Traditionally, alternative dispute resolution methods like mediation and collaborative divorce are seen as a good fit for couples who are civil to each other and simply need a professional to support them in the legal aspects of the process. But Bill Eddy argues that the non-adversarial processes are crucial for high-conflict people navigating divorce. Bill Eddy is a lawyer, therapist, mediator and the co-founder and Training Director of the High Conflict Institute. He has become an international expert on managing disputes involving high-conflict personalities and personality disorders, and he provides training on the subject to professionals all over the world. Bill is a Certified Family Law Specialist and the Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center in Sand Diego. He is the author of several books, including High Conflict People in Legal Disputes, Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and BIFF: Quick Responses to High-Conflict People.Today, Bill sits down with Katherine to explain why high-conflict people need a non-adversarial divorce process. He shares the benefits of consulting a lawyer during the mediation process and the significance of going into alternative dispute resolution with a focus on the future. Bill describes what is involved in his pre-mediation coaching as well as his approach to mediation when a restraining order is involved. Listen in for Bill’s insight on communicating with high-conflict people and finding a lawyer who supports mediation and the collaborative divorce process.Topics CoveredWhy high-conflict people need a non-adversarial divorce process• Court escalates adversarial thinking• Gives rise to false allegations, abuseHow high-conflict people are more sensitive to feeling attackedThe benefit of consulting a lawyer during the mediation processThe value of a divorce financial analyst in alternative dispute resolutionHow informed consent serves as the key to a non-adversarial processWhat’s involved in Bill’s pre-mediation coachingHow Bill handles mediation when a restraining order is involvedHow collaborative teaches high-conflict couples communication skillsHow parenting plans can be structured around limited contact in extreme casesHow the self-doubt people feel during divorce is exacerbated by lack of respectThe techniques Bill recommends for communicating with high-conflict people• EAR—empathy, attention and respect• BIFF—brief, informative, friendly and firm (i.e.: email, Facebook)Why Bill suggests finding a lawyer who will support mediation/collaborative divorceConnect with Bill EddyHigh Conflict Institute: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/National Conflict Resolution Center: https://www.ncrconline.com/ResourcesNew Ways for Families: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/new-ways/BIFF: Quick Responses to High-Conflict People by Bill Eddy: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/bookstores/biffHow to Write a BIFF Response DVD: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/bookstores/how-to-write-a-biff-response-dvdCoaching for BIFF Response DVD: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/bookstores/coaching-for-biff-responseOur Family Wizard: https://www.ourfamilywizard.com/directory/high-conflict-instituteIs Divorce Mediation for You? DVD: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/bookstores/is-divorce-mediation-for-you-dvdHigh Conflict People in Legal Disputes by Bill Eddy: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/bookstores/high-conflict-people-in-legal-disputes-2nd-editionSplitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder by Bill Eddy: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/bookstores/splitting-protecting-yourself-while-divorcing