It’s easy to blame your exes for failed relationships. And believe that if you could just FIND the right partner, then you’d have lasting love. But what if you need to BE the right partner in order to build a great relationship? Roy Biancalana is a certified relationship coach and a nationally recognized expert in the field of attraction and conscious relationships. For the last 15 years, Roy has supported single people in the art of attracting healthy, sustainable intimate relationships.Roy also serves as host of The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast and bestselling author of several books, including Relationship Bootcamp: Hard-Core Training for Life, Love and the Pursuit of Intimacy. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Roy joins Katherine to explore how his own positive experience with a relationship coach inspired his career in the field and explain why we have to let go of blame to break the cycle of breakups.Roy discusses the concept of relationship personas, describing how each persona attracts its reciprocal and why Roy the Rescuer developed a pattern of dating damsels in distress.Listen in for Roy’s insight on transforming the relationship you’re already in and learn how to build a healthy, long-term relationship by getting into ‘relationship shape.’Topics Covered How Roy’s experience with a relationship coach inspired his career in the fieldRoy’s mission to help others break the vicious cycle of breakupsWhy you have to let go of blame and finger pointing to become coachableThe concept of relationship personas and how each persona attracts its reciprocalWhy Roy the Rescuer attracted damsels in distressDiscovering your relationship persona and uncovering your authentic selfWhy being the right partner is key in building a healthy, sustainable relationshipHow to make the relationship you’re in better by getting into ‘relationship shape’How to build the relationship muscle of letting go of the past Connect with Roy BiancalanaCoaching with Roy: https://coachingwithroy.com/The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-attracting-lasting-love-podcast/id1561528328Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246Email: [email protected] Call (914) 738-7765ResourcesRoy’s Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment:https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/Relationship Bootcamp: Hard-Core Training for Life, Love and the Pursuit of Intimacy by Roy Biancalana:https://coachingwithroy.com/roy-biancalanas-book/