Based on research by psychologists, sociologists and sexologists from around the world.  Psychological research has shown that that 1 out of 6 people desire to engage in polyamory: In having an open relationship, in having a ménage a trois, in having a swapping arrangement with another couple, or in engaging in swinging. Why is there so much interest in these things? Research shows that there are sexual disadvantages of monogamy, including lower sexual desire and dysfunction. Recent research has found that women have a greater need than men for novel stimuli in order to maintain sexual arousal, and, without the introduction of new stimuli women’s sexual arousal is likely to diminish. Given that women habituate to their monogamous partners, it is not surprising that research has found that women (and men) in polyamorous relationships report high sexual satisfaction. For women who’ve been with their partners between one and four years, a dive begins — and continues, leaving male desire far higher.  Research shows that polyamorous relationships provide a space for women to exert sexual autonomy without risk of stigmatization. Surveys confirm that 97.5% of people participating in a polyamorous relationship feel that their life has improved overall because of it. Some data suggests that people participating in non-monogamous relationships may actually have an opportunity for more self-awareness and peace with their sexual needs than those in a monogamous relationship. Both swingers and polyamorists – the swappers, those in threesomes, and those in open relationships -- were around ten percentage points higher than the general population in responding that “Life is Close to Ideal” (67% vs. 57%) and ten percent lower in saying that they disagreed that their lives were close to ideal.“ Musical excerpts:  Sonate (pour Anita) (piano, Randolph Pitts) Concerto per pianoforte e orchestra (dedicato ad Anita deFrancesco) (piano, Randolph Pitts)

Would you rather be a giver or a receiver in Life and in Love?  In this episode Randolph and his special guest Anita DeFrancesco discuss Tantra, relationships, and pleasure; the psychology or giving and receiving; what it means to be romantic. Are you into friendship love or game playing love? Men and women and how they differ in love and in relationships. What it means to fall in love. The search for your True Flame. Anita DeFrancesco, MA, is a Somatic Orgonomy Psychotherapist, a two-time Award Winning Journalist, and a Love & Relationship Coach. She is the Founder of Tantra Wisdom - Kinepathics.  She is the host of the Discover Joyous Love series on YouTube and also of the Discover Joyous Love and It’s Your Voice Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music and elsewhere. She is the author of “Live Free – Recreate and Liberate Your Life” and “The Donna Gentile Story,” a true crime thriller. Mindfullness, Sexuality and Relationships: Anita’s mission is to educate people to enlightenment and awareness. To free the emotions from pain, learn to love more openly, express the hidden voice, and recreate a more purposeful, empowered and happy life; thus awakening from separation and suffering and embracing the modern world with oneness and love. her website is www.TantraWisdom.com Randolph Pitts holds Summa Cum Laude degrees in Social Psychology and Egyptology from the University of California Berkeley, and a Masters Degree in Motion Picture Production and Entertainment Law from UCLA. He has also done advanced research for the Department of Psychology at UCLA, concentrating on couples and relationships dynamics. He is a member of Phi Beta Kappa and the American Philosophical Association, the organization of university professors of Philosophy. He is also an associate member of the Los Angeles County Bar Association. Randolph has been a top executive at several entertainment companies, including a ten year stint as Chief Executive Officer of the company that produced Leaving Las Vegas for which Nicolas Cage won the Academy Award as best actor. He has a lifelong interest in the relationship between philosophy, psychology and history. He is the founder and host of the Explore Ecstatic Sensuality podcast.

What sort of person cheats, what causes a person to cheat, how to spot a  cheater. Then: Reactions and responses to cheating. Randolph Pitts holds Summa Cum Laude degrees in Social Psychology and  Egyptology from the University of California Berkeley, and a Masters  Degree in Motion Picture Production and Entertainment Law from UCLA.  He  has also done advanced research for the Department of Psychology at  UCLA, concentrating on couples and relationships dynamics.  He is a  member of Phi Beta Kappa and the American Philosophical Association, the  organization of university professors of Philosophy. He is also an  associate member of the Los Angeles County Bar Association.  Randolph  has been a top executive at several entertainment companies, including a  ten year stint as Chief Executive Officer of the company that produced  Leaving Las Vegas for which Nicolas Cage won the Academy Award as best  actor.  He has a lifelong interest in the relationship between  philosophy, psychology and history.  Randolph Pitts is a classical  composer and a novelist.  The first volume of his tetralogy of novels  already completed will be published in 2023.  He is the founder and host  of the Explore Ecstatic Sensuality podcast. Musical excerpts:  'Sonate pour Anita' (dedicated to Anita DeFrancesco) and 'Love (for three orchestras and large organ' (also dedicated to  Anita)

Is love one of the most supreme, most desirable experiences of human life? Carl Rogers proposed that receiving love in the form of unconditional positive regard was a crucial key to happiness and adjustment. Then Erich Fromm shifted the emphasis from receiving to giving, and proposed the learning the difficult “art of loving” was the essential thing that promised self-realization, emotional satisfaction, and fulfilling insights. Unrequited Love, or One-sided infatuation – in other words love that is not returned in the same form -- offers the ideal chance to separate and examine independently the two phenomena – loving and being loved – since in Unrequited Love one person gives love and the other is loved. Perhaps neither loving nor being loved is enough. Only when they are combined in a relationship is there a significant chance for happiness. Randolph Pitts holds Summa Cum Laude degrees in Social Psychology and Egyptology from the University of California Berkeley, and a Masters Degree in Motion Picture Production and Entertainment Law from UCLA. He has also done advanced research for the Department of Psychology at UCLA, concentrating on couples and relationships dynamics. He is a member of Phi Beta Kappa and the American Philosophical Association, the organization of university professors of Philosophy. He is also an associate member of the Los Angeles County Bar Association. Randolph has been a top executive at several entertainment companies, including a ten year stint as Chief Executive Officer of the company that produced Leaving Las Vegas for which Nicolas Cage won the Academy Award as best actor. He has a lifelong interest in the relationship between philosophy, psychology and history. Randolph Pitts is a classical composer and a novelist. The first volume of his tetralogy of novels already completed will be published in 2022. He is the founder and host of the Explore Ecstatic Sensuality podcast. Musical excerpt: Der Schatten eines Traumes, inspired by the writings of Walter Benjamin, Christoph Friedrich Heinle, Gilles Deleuze, Ingeborg Bachmann and Karoline von Günderrode.

In this episode we discus Carl Jung's idea of "The Animus and The Anima" and our alternative to it; Male Orgasm and its importance for solidifying a relationship; Sex and Yoga; The Chakras, what they are and their relationship to psi (psychic) powers; and the havoc that shame and poor self-esteem can wreak on relationships, and how these negative mental states should be replaced by Self-Love. Novelist, composer, linguist, research psychologist, entertainment company Chief Executive Officer, artist and film producer Randolph Pitts provides an in depth analysis of topics crucial to our understanding of love, intimacy, happiness and relationships. Randolph Pitts holds Summa Cum Laude degrees in Social Psychology and Egyptology from the University of California Berkeley, and a Masters Degree in Motion Picture Production and Entertainment Law from UCLA. He has also done advanced research for the Department of Psychology at UCLA, concentrating on couples and relationships dynamics. He is a member of Phi Beta Kappa and the American Philosophical Association, the organization of university professors of Philosophy. He is also an associate member of the Los Angeles County Bar Association. Randolph has been a top executive at several entertainment companies, including a ten year stint as Chief Executive Officer of the company that produced Leaving Las Vegas for which Nicolas Cage won the Academy Award as best actor. He has a lifelong interest in the relationship between philosophy, psychology and history. Randolph Pitts is a classical composer and a novelist. The first volume of his tetralogy of novels already completed will be published in 2022. He is the founder and host of the Explore Ecstatic Sensuality podcast. Our first experience is a sensual experience, but as we live we become closed off to sensuality, to our bodies and to the joys of being embodied. Instead, guided by philosophy, psychology and embodied spirituality, we can open ourselves to transcendent sensuality which will elevate our relationships, sexual and otherwise, to entirely new and ever-expanding levels. There is no finitude. There are no limits. The underlying energy of all universes can and should fuel our creativity so that each of us may be a beacon of love, sensuality, caring, compassion, and truth. Musical excerpts: Sonate pour Anita (2020) Love (dedicated by Anita DeFrancesco, for three orchestras and large organ)

This episode traces misogyny back to its origins and then on through western religions and cultures.  Ancient Egyptian deities represent natural and social phenomena, as well as abstract concepts. The beliefs and rituals surrounding these gods formed the core of ancient Egyptian religion, which emerged sometime in prehistory. These gods and goddesses appear in virtually every aspect of ancient Egyptian civilization, and more than 1,500 of them are known by name. Maʽat refers to the ancient Egyptian concepts of truth, balance, order, harmony, law, morality, and justice.  Ma'at was the goddess who personified these concepts, and regulated the stars, seasons, and the actions of both mortals and of the deities who had brought order from chaos at the moment of creation.  The earliest surviving written reference to Ma’at was in the texts found in the Pyramid of Unas, dated to two thousand three hundred seventy-five BC, however it is certain that belief in her, and the principles which she embodied, went back into prehistory. Ma’at, it should be noted, was not a “fertility goddess” or a “mother goddess.” Instead she the feminine principle of truth, balance, order, harmony law, morality and justice. To put it another way, for the Egyptians these were feminine principles. Randolph Pitts holds Summa Cum Laude degrees in Social Psychology and Egyptology from the University of California Berkeley, and a Masters Degree in Motion Picture Production and Entertainment Law from UCLA.  He has also done advanced research for the Department of Psychology at UCLA, concentrating on couples and relationships dynamics.  He is a member of Phi Beta Kappa and the American Philosophical Association, the organization of university professors of Philosophy. He is also an associate member of the Los Angeles County Bar Association. Randolph has been a top executive at several entertainment companies, including a ten year stint as Chief Executive Officer of the company that produced Leaving Las Vegas for which Nicolas Cage won the Academy Award as best actor.  The first volume of his tetralogy of novels will be published in 2023. He has a lifelong interest in the relationship between philosophy, psychology and history. He is the founder and host of the Explore Ecstatic Sensuality podcast. Musical Excerpts: Sonate pour Anita, Der Schatten eines Traumes

In this episode we discuss Love at first sight; Attraction and Attractiveness; French Psychoanalyst Jacques Lacan's ideas about Desire and Love; how we make Mental Representations (with reference to the philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer); and Marriage vows and Death.  Randolph Pitts holds Summa Cum Laude degrees in Social Psychology and Egyptology from the University of California Berkeley, and a Masters Degree in Motion Picture Production and Entertainment Law from UCLA. He has also done advanced research for the Department of Psychology at UCLA, concentrating on couples and relationships dynamics. He is a member of Phi Beta Kappa and the American Philosophical Association, the organization of university professors of Philosophy. He is also an associate member of the Los Angeles County Bar Association. Randolph has been a top executive at several entertainment companies, including a ten year stint as Chief Executive Officer of the company that produced Leaving Las Vegas for which Nicolas Cage won the Academy Award as best actor. He has a lifelong interest in the relationship between philosophy, psychology and history. Randolph Pitts is a classical composer and a novelist. The first volume of his tetralogy of novels already completed will be published in 2022. He is the founder and host of the Explore Ecstatic Sensuality podcast. These presentations are also available as podcasts on Apple, Spotify and Google Podcasts.  Musical excerpts:  Sonate pour Anita (dedicated to Anita DeFrancesco), 2020 Concerto per Pianoforte e Orchestre (dedicated to Anita DeFrancesco), 2021  Our first experience is a sensual experience, but as we live we become closed off to sensuality, to our bodies and to the joys of being embodied. Instead, guided by philosophy, psychology and embodied spirituality, we can open ourselves to transcendent sensuality which will elevate our relationships, sexual and otherwise, to entirely new and ever-expanding levels. There is no finitude. There are no limits. The underlying energy of all universes can and should fuel our creativity so that each of us may be a beacon of love, sensuality, caring, compassion, and truth.

Our first experience is a sensual experience, but as we live we become closed off to sensuality, to our bodies and to the joys of being embodied. Instead, guided by philosophy, psychology and embodied spirituality, we can open ourselves to transcendent sensuality which will elevate our relationships, sexual and otherwise, to entirely new and ever-expanding heights. There is no finitude. There are no limits. The underlying energy of all universes can and should fuel our creativity so that each of us may be a beacon of love, sensuality, caring, compassion, and truth. In addition to The Best Ways to Learn about Love and Sensuality, this episode also discusses Animism and Pantheism; Kindness and Cruelty, Jesus and the Gospel of Q (Sayings Gospel); Stories; Time; Strength and Power; Gender] and Death this Short Takes 3 also includes observations on Religion, Civilization, the Context in which we exist in contemporary society, and Masculinity and Femininity. Randolph Pitts holds Summa Cum Laude degrees in Social Psychology and Egyptology from the University of California Berkeley, and a Masters Degree in Motion Picture Production and Entertainment Law from UCLA. He has also done advanced research for the Department of Psychology at UCLA, concentrating on couples and relationships dynamics. He is a member of Phi Beta Kappa and the American Philosophical Association, the organization of university professors of Philosophy. He is also an associate member of the Los Angeles County Bar Association. Randolph has been a top executive at several entertainment companies, including a ten year stint as Chief Executive Officer of the company that produced Leaving Las Vegas for which Nicolas Cage won the Academy Award as best actor. He has a lifelong interest in the relationship between philosophy, psychology and history. Randolph Pitts is a classical composer and a novelist. The first volume of his tetralogy of novels already completed will be published in 2022. He is the founder and host of the Explore Ecstatic Sensuality podcast. Musical excerpts: “Sonate pour Anita” (dedicated to Anita DeFrancesco) “Der Schatten eines Traumes Teil 8 -- Erfüllte Sehnsucht“ (The Shadow of a Dream – Fulfilled Longing) The night becomes colorless and the shadow is silent Still heart, do not tell anyone that the morning will rise, a flicker around it, as if a lake was billowing there. Fragrances waft gently, as if from tender pain. I want to hide so that nothing will guess me -- So that only the wind blows into my silence -- So that only the rain runs down my window. Within are all the sighs of my sisters. Christoph Friedrich Heinle (1894 – 1914) (Wenige Tage nach Ausbruch des Ersten Weltkriegs und wahrscheinlich aus Verzweiflung über dessen vorhergesehene Folgen nahmen sich Christoph Friedrich Heinle und seine Freundin Friederike (Rika) Seligson durch Gas das Leben.)

In this episode host Randolph Pitts recounts true stories of how what begins as Love can end in Pain. Our first experience is a sensual experience, but as we live we become closed off to sensuality, to our bodies and to the joys of being embodied. Instead, guided by philosophy, psychology and embodied spirituality, we can open ourselves to transcendent sensuality which will elevate our relationships, sexual and otherwise, to entirely new and ever-expanding levels. There is no finitude. There are no limits. The underlying energy of all universes can and should fuel our creativity so that each of us may be a beacon of love, sensuality, caring, compassion. Randolph Pitts holds Summa Cum Laude degrees in Social Psychology and Egyptology from the University of California Berkeley, and a Masters Degree in Motion Picture Production and Entertainment Law from UCLA.  He has also done advanced research for the Department of Psychology at UCLA, concentrating on couples and relationships dynamics.  He is a member of Phi Beta Kappa and the American Philosophical Association, the organization of university professors of Philosophy. He is also an associate member of the Los Angeles County Bar Association. Randolph has been a top executive at several entertainment companies, including a ten year stint as Chief Executive Officer of the company that produced Leaving Las Vegas for which Nicolas Cage won the Academy Award as best actor.  The first volume of his tetralogy of novels will be published in 2022. He has a lifelong interest in the relationship between philosophy, psychology and history. He is the founder and host of the Explore Ecstatic Sensuality podcast. Love and Pain; Trust Musical excerpts: Sonate pour Anita (2020) Der Schatten Eines Traumes (The Shadow of a Dream) 2019 My recommendation for psychotherapy and relationship counseling: Anita DeFrancesco www.anitadefrancesco.com www.tantrawisdom.com

A brief discussion of what people mean by "dating" and the different ways in which women and men approach the idea of the purpose of "going on a date" and of what a date should consist of.  We also consider the need of (as we say) finding a premise for a relationship. (To be continued in future episodes.)   Randolph Pitts holds Summa Cum Laude degrees in Social Psychology and Egyptology from the University of California Berkeley, and a Masters Degree in Motion Picture Production and Entertainment Law from UCLA. He has also done advanced research for the Department of Psychology at UCLA, concentrating on couples and relationships dynamics. He is a member of Phi Beta Kappa and the American Philosophical Association, the organization of university professors of Philosophy. He is also an associate member of the Los Angeles County Bar Association. Randolph has been a top executive at several entertainment companies, including a ten year stint as Chief Executive Officer of the company that produced Leaving Las Vegas for which Nicolas Cage won the Academy Award as best actor. The first volume of his tetralogy of novels will be published in 2022. He has a lifelong interest in the relationship between philosophy, psychology and history. He is the founder and host of the Explore Ecstatic Sensuality podcast. Musical excerpts:  "Sonate pour Anita" (2019, Dedicated to Anita DeFrancesco)                             "A Cabaret for Cesare Pavese" (2018)