Is there a way to protect your child’s innocence during the divorce process? What strategies can you use to parent well in the midst of such a difficult time? The Intelligent Divorce offers couples an approach to separation and divorce that prevents damage to kids and teaches you how to create a bi-nuclear family built on kindness and respect.Dr. Mark Banschick is a child psychiatrist in private practice in New York and a frequent expert witness in custody hearings. He coined the idea of the Intelligent Divorce and authored two books on the subject, The Intelligent Divorce: Taking Care of Children and The Intelligent Divorce: Taking Care of Yourself. Dr. Banschick has appeared on The CBS Early Show and the CBS Morning News, and he is published regularly in Psychology Today and the Huffington Post.Today, Dr. Banschick joins Katherine to explain how the Intelligent Divorce prevents damage to kids during the divorce process. He offers his take on divorce as a public health issue rather than a legal one and discusses the significance of establishing what he calls an intergenerational boundary. Dr. Banschick walks us through The Child’s Bill of Rights, describing how the Intelligent Divorce protects their innocence and educates kids in the process of conflict resolution. Listen in for insight around the difference between jealousy and envy—and hear Dr. Banschick’s thoughts on when and how to tell your kids you are getting a divorce.Topics CoveredHow Dr. Banschick’s work led to the Intelligent DivorceDr. Banschick’s advice around working on your marriage first The idea of a bi-nuclear family built on kindness and respectWhy Dr. Banschick sees divorce as a public health issueHow to protect your child’s innocence in the divorce processThe significance of establishing an intergenerational boundaryThe Child’s Bill of Rights • Don’t ask to choose sides or confide in me• Spare details of legal proceedings• Give privacy on phone, don’t cross-examine after• I am not your messenger• Don’t ask to lie and listen when I talk• No guilt trips, no matter what• Don’t spoil me (even if you feel guilty)How people regress during the divorce processHow Intelligent Divorce educates kids in conflict resolutionMelanie Kline’s distinction between jealousy and envyThe benefits of working with a good psychotherapist When and how to tell your kids that you are getting a divorceConnect with Dr. Mark BanschickThe Intelligent Divorce: theintelligentdivorce.comFree Book on Divorce: mark-banschick.mykajabi.comResourcesIntelligent Divorce: Taking Care of Children by Mark R. Banschick and David Tabatsky: amazon.com/Intelligent-Divorce-Taking-Care-Children/dp/098259030XIntelligent Divorce: Taking Care of Children by Mark R. Banschick and David Tabatsky: amazon.com/Intelligent-Divorce-Taking-Care-Yourself/dp/0982590326/ref=bseries_primary_1_0982590326Family Stabilization Course: theintelligentdivorce.comMelanie Klein: www.melanie-klein-trust.org.ukConnect with Katherine MillerThe Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246Email: [email protected]Call (914) 738-7765