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mind you
Charlotte Cummings
You Want More. They Don't
12 minutes Posted Mar 22, 2026 at 5:00 am.
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You want more connection. They don’t.

And now you’re stuck in that quiet, painful in-between…
where you’re in a relationship, but still feeling alone.

In this Ask Charlotte episode, I’m unpacking one of the most common (and confronting) dynamics I see in counselling:
when one partner wants emotional connection, depth, and intimacy… and the other just doesn’t meet them there.

We’re talking about:

  • why this happens (and what’s actually underneath it)

  • the difference between a skill gap vs a willingness gap

  • how to communicate your need for connection without pushing them further away

  • what might be blocking your partner from showing up emotionally

  • how love languages can both help and confuse things

  • and the hard truth… when this becomes a dealbreaker

Because here’s the thing most people won’t say out loud:
you don’t have to stay in a relationship that consistently feels disconnected.

But before you make big decisions, there are things you can try.

This episode will help you get clearer on what’s really going on in your relationship,
what’s possible to change,
and what you actually need moving forward.

If you’ve ever thought:
“Why do I feel so alone when I’m not single?”
this one is for you.


🎧 And if you’re looking for a practical next step, my course Give Me 10 Minutes is designed for exactly this.
Short, guided audio sessions to help you both rebuild connection without having to fit in traditional therapy.