It can be reasoned with every couple that the earliest influences on our sexuality are the household and societal sexual norms that we grow up with. This is unfortunate but the truth. If you were raised in a place where those around you, for religious or cultural reasons, feel that sex is bad or even dirty, you might suppress your own sexual exploration within your relationship. Sex is good and to be enjoyed freely within the confines of your marriage, but is that what our culture is teaching us? Listen in as Chris and Cindy fight against this societal normality we all live in with regards to sexuality and give their sexual perspectives on how they keep their intimacy at the forefront of their marriage!

It is a common theme in a relationship to date each other, but is it common in a marriage? We all hear this "do not stop dating each other" but what does this actually mean coming from a woman's viewpoint, and then throw the mans viewpoint on top of that. What do get? You get an FtupLife Podcast that jumps right into this topic. Listen in and grow your marriage, let Chris & Cindy help your relationship, especially when it comes to the ever popular cliché of dating one another in a marriage! We love our listeners so check us out on ftuplife.com and any and all feedback is welcome!

Here we go into the world of what each other likes to do, how we like to spend our time outside the relationship even? This would be called hobbies... or a lifestyle in that it is something each of you enjoy. The key is that hopefully these hobbies can overlap at times and be enjoyed together! Listen in and Chris and Cindy discuss their hobbies and how separated time on a consistent basis can lead into a rut in your marriage. The long hunting weekends over a period of 3-4 months that leads into fishing trips, or the long golf trips for men. My ladies are on the girl weekends and spending hours in the garden. It most certainly matters the time spent apart and the individuality needs to remain. The issue of the Rut can come from the consistent chose of being active in your hobbies vs being active in your marriage! Spend the same < or run the cup over > time and energy to have fun in your relationship! Watch your marriage improve... Check us out at ftuplife.com and enjoy! May it strengthen your marriage.

Here we go into the world of friendships, from couples to that person you have been friends with since middle school. There can be tension in your relationship when at times attempting to choose who to spend time with comes into play, is a an entire girls weekend necessary and for the woman is this something that is anticipated and looked forward to vs the man who looks forward to the golf week with the guys. The problem is not necessarily in the action but more in the possible anticipation of getting away from your spouse? Ouch.. are friends needed, of course, but who comes first. This is such a real conversation to have so listen in as Chris and Cindy tackle this issue, and explain how they deal with this in their ftuplife!

Living through your children is a popular analogy and has been thrown around for years. Why does it seem no one sees this in the relationship, hence the RUT that starts to form.... and make no mistake the longer the RUT holds onto your relationship the deeper it can be to climb out. Listen in and Chris & Cindy take this discussion into what some would consider offensive territory. As a man should we not pursue the woman, as a husband it is our responsibility to pursue our wives regardless of whether your son is the star quarterback, or your daughter is the star basketball player. Being a good parent does not translate in giving your everything for your child. Yes, be a great Dad, and yes, be a loving Mother, but the end game is the union between him and her, the husband and the wife. Comments, or feedback are always welcome! And pay attention at the end for new questions you can answer with your spouse, like an ice breaker "would you prefer window or isle seat?"

The RUT, that point which can come and go it seems at various times in your relationship to where there is just a DULL. Tell the truth and be honest here, has at any point in your marriage, in your relationship, that you have felt like you are just high fiving your partner on the way out the door. This happens to all couples as we are all busy. Busy with work perhaps, pursing your career coupled with this pressure to produce or provide something for the family. What about school, and the continuing education with the goal of again achieving a better job. Listen in and Chris and Cindy give you a full podcast of casting a vision of dedicated time for each other while in the midst of work, school, or kids and their activities even. This podcast allows an uninterrupted dedicated 2 minute segment per perspective coming from Cindy, and then Chris. How do they bring it back together although at times disagreeing on the subject? Stay tuned in all the way to end for some surprise 'Lets Get Deep' questions, and answer these off topic deep centered random questions with your partner.

Here we go! Listen in as Chris and Cindy dive into a new series they are calling 'The Rut'. This concept of couples practically falling into this dull in their relationship, and this can be happen based on numerous things going on in their lives. Why not begin the series with Growth. We all need need to be growing, both in the reflection of who we are individually, and as we relate to our partner in our relationship. So why is it that at times it seems one in the relationship is pushing, looking to better their outcomes either financially, or personally even, while yet their counterpart seems to be content, or worse idle. The insight offered up in the ftuplife podcast series by Chris & Cindy not only hit this topic straight forward as they both allow the other a solid 2 minute thought breakdown, but also how to bring it all back together. It can be hard to be patient, and offer up a compromise, when you feel as though you are the sole dreamer, that you are the only 1 who has the Vision of bigger, greater accomplishments. The question of "there has to more" falls heavily into the thought process, this desire to work and achieve, and build. How exciting when the couple is in this mindset together! Subscribe and listen in, comments and feedback are welcome. 

It must be noted that first and foremost having children is a blessing. Indeed happy is the man whose quiver is full. With this said how is that children play such an important and at times critical role in where the money goes in a marriage, in a relationship. Listen in as Chris & Cindy tackle this very issue and come at this from two points of view and how they bring it back together as a couple when it comes to spending money on your children. As in our culture there is a perception of parents living through their children; such as sports, even activities the child may be involved in. So as a married couple how do you deal with this. The stress pulling couples in all sorts of directions can be exhausting which opens the door for all kinds of possible problems, with money leading the way. What are your thoughts after listening, where do you fall on the spectrum of spending money on your children, the where and why? Do you and your spouse agree on the direction of the money being spent. Our goal is help couples, those in relationships, build a stronger connection, through compromise, but most importantly through faith. Chris & Cindy even through a little icing on the cake when discussing the idea of pets and where that takes couples financially? Interesting on where you may land on the idea of money and pets. Listen in, subscribe, and grow your relationship. 

So your InLaws, outside the premise of if you get along with them, or even like them? What happens when the relationship with your 'InLaws' involves the ever sensitive issue of money? Listen as Chris and Cindy take this difficult issue and dissect from both perspectives. Whether on the giving end or the receiving end of how money is distributed to or from your Inlaws, it can be difficult to manage! What happens when the circumstances dealing with your Inlaws is 1 sided in that your partner is pushing money in that direction. Family is always difficult and then throw money on top of that could greatly increase tension, if not bitterness. Give some feedback, and comment, as this podcast hits this issue straight on. There is always compromise, but how do you get there in your relationship with this issue?

Back in our Money series in an ftuplife with a focus on Debt. Coming into your relationship, what if your partner has debt? Does the amount of debt matter. Debt can be a very heavy burden and allot of tension will arise if not handled correctly. In our culture today of getting that quality education to better yourself what happens when you bring massive amounts of student loans into your relationship.  Even better, if your partner is just an excessive spender and their credit card balances are, shall we say full. Tough conversation to have but how do you handle this?