Everything Always
Everything Always
Michael and Summer Mulder
We got married with children, together we have 4 kids! We want to share what works for us and what doesn't. For step-parents, co-parents, marriage, being your best self, managing work, family, friends & health... we're going to talk about everything, always.
Everything Always Episode 100: We’re Back!
It’s been a year since we last released an episode, and we’re so excited to say that we’re back! The past year has brought many ups and downs, all of which we will be sharing with you in this episode. We will be explaining what we’ve been up to, a refresh on why we’ve created this podcast in the first place, and a sneak peek at what you can expect to hear in the coming weeks.Listen in as we describe our exciting new family member and why we don’t share certain personal aspects of our lives online. You will learn why we’re so passionate about sharing our experience with divorce and blending families, why we never bring our children into our adult matters, and so much more. 00:50 - 4:30 - Why we went off the air for a year. 4:30 - 10:55 - Our exciting new family member. 11:47 - 14:25 - Why we don’t get as personal on this podcast. 15:00 - 21:00 - What made us start this podcast in the beginning. 21:00 - 25:30 - The importance of finding help and support if you’re feeling unsure about how to get through divorce. 25:30 - 31:00 - What we plan on talking about on this show in the future.   Takeaways: Where we’ve been. The importance of keeping certain things private. The struggles that come along with blending a family. Why it is essential to be open to new ideas. Why you should never bring your children into divorce-related issues. Quotes: “Having a dog is as much—if not more—work than having a child.” - Mike “We’re not experts. We’re just people trying to figure it out.” - Mike “We’re not going to talk poorly about people in the family.” - Summer   3 Interesting Clips: 12:45 - 13:30 - Why we don’t share everything about our lives on this podcast. 16:00 - 16:40 - Why we’re so passionate about this podcast and sharing our knowledge on this topic. 18:20 - 19:30 - The importance of keeping your divorce-related issues away from your children. Links: Text us: 760-389-3722 Send us an anonymous letter Subscribe & Review on Apple Podcasts! Are you subscribed to our podcast? If not, we would strongly suggest you do. This way you won’t miss a thing! Subscribe here: Everything Always And now for the pretty please with a Bordeaux Maraschino Cherry on top. We would be so incredibly grateful if you left us a review on for Everything Always as well. This will help other parents and families like you find our podcast. Plus, it’s fun for Mike and I to sit and read them together on date night! Just click here, click open in Apple, select “Ratings and Reviews”, tell us your favorite moment and best take away and we will send a huge cyber hug and kiss right to you! Find the Everything Always Podcast wherever you listen! Apple Podcasts  acast Pocketcasts ListenNotes Spotify player.fm
Jul 14, 2022
32 min
Everything Always Episode 99: Our Anniversary!
You probably guessed by the episode title that today is our anniversary! July is a big month: it’s Summer’s birthday month, we celebrate Independence Day, and the best part of July is the day that we celebrate our commitment to each other. In this episode, we’re reminiscing about the past and sharing how our relationship has grown stronger over the years despite the many challenges and obstacles that life has sometimes thrown our way. We are also divulging our biggest piece of advice for other couples to remember when times are hard - because even the strongest relationships experience hardship, but it’s in the adversity that we can really grow together. 2:00 - 3:00 - Why we love July. 3:00 - 4:04 - Reminiscing about the past. 4:05 - 7:59 - What is the biggest difference between being married and dating? 8:00 - 11:39 - Adversity makes you stronger together. 11:40 - 16:44 - Summer’s favorite all-time family memory. 16:45 - 20:27 - Our advice for pushing through those hard times.   Takeaways: July is the best month. Perspective is everything. Embrace adversity. Love grows exponentially.  Make time to be together. Quotes: “The longer I’m with you, the more I like you.” - Mike “Adversity makes you stronger.” - Mike “Those moments when everyone is disconnected but so connected to each other makes you feel so warm and fuzzy and puts perspective on all the things that we have gone through.” - Summer    3 Interesting Clips: 8:55 - 9:25 - Our love grows deeper and stronger with every challenge thrown our way. 14:00 - 14:40 - The importance of putting things into perspective. 18:00 - 18:20 - Make your relationship a priority, always.   Links: Everything Always Episode 02: The Story of Us. The Story of You. Text us: 760-389-3722 Send us an anonymous letter   Subscribe & Review in iTunes! Are you subscribed to our podcast? If not, we would strongly suggest you do. This way you won’t miss a thing! Subscribe here: Everything Always And now for the pretty please with a Bordeaux Maraschino Cherry on top. We would be so incredibly grateful if you left us a review on for Everything Always as well. This will help other parents and families like you find our podcast. Plus, it’s fun for Mike and I to sit and read them together on date night! Just click here, click open in iTunes, select “Ratings and Reviews”, tell us your favorite moment and best take away and we will send a huge cyber hug and kiss right to you! Find the Everything Always Podcast wherever you listen! Apple Podcasts (iTunes) acast Pocketcasts ListenNotes Spotify player.fm
Jul 1, 2021
20 min
Everything Always Episode 98: When Your Partner is Fighting with Their Ex Over the Kids
Your family needs you at your best, but when conflict creeps in between your partner and their ex, it has a tendency to wind you up tight and cause all kinds of frustration and anxiety. So how can this be avoided? And how do you, as a step-parent, know where to draw the line when it comes to your involvement? In this episode, I will be talking about what you can do in these situations, what we have done, and what step-parents are not responsible for doing. This is a one-on-one session, just me and you, where you’ll get a better understanding of what you can control, what you can’t control, and how to show up for yourself and others in the best way. My ultimate goal is to let you know that you’re not alone and that you shouldn’t be full of guilt and anxiety over these situations. After this episode, you will be able to breathe a little easier and have more clarity on what you can and cannot do as a step-parent. 2:20 – 4:22 – A thank-you from me to you. 4:23 – 5:57 – Why I’m talking about step-parent issues 5:58 – 10:45 – The disruption that conflict has on you and your family. 10:46 – 14:04 – What you can’t control. 14:05 – 21:17 – What you can do. 21:18 – 25:55 – The most important influence you have. 25:56 – 28:29  – How to bring positivity and perspective. 28:30 – 38:05 – The opportunity that comes with hard times.   Takeaways: How you are brought down, even by things that have nothing to do with you. Why you can’t change another person’s behavior. Why focusing on you will help you show up better for others. How to contribute to the situation without going too far. Why you should embrace challenges and treat them as opportunities for unity.   Quotes: “If you are the step-parent and your partner is going through an icky, terrible mess, even if you think it is about you, it really isn’t.” - Summer “You’re probably putting an overwhelming amount of pressure on yourself thinking that somehow you can control all of these outcomes, but all of these outcomes have little to do with you.” - Summer “Be that sounding board for the anger or venting without inserting your judgment unless asked—and sometimes not even then!” - Summer 3 Interesting Clips: 5:05 – 5:29 – An important reminder about being a step-parent. 11:44 – 12:24 – Your role in changing other people’s behavior. 14:35 – 15:12 – The importance of a clear head.   Links: Text us: 760-389-3722 Send us an anonymous letter Subscribe & Review in iTunes! Are you subscribed to our podcast? If not, we would strongly suggest you do. This way you won’t miss a thing! Subscribe here: Everything Always And now for the pretty please with a Bordeaux Maraschino Cherry on top. We would be so incredibly grateful if you left us a review on for Everything Always as well. This will help other parents and families like you find our podcast. Plus, it’s fun for Mike and I to sit and read them together on date night! Just click here, click open in iTunes, select “Ratings and Reviews”, tell us your favorite moment and best take away and we will send a huge cyber hug and kiss right to you! Find the Everything Always Podcast wherever you listen! Apple Podcasts (iTunes) acast Pocketcasts ListenNotes Spotify player.fm
Jun 24, 2021
38 min
Everything Always Episode 97: Balancing Business and a Blended Family with Karyn Glemaud
Bringing a new person into your child’s life can be confusing and difficult for both you and your child, but there are ways to do it with love and understanding. Karyn Glemaud joins us on the show today to give us some great ideas for how to make the blending process go more smoothly from the start of dating all the way through marriage and moving in together. Karyn is an entrepreneur, student, and children’s book author who co-wrote a book with her son. She shares from her own experience in a very blended family and discusses how she encourages communication, listening, and empathy—but also firmness through the whole process. You will also get to hear about why she decided to write a book and the impact of this book on her own blending experience. 1:40 – 3:50 – Who Karyn is and her experience in business and writing about a blended family. 3:51 – 8:49 – Why she decided to move to New Zealand and write a book with her son. 8:50 – 11:07 – Insight on when and how to introduce your children to someone new. 11:08 – 14:39 - The importance of sharing relationships the right way. 14:40 – 24:44 – How to make sure everyone feels important and valued in a blended family. 24:45 - 30:49  – How to deal with the pressure of business, a busy life, and guilt while handling a blended family. 30:50 – 33:54 – The learning curve of business success and blending families. 33:55 – 38:48 – Where to find Karyn's book and other resources.   Takeaways: Figuring out the timing of allowing children to meet a new partner. The importance of location. Why it’s key to listen to the child’s feelings but also stand firm. How to ensure everyone feels valued. Handling the guilt and pressure that comes with being a mom and a business owner.   Quotes: “I encourage people to not be afraid and to lead with love.” - Karyn “Ultimately, I think it’s important for you to find love and be able to share that with your children. Your children should see a good example of a loving relationship.” - Karyn “There’s no right answer, and every child will respond differently.” - Summer 3 Interesting Clips: 6:09 – 6:30 – How her son became her co-author. 9:42 – 10:24 – Validating your child’s feelings while still being firm. 11:12 – 11:45 – The importance of being an example and sharing the right things with your children.   Links: Karyn Glemaud: Website | Facebook Mommy’s New Friend by Karyn Glemaud Text us: 760-389-3722 Send us an anonymous letter Subscribe & Review in iTunes! Are you subscribed to our podcast? If not, we would strongly suggest you do. This way you won’t miss a thing! Subscribe here: Everything Always And now for the pretty please with a Bordeaux Maraschino Cherry on top. We would be so incredibly grateful if you left us a review on for Everything Always as well. This will help other parents and families like you find our podcast. Plus, it’s fun for Mike and I to sit and read them together on date night! Just click here, click open in iTunes, select “Ratings and Reviews”, tell us your favorite moment and best take away and we will send a huge cyber hug and kiss right to you! Find the Everything Always Podcast wherever you listen! Apple Podcasts (iTunes) acast Pocketcasts ListenNotes Spotify player.fm
Jun 17, 2021
38 min
Everything Always Episode 96: Surviving Divorce with Kate Anthony
Being in a blended family and dealing with an ex that puts a strain on your marriage is something a lot of people deal with. In this episode, Kate Anthony joins the show to share her insight on surviving divorce and making key decisions that will help you deal with exes, a difficult second marriage, blending for a second time and more. She has helped women all around the world to make the most difficult decision of their lives and transition out of toxic marriages. If you are trying to decide whether to heal your relationship or find a way out, Kate has an incredible way of putting things in perspective and shares key steps you should take in order to make a wise and thoughtful decision. Kate talks about things that a lot of us might not want to own up to and it’s so important to hear that and learn from that. She pulls from her own experience along with that of those she has coached and you will be able to gain some incredible insight from that. 6:34 – 9:12 – The "should I stay or should I go" conversation and how common it is for even 2nd & 3rd marriages. 9:13 – 14:59 – Kate’s experience in a volatile abusive marriage and what brought her to helping other people through divorce. 15:00 – 21:25 – Dealing with a dramatic ex and an interesting situation she got herself into with her ex. 21:26 – 27:02 - What the shifting of primary is and how to embrace and recognize it. 27:03 – 24:05 – Making things smoother for the kids and what it takes to get there. 24:06 – 41:25 – How to think clearly in a stressful state and make the best decision for yourself and others. 42:26 – 48:24 – The importance of knowing yourself well and how that effects our relationships. 48:25 – 56:03 – How to not drag your kids through the mud while you’re going through relationship problems. 56:04 – 1:02:06 – Do kids deserve to know the truth about the divorce?   Takeaways: How to know when to stick it out when it comes to a second marriage becoming rocky. The importance of doing the healing work and taking responsibility for your decisions. Advice on how to decide whether to blend a whole new family (the second time around). Overstepping boundaries when it comes to the ex and their new partner. The importance of navigating family dynamics with the kids in mind.   Quotes: “You can sign the papers but it doesn’t mean anything if you keep up a relationship that continues the dynamic.” - Kate “This person may be a total a**hole but you picked the a**hole.” - Kate “If you’re waiting for the other shoe to drop, it probably will. So protect yourself and have those boundaries.” - Kate   3 Interesting Clips: 4:15 – 5:20 – A little (important) secret that Kate and Summer share. 7:00 – 7:36 – The reality of 2nd divorces and having to blend again. 14:01 – 14:43 – How to make sure you don’t make the same mistakes over and over.   Links: Kate Anthony: Website | Blog | Instagram | Facebook Community The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast Text us: 760-389-3722 Send us an anonymous letter Subscribe & Review in iTunes! Are you subscribed to our podcast? If not, we would strongly suggest you do. This way you won’t miss a thing! Subscribe here: Everything Always And now for the pretty please with a Bordeaux Maraschino Cherry on top. We would be so incredibly grateful if you left us a review on for Everything Always as well. This will help other parents and families like you find our podcast. Plus, it’s fun for Mike and I to sit and read them together on date night! Just click here, click open in iTunes, select “Ratings and Reviews”, tell us your favorite moment and best take away and we will send a huge cyber hug and kiss right to you! Find the Everything Always Podcast wherever you listen! Apple Podcasts (iTunes) acast Pocketcasts ListenNotes Spotify player.fm  
Jun 10, 2021
1 hr 2 min
Everything Always Episode 95: Teaching vs. Learning with Kelsey Komorowski
A lot of our episodes are focused around the challenges that come with being part of a blended family and parenting, but today we’re doing a bit of a shift. In this episode, we're diving into what our children learn in school, how they learn in school, and how we can encourage them to realize their potential. We’ll be talking with an expert, Kelsey Komorowski, about the difference between teaching vs. learning and how we can ensure that we’re putting our children in the best position to truly learn. Listen in as Kelsey discusses how we as parents can foster increased engagement and foster a stronger ability to learn in our children. She shares some of the key issues kids tend to have when it comes to actually learning and how their learning environment has a huge effect on that. Kelsey has a fascinating perspective on education, and we think that any parent will really enjoy this episode and get a lot of valuable information from it. 5:52 – 10:56 - The importance of paradigm shifts and why Kelsey stepped into the education space. 10:57 – 13:09 - What we can do as parents to encourage more effective learning and excitement for learning in our children. 13:10 – 14:23 - How Komo Consulting works with teachers to bridge the gap between classroom teaching and at-home learning. 14:24 – 20:59 - The reasons families want to work with Komo Consulting and the transformations that come from that. 21:00 – 33:41 - How the transformations actually happen and how parents can facilitate change. 33:42 – 47:16 - The feelings that happen when we are learning and how to teach problem-solving, resilience, and confidence. Takeaways: Why we need to focus on the things that get kids excited. Why parents need to be taught alongside and as well as their kids. The importance of understanding what skill-building really is. Why we need to re-think the role of educators, teachers, and ourselves as parents. How we’re able to help our kids realize how much potential they have. Quotes: “There’s an assumption that being taught to in the classroom equates to learning, and that’s just not true.” - Kelsey “You can be the best teacher in the world, but if the student isn’t tapped into themselves as a learner, it’s not going to matter.” - Kelsey “It doesn’t matter what you’re being taught—what’s important is what you’re learning.” - Kelsey 3 Interesting Clips: 11:50 – 12:54 - What school is for and how we should view it. 17:45 – 18:35 - The problem of identity and grades. 23:21 – 24:22 - Why student achievement is greatly shaped by household dynamics. Links: Kelsey Komorowski Komo Consulting Text us: 760-389-3722 Send us an anonymous letter Subscribe & Review in iTunes! Are you subscribed to our podcast? If not, we would strongly suggest you do. This way you won’t miss a thing! Subscribe here: Everything Always And now for the pretty please with a Bordeaux Maraschino Cherry on top. We would be so incredibly grateful if you left us a review on for Everything Always as well. This will help other parents and families like you find our podcast. Plus, it’s fun for Mike and I to sit and read them together on date night! Just click here, click open in iTunes, select “Ratings and Reviews”, tell us your favorite moment and best take away and we will send a huge cyber hug and kiss right to you! Find the Everything Always Podcast wherever you listen! Apple Podcasts (iTunes) acast Pocketcasts ListenNotes Spotify player.fm
Jun 3, 2021
47 min
Everything Always Episode 94: Raising Other People’s Children with Debbie Ausburn
If you’re a step-parent, you know what it’s like to parent and to raise other people's children. Today we’ll be joined by Debbie Ausburn, and we're diving into the complexities, hurdles, and important needs involved with this. She will share insight that might shed light on the unrealistic standards we hold for ourselves and take some of the pressure off in regards to how we think things are “supposed to be.” Listen in as Debbie shares from her experience as a lawyer, foster parent, step-parent, and caregiver of other people’s children. Her passion and experience are in working with traumatized children, serving as a board member, and representing youth-serving organizations. We talk about how you can make the most of your relationship with your stepchildren and have a rewarding relationship, as well as the number one relationship when it comes to having a blended family. 6:35 - 10:12 – An overview of Debbie’s history and why she wrote her book on parenting. 10:13 – 17:57 - The key to understanding a child’s perspective and your position as a non-biological parent. 17:58 – 20:38 - How to deal with guilt in your situation and embrace the journey the best you can. 20:39 – 27:01 - Where the true priority lies in order to make things work with your blended family. 27:02 – 30:28 - The responsibility of the child and how the commitment is one-way. 30:29 – 36:12 - How to have a more rewarding relationship with a teenager. 36:13 – 45:38 - How to deal with authority, setting rules, and being there the best you can.   Takeaways: The biggest life lessons that came with Debbie serving many children. The importance of understanding your position in a child’s life and setting up structure. Why we feel guilt and how to deal with that guilt as a step-parent. How to have a rewarding relationship with teenagers or more difficult children. Practical tips and tools for being a step-parent and helping raise other people’s children.   Quotes: “Challenges arise no matter how skilled or how well equipped we are.” - Summer “We are their second choice as parents, and that’s okay. We can still have a great relationship.” - Debbie “From a child’s point of view, I am in their life because the world isn’t working the way that it should.” - Debbie   3 Interesting Clips: 10:22 – 12:00 -  What to understand when it comes to being a parent to a child that is not yours biologically. 13:26 – 14:29 - An important tool to use when parenting other people’s children. 16:45 – 17:57 - Something that really helps put things in perspective when it comes to addressing challenging situations.   Links: Debbie Ausburn: Website | YouTube | Twitter | Facebook | Instagram Raising Other People's Children by Debbie Ausburn Text us: 760-389-3722 Send us an anonymous letter Subscribe & Review in iTunes! Are you subscribed to our podcast? If not, we would strongly suggest you do. This way you won’t miss a thing! Subscribe here: Everything Always And now for the pretty please with a Bordeaux Maraschino Cherry on top. We would be so incredibly grateful if you left us a review on for Everything Always as well. This will help other parents and families like you find our podcast. Plus, it’s fun for Mike and I to sit and read them together on date night! Just click here, click open in iTunes, select “Ratings and Reviews”, tell us your favorite moment and best take away and we will send a huge cyber hug and kiss right to you! Find the Everything Always Podcast wherever you listen! Apple Podcasts (iTunes) acast Pocketcasts ListenNotes Spotify player.fm  
May 27, 2021
45 min
Everything Always Episode 93: Navigating High Conflict Divorce with Matthew Barach
Today’s episode is on high conflict divorces and our guest today is super fun, wicked smart and really helpful when it comes to navigating rough times. Matthew Barach, known as “the fixer” in Massachusetts family law. He owns his own law firm, over 20 years in family law experience, and is dedicated to excellence when it comes to family law I love talking to an attorney who cares about all parties involved and that is definitely Matthew. He has a ton of insight and wisdom when it comes to dealing with a high conflict divorce. You will get some incredible information, tips and advice on how to navigate a challenging divorce in a way that does the least damage as possible. 7:26 – 8:42 – The truth about divorce and being a divorce lawyer. 8:43 – 14:56 – How Matthew ended up in family law and why divorce isn’t about winning. 14:57 - 19:01 – How to deal with parental alienation in the court and the role lawyers have in it. 19:02 – 23:58 – What to do when parental alienation happens and crafting a solution that works on both sides. 23:59 – 32:58 – Clarifying a father’s rights and the impact of changing roles on divorce outcomes. 32:59 - 41:35 – The importance of shielding your child from the divorce process. Takeaways: What parental alienation means in the eyes of the court and how it might be different from what you see. What actually fixes parental alienation and how you can do your best to do that. Clarifying father’s rights and what you can do to prepare. Dealing with the stigma placed on parents who have less custody time. What’s really important when it comes to being a parent.   Quotes: “Every single solitary study says that children that were exposed to the divorce, during the time when parents were getting a divorce, had long term effects. BUT children who were not exposed to the divorce process do not have lingering effects when they’re older.” – Matthew Barach “It’s not really about the lawyers or judges, it’s about the parents making a decision, jointly or singularly to protect their children from the divorce.” - Matthew Barach “Nobody ever wins a divorce, that’s a misnomer and it’s not how it works.” - Matthew Barach   3 Interesting Clips: 12:02 – 12:59 – The gratifying part that comes post-divorce. 16:03 – 16:48 – The difficulty of proving parental alienation in court. 20:02 – 21:02 -  How to actually FIX parental alienation.   Links: Matthew Barach: Website | LinkedIn | Facebook A Family Law Guide to Appellate Practice by Matthew Barach Text us: 760-389-3722 Send us an anonymous letter   Subscribe & Review in iTunes! Are you subscribed to our podcast? If not, we would strongly suggest you do. This way you won’t miss a thing! Subscribe here: Everything Always And now for the pretty please with a Bordeaux Maraschino Cherry on top. We would be so incredibly grateful if you left us a review on for Everything Always as well. This will help other parents and families like you find our podcast. Plus, it’s fun for Mike and I to sit and read them together on date night! Just click here, click open in iTunes, select “Ratings and Reviews”, tell us your favorite moment and best take away and we will send a huge cyber hug and kiss right to you! Find the Everything Always Podcast wherever you listen! Apple Podcasts (iTunes) acast Pocketcasts ListenNotes Spotify player.fm
May 20, 2021
41 min
Everything Always Episode 92:  Solving the Marriage Problem with Tim Kellis
We are so pumped to share this episode featuring Tim Kellis with you! Tim is a coach who specializes in fixing the problems in marriages that cause people to break up and get divorced. You will hear about the number of second marriages that fail, the reasons that contribute to them failing and learn key ways to avoid or squash those issues if they crop up in your own marriage. Tim has a great way of breaking down big problems into simple, bite-size pieces that really give us the ability to process them and understand them better. You will gain insight into common marriage issues that crop up and how to solve them in simple, effective ways. As Mike says in the intro, “If you’re hoping to get a divorce, don’t listen to this episode.” 5:00 – 9:08 - The scary number of divorces in 2nd marriages and why Tim is passionate about helping people stay married. 9:09 - 11:49 - The issue with current marriage therapy and what is missing from it. 11:50 - 19:57  - The common reasons why relationships are successful (or not) and the main reason for disagreements. 19:58 - 17:50 - Why spiritual transformation is important to your relationship and how to grow together. 17:51 - 34:58  - How to navigate the tension of finances and other sticky subjects you disagree on. 34:59 – 39:39 - How to not be controlled by fear and limiting beliefs while understanding equality. 39:40 – 52:16 – The important things in life and how our priorities got skewed. Takeaways: The value of addressing marriage mentally vs. behaviorally. Why the love languages haven’t solved the marriage problem. The common factor in unsuccessful relationships. Why mental problems are mental-based. What you should be learning when going through the divorce process in order to move into your next relationship effectively. The importance of creating a judgement-free zone for your relationship. Why always seeking understanding first is so valuable. Quotes: “My approach is to understand how to make marriage work from a mental perspective and when I’ve solved the problem, the solution is equality.” – Tim Kellis “There’s no psychological component to the 5 Love Languages.” - Tim Kellis “The reason why relationships are successful is because couples get along. The reason why relationships are unsuccessful is because couples don’t get along.” - Tim Kellis 3 Interesting Clips: 8:43-9:08 – Why Tim addresses marriage mentally. 7:43-11:50 - The problem with love languages in an insecure relationship. 15:12-17:52 - The hierarchy of the problem and how that plays into your relationship. Links: Tim Kellis: timkellis@happyrelationships.com | Facebook | Clubhouse The Marriage Support Group Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage by Tim Kellis Karl Jung Text us: 760-389-3722 Send us an anonymous letter Subscribe & Review in iTunes! Are you subscribed to our podcast? If not, we would strongly suggest you do. This way you won’t miss a thing! Subscribe here: Everything Always And now for the pretty please with a Bordeaux Maraschino Cherry on top. We would be so incredibly grateful if you left us a review on for Everything Always as well. This will help other parents and families like you find our podcast. Plus, it’s fun for Mike and I to sit and read them together on date night! Just click here, click open in iTunes, select “Ratings and Reviews”, tell us your favorite moment and best take away and we will send a huge cyber hug and kiss right to you! Find the Everything Always Podcast wherever you listen! Apple Podcasts (iTunes) acast Pocketcasts ListenNotes Spotify player.fm
May 13, 2021
52 min
Everything Always Episode 91: Gaining Custody in Confidence with Renee Rodriguez
Are you going through (or have you gone through) a custody battle? If so, and if you have questions about the processes, the money, the emotions, the risks and more, you’re going to want to listen in to what Renee Rodriguez has to say. She joins us on the show as someone who has been through all of this and will be sharing strategy, tips and wisdom on how to walk into that courtroom with confidence. If you’ve asked the questions, “How long will this go on?” or “Wait, we already did this and it's years later and we’re doing it again?” in regards to custody proceedings, this episode is for you. You will learn about what it’s like to work with attorneys on a custody case and how to have a successful relationship with them. Renee also gives some really great guidance on how to be smart about the process and carry it out in a way that will benefit your child first and bring as little damage as possible. 7:19 – 11:34 - How Renee dealt with a high conflict relationship and custody battle and eventually decided to help others in the process. 11:35 - 13:00 - The unexpected situation of custody battles and understanding your role in the situation. 13:01 - 15:27 - The expectations people have for their lawyer and how that is a common downfall. 15:28 – 25:14 - How to know what kinds of evidence are valid, the role of communication and text messages and how to organize it. 25:15 – 30:31 - What to do if the other parent refuses to use an app. 30:32 – 55:10 - How to keep your calm in court and the mindset preparation you can do. Takeaways: What a custody coach is and why it’s so impactful to custody battles. The importance of understanding the system and how to be properly prepared. Why documentation is so key and how to understand how people will see your ex. Communication with your ex and why you should keep it mainly to a parenting platform. How to reframe things when you are concerned about your ex and their wishes. How to move from texts to parenting platforms amidst push-back. The importance of how you appear in court and the need for mindset prep. Quotes: “There’s something so stifling and so debilitating when you’re going through [a custody battle] because it’s your CHILD.” - Summer “You learn all these things in school, you think you know what to expect in life but you don’t learn how to be in family court – that’s not an expectation.” - Renee “You don’t divorce the person you married. You never would have married the person you divorced.” - Renee 3 Interesting Clips: 8:13 - 8:47 - A key discovery that helped Renee’s recovery. 12:54 - 13:00 -  3 things you need to go into court with. 15:04 - 15:25 - The importance of being cautious with your evidence and using strategy. Links: Renee Rodriguez: Website | Twitter | Facebook Template: Timeline of Disturbing Behavior Our Family Wizard Talking Parents Fayr Text us: 760-389-3722 Send us an anonymous letter Subscribe & Review in iTunes! Are you subscribed to our podcast? If not, we would strongly suggest you do. This way you won’t miss a thing! Subscribe here: Everything Always And now for the pretty please with a Bordeaux Maraschino Cherry on top. We would be so incredibly grateful if you left us a review on for Everything Always as well. This will help other parents and families like you find our podcast. Plus, it’s fun for Mike and I to sit and read them together on date night! Just click here, click open in iTunes, select “Ratings and Reviews”, tell us your favorite moment and best take away and we will send a huge cyber hug and kiss right to you! Find the Everything Always Podcast wherever you listen! Apple Podcasts (iTunes) acast Pocketcasts ListenNotes Spotify player.fm
May 6, 2021
55 min
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