How do you know if your marriage is over? And once you know, how do you overcome the fears associated with divorce?Debra Doak is a Certified Divorce Coach and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst on a mission to give women the confidence they need to speak up for what they deserve in their relationships or at the negotiating table. Debra specializes in helping women make difficult decisions about marriage and money, and she is the author of High-Conflict Divorce for Women: Your Guide to Coping Skills and Legal Strategies for All Stages of Divorce.On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Debra joins Katherine to discuss the signs that a marriage is over and offer guidance around what to do if you’re not sure whether to stay or go. She describes how she works with clients who are afraid to leave, walking us through her five-step process for identifying, challenging and reframing our fears about divorce. Listen in for Debra’s insight on taking off your grey-colored glasses to imagine a more fulfilling future and learn how to achieve self-reliance in the aftermath of divorce.Topics CoveredDebra’s insight around the signs that a marriage is overThe concept of negative sentiment override Asking your spouse to do 5 things that will make you 10% happierWhat to do if you’re not sure whether to stay or goDebra’s take on people who ‘didn’t know the marriage was THAT bad’How Debra works with clients who are afraid to leaveDebra’s 5 steps to DITCH your fears about divorce1. Decide2. Investigate3. Team up4. Campaign5. HopeHow to take off your grey-colored glasses and imagine a fulfilling futureWhy Debra focuses on helping women achieve self-relianceDebra’s experience working with women who were the breadwinnerHow Debra directs clients to the best divorce process for their situationConnect with Debra DoakDebra’s Website: https://debradoak.com/Connect with Katherine MillerThe Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246Email: [email protected]Call (914) 738-7765ResourcesHigh-Conflict Divorce for Women: Your Guide to Coping Skills and Legal Strategies for All Stages of Divorce by Debra Doak: https://www.amazon.com/High-Conflict-Divorce-Women-Coping-Strategies/dp/1641528192The Gottman Institute’s Negative Sentiment Override Quiz: https://www.gottman.com/blog/quiz-negative-sentiment-override/