Anyway, here's Wonderwall. On this episode we talk about a recent trip we took to the Great Salt Lake and what was good about it, and what went wrong and how that could have lead to hard feelings between us due to frustrations. We also laugh for several minutes straight over an unintended sexual innuendo, which I am still laughing about as I write this synopsis.

On today's episode we give a quick update on our last episode about how we have implemented our plans and if they're working. Then we get a little more light-hearted this week and get into our topic, which is advice we would give to our newlywed selves to make our marriage a little bit easier. We discuss things like school, work, money, Roseanne (the TV show), and sex with the lights on. We hope you enjoy!

On this episode we get deeply personal as we share a real discussion we had with each other over our sex life. We recorded our discussion just in case, and now we're being our bravest selves and posting it for all to hear the process as we communicate our concerns in a loving way and try to come up with solutions. Be prepared to hear more than you ever wanted to about the one problem that has plagued our relationship for almost its entirety. Listener discretion is advised.

On this weeks episode we talk about getting a new cat, an ER visit with our 12 year old daughter with a heart condition, and having a meltdown over not wearing a mask in a public place. Eventually we make our way to this weeks topic and discuss mom and dad shaming and unsolicited parental advice. We talk about what it means to shame other parents and give some examples of times when we've been shamed. We exchange some facts from studies about what people in your life are more likely to shame you over parenting choices, and we offer some tips and tricks to to let the shame slide off your back and not ruin your day. So if you've ever been shamed in the past for your parenting choices, or you enjoy telling others' what they're doing wrong, this episode is for you.

On this episode we talk about our year in review. We discuss how we managed to get through a tough year and why we had to rely on each other more than ever, what we learned while being stuck at home, and the things we have come to appreciate. And for some reason we also explain why Die Hard is apparently an aphrodisiac , so you'll definitely want to tune in to hear that.

On this episode we discuss our feelings about the Christmas tradition of the Elf on the Shelf and whether or not it is time to move on from it. By the end of the episode we actually make a definitive decision about if we will continue suffering over it, or finally let it go, so listen for that.

On this episode we talk about the gratitude that we have for each other, not only during the current pandemic, but especially during it. We tell each other specific things the other does for our family and our house that we appreciate. And finally we express our gratitude for the situation we are in, in which we are fortunate enough to get to stay home with our family all the time to try and protect our daughter from Covid-19.

On today’s episode we talk about how homeschooling is going, and Halloween costumes past and present. We discuss at length why we love having “couple” friends, and tell the story of an attempt to make friends while living in Boise. And finally we talk about why we love the relationships we have with our current group of friends and why it works for us. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (2:00) Our lives are very stressful right now. (4:30) We are trying to understanding of the struggle of our kids with homeschool because it’s not something we dealt with as kids, but we are all having a hard time. (6:15) We spent so much money on Halloween costumes. It should be a crime how much Halloween costumes cost. We switch off every other year with making costumes and buying costumes. (10:45) We reminisce about how costumes worked in our houses while growing up, including an awesome homemade costume Rochelle’s aunt made, and an embarrassing homemade pumpkin costume Scott threw together, plus our favorite childhood costumes. (14:45) Scott talks about fake Halloween blood being forbidden from at his house. (18:00) We discuss couple friends and why we love them. (20:00) We talk about how some of our couple friendships developed, and how we all have done stuff together for over a decade. (23:00) We had a few years while we lived in Boise when we couldn’t see our friends as much, so we had to try and make new friends, with disastrous results. (26:15) We explain why we were nervous to meet our friend’s soon to be wife, because there might not be chemistry with her, even though there was with him, and what ended up happening. (31:30) We think trying to find another couple to be friends with is similar to dating.

On this episode we briefly discuss Ivy’s clinic adventures, before diving into birth control. We talk about 12 different forms of birth control and how they work, and how well they work. We also talk about which ones we’ve had personal experience with. Obviously this episode gets into some things that may be offensive to some listeners, so listener discretion is advised. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (1:00) We had a long week due to our daughter going to the hospital every single day. (2:00) We explain some of the things Ivy had to do over the last week and some of the bittersweet results of the tests. (7:00) We talk about the one pretty shocking thing that came from all the tests. (12:40) This week we talk about some of the birth control options available. (13:15) IUD (inter uterine device), which is 99% effective. It can stay in place between 3 and 10 years. We actually got pregnant while on this form of birth control. (16:15) Scott is actually an IUD baby too! (17:20) Implant, which is also 99% effective and stays in place for up to 3 years. (19:00) Depo shot, which is 99% effective and lasts for 3 months. (20:15) Vaginal ring, which is 99% effective and is inserted in the vagina for 3 weeks out of the month. (20:55) Patch, which is 99% effective, and must be changed every week. (21:15) The pill, which is 99% effective, must be taken at the same time every day. We have experience with this one as well. It messed with Rochelle’s hormones, and we ended up pregnant because we couldn’t get the prescription filled. (24:15) Condoms, which are 98% effective, used each time you have sex. (25:15) Female condoms are 95% effective and works similarly to the regular condom. (26:10) Emergency contraception is either a pill or a copper IUD which prevents ovulation. It is not the same thing as an abortion. The effectiveness varies. (27:00) Spermicide is 82% effective, and is placed into the vagina immediately prior to sex. (27:35) Fertility awareness/family planning or the rhythm method is 76% effective and involves women tracking their cycle and figuring out the least and most likely times they would get pregnant. (28:00) The pull out method, which is only 73% effective and involves pulling the penis out of the vagina before ejaculation. (31:45) Rochelle goes on a mini rant about why birth control involves so much jumping through hoops for women and why “that shit’s crazy, man.”

On this episode we talk about celebrating our youngest child’s birthday, our daughter, Ivy’s clinical appointments at the children’s hospital, and the overwhelming and tough time we have been having this year. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (1:00) We talk briefly about Ivy’s clinical appointments. (5:45) Our youngest child is no longer a baby. We talk about all the great things about him. (10:30) We talk about a failed IUD, having a 5th kid when we weren’t quite ready and other shenanigans surrounding Rochelle’s final pregnancy. (14:00) We also discuss Rochelle’s tubal ligation and why Scott didn’t get a vasectomy. (15:15) Kids are the best, but simultaneously also the worst. (20:30) We are depressed over the death of Ruth Bader Ginsberg, and we have a hard time joking about this shit show of a year. (22:15) The silver lining of 2020 is Rochelle getting to quit her job at a local mechanic shop. (25:30) We talk about Rochelle’s meltdown due to being overwhelmed. (29:30) We talk about Echo asking us what a “Karen” is and other weird cultural references.