Do You F*cking Mind?
Do You F*cking Mind?
Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa - Neuroscientist and Mindset Coach
The Reset You Actually Need - Day 7. More self trust - stop negotiating with your own excuses
21 minutes Posted Jan 19, 2026 at 6:00 pm.
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Self-trust doesn’t disappear because you fail.

It erodes because you keep negotiating with yourself and breaking the deal.

In Day 7 of The Reset You Actually Need, we talk about why so many people struggle to trust themselves, even when they’re capable, intelligent, and motivated, and how constant internal negotiation quietly destroys confidence.

This mini episode explores:

  • Why every excuse sounds reasonable in your own voice

  • The difference between a valid reason and a repeated pattern

  • How negotiating with yourself teaches your brain that your word is flexible

  • Why discipline isn’t harsh, it’s relieving and freeing

  • The balance between self-compassion and accountability

  • Why small promises matter more than big goals

Self-trust isn’t built through motivation, grit, or hype.
It’s built through follow-through.

When you stop arguing with yourself, life gets simpler.
Decisions feel lighter.
Confidence starts to return naturally.

This episode is about becoming someone who does what they say, without punishment, drama, or burnout.

Part of a 10-day mini-series designed to help you reset your mindset, rebuild self-trust, and move through the year with clarity and calm self-leadership.

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