Gay Men Going Deeper
Gay Men Going Deeper
Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood
The Slow Fade: When We Ghost Without Ghosting
47 minutes Posted Nov 20, 2025 at 12:00 pm.
Gay Men Going Deeper: The Slow Fade
Why We're Always Ghosting
What Is The Slow Fade?
How To Deal With An Uncomfortable Relationship
What To Do About A faded Love Letter
What's The Slow Fade?
Gay Men Talk About Dating Apps
Matt on Slow Fade
In the Elevator With Real People
A Sense of Community With Neil Gaiman
The Fader and the Fade
The Signs That Someone Is Starting To Distance From You
When You're Not Enough, Do You Lash Out?
Fader: Being Honest With My Friends
The Slow Fade
Reno on His Heartbreak
Slow Fling
The Gay Men's Brotherhood
How to Deal With An Avoidant Partner
You Can't Force People To Tell You Things
Gaiman's Brotherhood
0:00
47:43
Download MP3
Show notes
Today we’re talking about The Slow Fade:  that slow, quiet drifting apart where the messages get shorter, the replies slower, and the energy shifts until one day…it’s just silence.
In this episode, we’re unpacking:
Why we quietly quit people instead of having real conversations
What’s actually happening beneath the surface for both sides — the Fader and the Fadee
Who deserves an explanation and who doesn’t 
What can we do instead of fading away 
If you’ve ever been on either side of The Slow Fade, this conversation will help you see what’s really going on underneath, and how to move through it with more clarity, courage, and integrity.
Today's Hosts:
Michael DiIorio - Join my weekly newsletter for deeper reflections and practical tools
Matt Landsiedel
Reno Johnston
Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes
- CONNECT WITH US -
Watch podcast episodes on YouTube
Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community
Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls
Follow us on Instagram | TikTok
Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com
- LEARN WITH US -
Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others.
Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame.
Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series.
Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.