help, others will not be there for them or will judge them. Feeling like they don't deserve help. People who have experienced trauma may also feel like they don't deserve help. They may believe that they are to blame for what happened to them, or that they are not worthy of being cared for. A belief that they can handle things on their own. Some people who have experienced trauma may develop a strong sense of independence. They may believe that they are the only ones who can take care of themselves, and that asking for help is a sign of weakness. In this episode we will cover: What is it What are the long term consequences How do we fight back Learn more: ⁠GrowthfromDarkness.com⁠ https://www.facebook.com/growthfromdarkness/ https://www.instagram.com/growthfromdarkness/ https://twitter.com/growthfromdark ⁠Get the BOOK!⁠ https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/stages-of-trauma-amanda-blackwood/1143130819?ean=9798215485415 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/growthfromdarkness/message

Abandonment issues are a type of trauma response that can develop in people who have experienced a significant loss or separation from a loved one. This can happen at any age, but it is most common in childhood. People with abandonment issues may have a number of different symptoms, including: Fear of being alone. Feelings of worthlessness or unlovability. Intense anxiety or panic attacks when separation is threatened. Recurrent thoughts or nightmares about being abandoned. Substance abuse or self-destructive behaviors. Difficulty trusting others. Avoidant or clingy behavior in relationships. Low self-esteem. Depression. In this episode we will cover: What is it What are the long term consequences How do we fight back Learn more: ⁠GrowthfromDarkness.com⁠ https://www.facebook.com/growthfromdarkness/ https://www.instagram.com/growthfromdarkness/ https://twitter.com/growthfromdark ⁠Get the BOOK!⁠ https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/stages-of-trauma-amanda-blackwood/1143130819?ean=9798215485415 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/growthfromdarkness/message

The trauma response need for control is a coping mechanism that people develop in response to trauma. It is a way of trying to feel safe and secure by having a sense of control over their environment. People who have experienced trauma often feel powerless and out of control, so they may try to regain that sense of control by controlling other aspects of their lives. In this episode we will cover: What is it What are the long term consequences How do we fight back Learn more: ⁠GrowthfromDarkness.com⁠ https://www.facebook.com/growthfromdarkness/ https://www.instagram.com/growthfromdarkness/ https://twitter.com/growthfromdark ⁠Get the BOOK!⁠ https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/stages-of-trauma-amanda-blackwood/1143130819?ean=9798215485415 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/growthfromdarkness/message

Trauma response people pleasing can be a way of trying to control the situation and feel safe. It can also be a way of avoiding negative emotions, such as anger, sadness, and fear. However, trauma response people pleasing can also be harmful. It can lead to people feeling drained, resentful, and isolated. It can also make it difficult to set boundaries and have healthy relationships. In this episode we will cover: What is it What are the long term consequences How do we fight back Learn more: ⁠GrowthfromDarkness.com⁠ www.facebook.com/growthfromdarkness/ www.instagram.com/growthfromdarkness/ twitter.com/growthfromdark ⁠Get the BOOK!⁠ https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/stages-of-trauma-amanda-blackwood/1143130819?ean=9798215485415 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/growthfromdarkness/message

Trauma avoidance is a coping mechanism that people use to avoid thinking about, talking about, or experiencing anything that reminds them of a traumatic event. This can include avoiding places, people, activities, or even thoughts and feelings that are associated with the trauma. Trauma avoidance can be a helpful coping mechanism in the short term, as it can help people to manage their emotions and to feel safe. However, in the long term, trauma avoidance can be harmful, as it can prevent people from processing the trauma and from moving on with their lives. * What is it * What are the long term consequences * How do we fight back Learn more: ⁠GrowthfromDarkness.com⁠ ⁠Facebook⁠ ⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠Twitter⁠ ⁠Get the BOOK!⁠ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/growthfromdarkness/message

Trauma avoidance is a coping mechanism that people use to avoid thinking about, talking about, or experiencing anything that reminds them of a traumatic event. This can include avoiding places, people, activities, or even thoughts and feelings that are associated with the trauma. Trauma avoidance can be a helpful coping mechanism in the short term, as it can help people to manage their emotions and to feel safe. However, in the long term, trauma avoidance can be harmful, as it can prevent people from processing the trauma and from moving on with their lives. * What is it * What are the long term consequences * How do we fight back Learn more: GrowthfromDarkness.com Facebook Instagram Twitter Get the BOOK! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/growthfromdarkness/message

Aggressive behavior is any behavior that is intended to harm or injure another person or animal. It can take many forms, including physical violence, verbal abuse, and emotional manipulation. Aggressive behavior is often motivated by anger, frustration, or a desire to control others. What is it What are the long term consequences? How do we fight back --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/growthfromdarkness/message

Acceptance is that moment when you’re finally in a position to move forward with your healing. At this point you’ve reached a place where you have processed and acknowledged what happened to you and you're in a better mindset to deal with the emotions and consequences of having gone through something so traumatic. Many people believe that “acceptance” means forgiving the person who hurt you or even accepting what happened to you as being okay, but that’s not the case at all. What it actually means is that you’ve come to terms with the fact that it happened at all and you understand that it’s changed your life. It has nothing to do with forgiveness. Acceptance doesn’t mean  you don’t get angry or depressed about it anymore, either.  --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/growthfromdarkness/message

It’s been a roller coaster. Your emotions have been all over the map and you’ve struggled to focus on what ‘real life’ might look like after having experienced the trauma you’ve survived. You’ve been distracted and focused on everything under the sun except what you’ve needed to focus on. Now, emotions are starting to even out, and the quiet stage of depression moves in like an unwelcome roommate. NOW WHAT?! To learn more on how to take control of your own trauma recovery journey, just go to www.GrowthFromDarkness.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/growthfromdarkness/message