It has been a long, weary road to Election Day in the US. We are tired and mentally fragile. Our souls, brains, and bank accounts are hurting. COVID still rages on. Everything screams, IS THIS OVER YET??! Yeah. Same. If we're in a metaphorical boxing ring, we're insanely sweaty, one eye is puffed closed, and our center of gravity is compromised. So take a seat in the corner of the ring to regroup with Minji to process all the insanity, practice a little gratitude, and then get back in the ring.
Self-validation, where have you been our entire lives? How wonderful it is to actually LIKE yourself without having it followed up by guilt, shame, anxiety, or doubt. Seriously, those "feeling myself" moments are EVERYTHING. They can come in waves, they can come momentarily, but hopefully we're all on a path of increasing, genuine, lasting appreciation of who we are just as we are. BUT HOW DOES ONE GET THERE??? Far be it from us to tell you what your best way is. But we will share many personal thoughts, experiences, hijinks, self-critical judgments, epiphanies, truth bombs, and miracles that got us to where we are. In this episode, Minji sits down with her dear friend slash amazing photographer, blogger, and visual storyteller Melly Lee. Together they sift through their past rubble of feeling lost, disillusioned, disconnected, and hopeless, and how they came to have moments of feeling content and proud of who they are. They discuss everything from cognitive behavioral therapy to breath work (oh hai, Wim Hof) and Meyers Briggs assessments, accepting help from lifeline friends to helping ourselves through building daily habits and affirmations. Practical, spiritual, heart, soul, & mind unite!
1 hr 37 min
We are going THROUGH IT, y'all. 2020 elections. Politicians. Family drama. Financial instability. Racism. Romance..or lack, thereof. Self-criticism. Loneliness. Friendships. FOMO. Climate change. Earthquakes! Hurricanes! Masks. Anti-maskers. Debates. Vaccines. Unemployment. Bad skin. The endless glittering evil of social media. Zoom meetings. Fried nerves. Fragile immune systems. Happy moments. Plant babies. Guilt. Shame. Gratitude. Meditation. Working out. Therapy. Breathwork. Making future plans for a future that has no definitive indication of ever really happening. How's your 2020 going? Come sit down in this episode with Minji and the amazing, eloquent, hilarious Priska from Two Horny Goats Podcast. Together they discuss coping mechanisms, clear (and subtle) signs of burn out, re-strategizing what self-care means, and some deeper underlying issues that may be screaming for our attention. Bring some tea (or whiskey, whatever) & get comfortable. This year is NOT NORMAL, and will work through our struggles together.
1 hr 53 min
Many a hopeless romantic has walked around with the notion that things are or aren't "meant to be". That life, and certainly love, is a series of divinely coordinated ups and downs with a predetermined destination. Or is it like Forrest Gump says- who knows if we have a destiny or if we're all just floating around accidental like on a breeze? Maybe it's both. In this episode, MInji sits down with her friend, actor and stuntman Yoshi Sudarso to talk about love and fate. Yoshi shares his beautiful lifelong journey to love, marriage, and now baby(!!) with his wife Sarah. From meeting Sarah as a young boy and being smitten with her from afar to getting the actual real thing, there were many many twists and turns in between. Yoshi and Minji go in depth about his path of growing from infatuated kid to an adult who practices wisdom, courage, and free will to choose love with eyes wide open.
1 hr 41 min
How do you define a "friend"? Have you ever broken up with one? Or just drifted apart? Does ghosting apply here? Realized someone that used to be a best friend no longer is? Had an unrequited friend love? Friends means a lot to us at every phase in life from the time we're wee little ones. They support us in hard times, inspire us to be better, hold us accountable, cover for us in crisis mode, share secrets and strange interests, and see us through our best and our worst. And also.. friendships change. As we become adults, our priorities shift, we relocate, we gain new interests, meet new people. Making and maintaining meaningful friendships remains just as important to our well-being, but our connections evolve. To discuss one complex topic, Minji sits down with her friend, creative producer and alternative rapper Dan Matthews. Their friendship started and deepened over the years through collaborative projects in their community and then with intentional heart to hearts. In this open conversation, Dan breaks down his views on how people can fall under different categories of friend intimacy, and even how to deal with drifting apart over time and straight incompatibility. Celebration, rejection, bonding, jealousy, confusion, love, loyalty...FRIENDSHIP.
1 hr 30 min
If there's anything that 2020 has taught us thus far, it's that health is wealth, tomorrow is not guaranteed, community and connection keep us afloat, and there are crucial issues that require our humanity's conscious attention and action. Even for those who have been aware and passionate about activism, representation, and civic participation prior to 2020, this year is undeniably significant. Time feels both endless and fleeting, our energy is zapped, our nerves fragile, and stakes for both society and the planet are high. In this episode, Minji sits down with Commissioner & contributing #HateIsAVirus host Sam Hyun to talk about why and how this generational & global rally for action matters so much. They dive into their backgrounds, the importance of the 2020 Census + voting, and how Sam found his passion for politics through the inspiring bad@$$ leaders before him, including his strong Korean American mother. Sam sheds light on how embracing our identities can help us understand how our voices matter in big and small ways. We can take space, exercise our power, hold leaders accountable, demand better, take responsibility for our communities, become leaders and reimagine a better future. This one goes out to the millennial and zoomer generations who are now in full inheritance of guarding our future. We got this so let's handle it.
1 hr 41 min
For anyone going through a tough time, this one's for you. In this episode, Minji shares her thoughts on riding waves of pain and uncertainty during a genuine moment of inspired action. She sends you all her love and encouragement to get through your hard moments if and whenever you need. You've got this and we've got you.
(Warning: this episode includes content regarding suicide. If you are not in a good space to hear thoughts on this topic, we recommend listening at another time. Be well & take care of yourself.) We're getting into all our feelings in this one. In this episode, Minji shares the story, memory, & lessons learned from her first love, Jay. In celebration of his life & the lasting impact he made on her in the many years since they fell in love at church as 10-year-old kids, Minji reflects on some of her most beautiful & painful moments. She goes into the joyful innocence & heart awakening of a first love as well as the lasting friendship that also veered into unhealthy territory at times. She shares the process of losing him to suicide in 2018 & how that has shaped her until now. She hopes that in commemorating Jay, she can continue her healing while also helping others process their own pain & keep finding light at the end of their tunnels. September is National Suicide Prevention Month. We can all help #PreventSuicide. @800273TALK provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals at 1-800-273-TALK (8255). suicidepreventionlifeline.org #NPM19
1 hr 9 min
In the wise words of King Mufasa, you must REMEMBER WHO YOU ARE. And to supplement that very meta, very poetic guidance from an animated lion with a perfectly resonant voice, it's OK to be figuring out who & what that even means every single day. In this week's episode, Minji sits down with comedian/actor/director Lilan Bowden to talk about her twists & turns of becoming said comedian then actor and now director. This isn't a discussion talking shop about industry maneuvers (though that would be a great spin-off episode for later).. this is about being a geeky middle schooler dying for a training bra to fit in with her peers and being a grown a** woman who can fully own that she doesn't care to be "one of the guys" or subjecting herself to the torment of watching sports. Yeah, we said it. And if you're into it, good on you. :) Lilan shares her career wins expanding from guest appearance on Parks & Rec (whilst Minji screams) to becoming a series lead on Disney Channel's Andi Mack and recently taking the helm as director of a successful short film Becoming Eddie. They talk about the humility of being a perpetual student, stepping into power as a leader and learning to trust a team. Life is crazy, but it can be beautiful. Sometimes we just need reminders that we're all constantly at the drawing board, being challenged, getting thrown curve balls (like a horrible performance.. or a relationship ending...or a global pandemic), and just learning to make the best of it all.
1 hr 25 min
Time for a COVID mental/emotional/physical temperature check, fam. In this episode, we bring back Minji's friend, actor/stuntman/health professional Josh Han. Last time we sat down on First Of All, Josh shared his diagnosis with a shocking kidney autoimmune disease and coming to terms with his body taking a turn for the worse at a young age. In this homie catch up, Josh and Minji take stock of the mental, emotional, and spiritual aspects that are impacting their daily lives as COVID and general societal upheaval rages on. They talk about taking full responsibility of their bodies, minds, and souls while also accepting that there's sooo much that we just can't control. They also discuss the ways our feelings and emotions can deeply color our perceptions of reality, and even warp it to be something that it's not. Minji shares some helpful frameworks from therapy on "reality testing" and how she's learning to walk herself through moments of anxiety and pain. If you've been going through it like the rest of us have, this will hopefully serve as a reality check and a loving fist bump to keep fighting the good fight as we all level up.
1 hr 26 min