On this episode I am joined by Alisha Khalil. Alisha is a frequent Filled Up Cup collaborator and shares her personal experience with arranged marriages. Have you ever seen an episode of Married at First Sight or similar dating show and thought wouldn't it be so simple to have it all planned for you and just live happily ever after?!? Alisha shares her experiences of being raised in a family unit where her parents marriage was arranged and she also had an arranged marriage. It wasn't something that she wanted for herself but the immense pressure she felt to be the "perfect" daughter and not disappoint her family. We talk about generational trauma that can come along with following family traditions. Be Quiet: The Dismissal of Mental Health Issues in the South Asian Community - Filled Up CupTo read some of Alisha's reviews:Search Results for “alisha” - Filled Up CupAshley (@filledupcup_) • Instagram photos and videos

On this episode I am joined by Donna Andersen. Donna launched Lovefraud.com in 2005 after her disastrous marriage to a sociopath.  She has written all of the permanent content on Lovefraud and more than 1,100 blog posts. She has also written multiple books, created videos, conducted multiple online surveys and has presented research to the Society for the Scientific Study of Psychopathy. Donna also founded Lovefraud Continuing Education, which offers online courses for survivors and mental health professionals on identifying, escaping and recovering from sociopaths.She shares her personal experience about her husband defrauded her as well as many others out of a million dollars. She has been featured on some Investigation Discovery TV episodes. She also shares red flags to be aware of if you are dating someone who might be a sociopath as well as how to recover from these type of toxic relationships.We discuss her newest book: Senior Sociopaths – How to recognize and escape lifelong abusers.  It reveals that most sociopaths never stop their manipulative and deceptive behavior.  The common wisdom in the mental health field is that sociopaths “burn out” in their 40s and engage in less antisocial behavior. Several psychiatry textbooks directly state this. According to Donna’s research, it’s not true. Senior Sociopaths is based on surveys of 2,377 Lovefraud readers who described their experiences with sociopaths who were age 50 or older. The bottom line is that of the respondents who knew the sociopaths both before and after age 50, 91% said their behavior was just as bad or worse as they got older.Senior Sociopaths - How to recognize and escape lifelong abusers | Lovefraud | Escape sociopaths - narcissists in relationshipsCourses on escaping sociopaths, narcissists and relationship abuse - Lovefraud Continuing EducationDonna Andersen (@lovefraud.official) • Instagram photos and videosLovefraudLessons - YouTubeAshley (@filledupcup_) • Instagram photos and videosFilled Up Cup - Unconventional Self Care for Modern Women

I am joined by Dorsey Standish. Dorsey is a mechanical engineer, neuroscientist, and wellness expert who brings evidence-based mindfulness and emotional intelligence to clients worldwide. Dorsey has led science-based wellness programs for hundreds of companies, including Staples, Toyota, and American Airlines. Dorsey holds a master’s degree in Cognitive Neuroscience from University of Texas at Dallas and a bachelor’s degree in Mechanical Engineering from the University of Pennsylvania. Dorsey’s teachings draw on her training as a teacher of Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction through Brown University and deep experience on regular 7-day silent meditation retreats studying with master teachers.  She is also the  CEO of Mastermind Mediate which is a  Dallas-based mental wellness firm founded in 2016 to bring science-based brain training techniques to organizations nationwide. They are a 100% woman and LGBT owned business. They believe that if you change your thoughts, you can change your world. They empirically supported cognitive training programs harness the power of mindfulness and emotional intelligence to transform lives and corporations. Our world needs mindfulness and mental resiliency now more than ever. In a world of uncertainty, what is certain is each moment, each breath, and the ability for each person to find their own inner peace. They believe that in today's challenging, everchanging environment, Mastermind can help people manage uncertainty, connect with their own inner strength, and ultimately thrive in their personal and professional lives.We talk about the myths around mindfulness and simple ways that you can incorporate them into your home and work life. How to give yourself grace that a mindfulness practice can look and feel different daily and different techniques that can be used daily.  Mastermind offers both in person and virtual training sessions. About Mastermind | Mastermind Meditate - DallasMastermind | Workplace Wellness That Works (@mastermindmeditate) • Instagram photos and videosDorsey Standish - Mastermind Meditate - YouTubeDorsey Standish, MS (@dorseystandish) • Instagram photos and videosKelly McGonigal: How to make stress your friend | TED TalkMatt Killingsworth: Want to be happier? Stay in the moment | TED TalkAshley (@filledupcup_) • Instagram photos and videosFilled Up Cup - Unconventional Self Care for Modern Women

On this episode I am joined by Jillian Bice. Jillian is a personal growth mentor and is the CEO of Quantum Lifestyle Consulting. She is a former registered nurse and sales trainer, and backed by decades of knowledge of human potential and growth, she facilitates a 6 month online course called Thinking Into Results, taught by Bob Proctor of the Proctor Gallagher Institute.We talk about how Jillian had reached a place in her life where she was burned out and it took her version of rock bottom before she decided that she had to make a change and started on her journey to create a different path and was inspired to help others as well. She works on helping others clarify their goals, understand what controls your results and then to take action to get to where you want to go. Jillian Bice | PERSONAL GROWTH MENTOR (@quantumlifestyleconsulting) • Instagram photos and videosComing Soon (dynamitelifestyle.com)Filled Up Cup - Unconventional Self Care for Modern WomenAshley (@filledupcup_) • Instagram photos and videos

On this episode I am joined by Judy Gaman. Judy is an award winning Author and Public Speaker. She is the  CEO of Executive Medicine of Texas and the well-renowned host of the nationally syndicated, decade spanning Stay Young radio show and now the Stay Young, America! Podcast.We discuss her book: Love, Life and Lucille: Lessons Learned from a Centenarian. While writing a book on longevity, Judy interviewed Lucille, an elegant and spirited woman who had just recently turned 100. Lucille had the fashion and style of old Hollywood, but it was all hidden behind the doors of her assisted living center. What began as a quick meeting became a lasting friendship that transformed into an inseparable bond. Lucille brought incredible wisdom and great stories to the table, while Judy provided an avenue for excitement and new opportunities. Together, the two began living life to the fullest, and meeting the most interesting people along the way (including Suzanne Somers). But then Lucille’s life came to an end through unexpected and unfortunate circumstances—and the very first lesson she ever taught Judy proved to be the most important one of all.We discuss mentorship and friendship and how it is so important to be open to both relationships. Judy talks about a wonder teacher she had in high school that made such a positive impact on her life by just being himself and being a steady person in her life. The people that we can be a light for or the people that can be a light for us can truly not only impact our lives but can create a generational shift for entire families.We are both motherless daughters. We talk about our experience with grief and what it feels like to be a part of a club that no one really wants to join. Author | Judy Gaman - Author, Speaker, and Podcast Host | SouthlakeJudy Gaman | FacebookCEO | AUTHOR | SPEAKER (@judygaman) • Instagram photos and videosAshley (@filledupcup_) • Instagram photos and videosFilled Up Cup - Unconventional Self Care for Modern Women

On this episode I am joined by Scott Simon. Scott is a happiness entrepreneur, SYS founder, and author of Scare Your Soul: 7 Powerful Principles for Harnessing Fear and Living Your Most Courageous Life which was released in December, 2022.Scott is a sought-after speaker, meditation leader, and high-performance life coach, focusing primarily on creating flourishing lives after major changes such as divorce. Scott earned his BA from Skidmore College, an MA from Case Western Reserve University, and Certificates in Positive Psychology and Coaching from The Wholebeing Institute.  On this episode we discuss how Scott was a very shy and bullied child who really internalized his pain which led to in his youth trying to live an invisible life. He was stepping out of his comfort zone, after college going to teach English to Holocaust survivors, when he had a panic attack on the plane. To calm himself, he took out a spiral notebook and wrote a challenge to himself to do one thing a day that scared him. He acted on that challenge and a year later headed back to the United States a changed person. That year of daily challenges was something he aimed to continue to do and he did starting with publicly singing in front of a popular brunch spot. That challenge led to a viral moment on Facebook.We talk about how his daily challenges started inspiring others and became the Scare Your Soul movement. His movement is about inspiring others to take the small steps towards facing their fears and creating a community of others who support each other along the way.His book Scare Your Soul: 7 Powerful Principles for Harnessing Fear and Living Your Most Courageous Life has the tips to start your own journey, as well as a workbook to help you really implement these principles as well as stories from other people who have implemented these challenges into their own lives. Challenges + Courses - Scare Your SoulThe Book - Scare Your SoulScare Your Soul (@scareyoursoul) • Instagram photos and videosScare Your Soul | FacebookAshley (@filledupcup_) • Instagram photos and videosFilled Up Cup - Unconventional Self Care for Modern Women

On this episode I am joined by Dr. Joseph D Pianka. He is a Physician/Gastroenterologist and author of It's All In Your Head. He has been a board-certified practicing gastroenterologist in Portsmouth, Rhode Island, for over twenty years. A devout husband and father of three, he is also an avid surfer, snowboarder, fly-fisherman, and outdoor enthusiast. Combining his expertise pertaining to fitness and nutrition, his unique perspectives regarding psychology, faith, and self-motivation, and his love of athletics and pop culture, Pianka’s ultimate goal is to help as many people as possible who struggle to find motivation in regards to health and fitness.Medical providers are prone to dark moments, and life can be incredibly overwhelming. Pianka has personally always found ways to rise above his dark moments through his athletic hobbies and focus on family, but early in the COVID-19 pandemic, he fell into a spiral at the the prospect of being unable to care for those who depended on him. With a television announcing early statistics about pandemic mortality playing in the background while he learned that a significant portion of his practice—and ability to care for patients—was being restricted, he had an emotional breakdown. Facing physician burnout and depression, Pianka decided to sit down and write an outline about staying fit and healthy in a seemingly chaotic existence, and he kept writing until the sun came out (literally and metaphorically). What began as a simple reference guide for his patients, conceptualized prior to the COVID-19 pandemic, evolved into an unexpected second career as an inspirational writer.And, once it seemed possible after publication, he realized he wasn’t done yet: All of his proceeds from the book will be donated to Ukraine relief. This book is entirely about creating meaningful difference for others, and the people in the Ukraine are the most in need of help right now. “Profits that would mean little to me in the grand scheme of things may mean everything to some of them.” It’s All in Your Head was written directly for everyday individuals with busy lives and varied hobbies. Rather than another “how to” manual, it is a “why to” guide through the complicated space of fitness and nutrition. Incorporating the fundamental principles universal to successful diet and fitness programs and teaching self-motivation skills, It’s All in Your Head unlocks doors to previously unrecognized potential and the ability to maintain fitness dreams.We have an in depth conversation about his personal experience with burnout and what the pandemic has been like from a front line workers perspective. We talk about the warning signs to look for, ways to start making positive changes and what he knows helped him permanently change things both mentally and physically. Joseph D. Pianka, M.D. - PR by the Bookjoe_piankamd_author (@joe_piankamd_author) | TikTokJoseph Pianka (@author_josephpianka) • Instagram photos and videosAshley (@filledupcup_) • Instagram photos and videosfilledupcup_ (@filledupcup_) TikTok | Watch filledupcup_'s Newest TikTok Videos

On this episode I am joined by Kayoko Mitsumatsu. Kayoko is the founder of Yoga Gives Back. In the last fifteen years, Yoga Gives Back has spread globally with 150 Ambassadors who are yoga teachers sharing YGB’s mission with their communities as well as raising funds with their events. They support women and children in India through scholarships and micro-loans. They are working with the pad project to help make sustainable menstrual products readily available and build a digital center.YGB currently has an online auction filled with amazing travel opportunities, yoga classes, wellness products and more. It is currently expected to close on December 15th. You can bid on items here: Gala Auction 2022 (auctria.com)YogaGivesBack – To Mobilize the Global Yoga CommunityThe Pad Project Launched at NGO NISHTHA in West Bengal! - YouTubeYoga Gives Back | FacebookYoga Gives Back (@yogagivesback) • Instagram photos and videosFilled Up Cup - Unconventional Self Care for Modern WomenAshley (@filledupcup_) • Instagram photos and videos

On this episode I am joined by Julie Lythcott-Haims. She is the New York Times bestselling author of How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to a popular TED Talk. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. Her third book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, has been called a “groundbreakingly frank” guide to adulthood. TED has turned her book into a TED Course that is available now.Julie holds degrees from Stanford, Harvard Law, and California College of the Arts. She currently serves on the boards of Black Women’s Health Imperative, Narrative Magazine, and on the Board of Trustees at California College of the Arts. She serves on the advisory boards of LeanIn.Org, Sir Ken Robinson Foundation and Baldwin For the Arts. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her partner of over thirty years, their itinerant young adults, and her mother.On this episode we discuss adulting and why it is so challenging for some of us. We discuss helicopter parenting and how it has led young people to not feel as capable as they head into their adult years. We discuss her TED course and newest book, as well as her hotline that gives space to people to anonymously reach out to ask her questions about anything. Julie Lythcott-Haims (julielythcotthaims.com)Julie Lythcott-Haims | FacebookJulie Lythcott-Haims (@jlythcotthaims) • Instagram photos and videosJulie Lythcott-Haims | Speaker | TEDAshley (@filledupcup_) • Instagram photos and videos Filled Up Cup - Unconventional Self Care for Modern Women

I am joined by author and journalist Sheila Yasmin Mariker. Her debut novel, The Goddess Effect, was released October 1st. The Goddess Effect is a tongue and cheek look at the wellness industry. It follows 30-something Anita on a journey to find just how far she is willing to go to become her best self. Her work has been published in the New Yorker, the New York Times, the Economist, Fortune, Bloomberg Businessweek, Vogue, and many other publications.  Sheila began her career at ABC News. A native of New Jersey, she is a graduate of Cornellt University, where she studied history. She lives in Los Angeles with her husband. We talk about how different it was to step into the role of author after years of being a journalist. We talk about the wellness industry and why it was the perfect backdrop for Anita's experience. Anita, as well as a lot of other people didn't have her life figured out by the magic age we often associate with adulthood. We talk about societal pressures put on women and how we can change the narrative. Sheila Yasmin Marikar | Author & JournalistSheila Yasmin Marikar (@sheilaym) • Instagram photos and videosSheila Yasmin Marikar | FacebookAshley (@filledupcup_) • Instagram photos and videosFilled Up Cup - Unconventional Self Care for Modern Women