“It’s never too late. Put the divorce on pause, find a really strong, good therapist who knows what they’re doing, and give it a few months before you pull the plug.”Terry Real is a renown family therapist and the bestselling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression and How Can I Get Through to You?: Reconnecting Men and Women. Terry is the founder of the Relational Empowerment Institute, and his work has been featured on NBC Nightly News, Today, and Oprah, as well as in The New York Times, Psychology Today, and numerous academic publications. He is known for his ground-breaking work in helping transform couples on the brink of divorce.Today, Terry joins Katherine to discuss the role of grieving your marriage in the process of letting go and the silver lining of learning that can come from the divorce process. He shares his approach to working with couples on ‘marital death’s door,’ explaining how he leverages the Relationship Intervention to get couples back on track. Listen in to find out why Terry thinks you should press the pause button and seek out emergency couples therapy before you move forward with divorce.Topics CoveredThe challenge around feeling the pain of divorce without acting it outThe pivotal role of grieving in the process of letting goHow to view divorce as a potential growth experienceUnderstand your part in what went wrongRealign with core valuesHow the Relationship Intervention helps couples get back on trackTerry’s approach to working with couples on ‘marital death’s door’Take sides, tell the truthCreate treatment programThe value of having a therapist that acts as a coach rather than a cheerleaderWhy couples don’t seek help before they are in dire straitsTerry’s take that no matter how bad a marriage is, there is always hopeThe four methods of decision-making in the divorce processDIYTraditional litigation modelMediationCollaborative lawConnect with Terry RealTerry’s Website: www.terryreal.comBooks by Terry Real: amazon.com/Terrence-Real/e/B000APV0Q8/ref=dp_byline_cont_book_1ResourcesCrazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building a New Life by Abigail Trafford: www.thetimes.co.uk/article/how-not-to-hatehttps://www.amazon.com/Crazy-Time-Surviving-Divorce-Building/dp/0060923091-your-husband-like-i-used-to-sdzfrwzff‘How to Not Hate Your Husband’ in The Times: https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/how-not-to-hate-your-husband-like-i-used-to-sdzfrwzffStaying in Love Online Course: http://stayinginlove.pages.ontraport.net/%20Relationship Inventory Quiz: www.terryreal.com/quizI Don’t Want to Talk About It by Terry Real: www.terryreal.com/product/i-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/Connect with Katherine MillerThe Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1