We have successfully fetishised busyness over business. Society is focused on sacrifice instead of outcomes. Altruism and success have become binaries of each other. It’s the perception of progress that we’re addicted to, not actual progress. In the face of this reality the question looms in the back of our minds: How can you actually […]

A north-star goal: A single well-defined goal that you can look up at, and see if you’re heading in the right direction. All other goals are milestones taking you closer to this final goal. It comes from the North Star, Polaris, in the sky that you can follow when lost, you can reorient yourself just […]

We are plagued by Protagonism. Protagonism: The belief that we are the ‘main character’ of the story, that important things will happen in front of us and all other people are side characters or NPCs. I’ve lived my whole life from my own perspective. And, you’ve lived your whole life from your own perspective. We […]

What does it mean to believe something? How is it different to knowing something? “What do I believe in?” A question I dance with regularly. What do you believe in? Is it the things that bubble up in our mind when we ask ourselves that question? Today we’re going to dive into how to get […]

What is fear, really? What is pain, really? What is their relationship? Listen to the pain, it connects you to reality.  Pain is a signal from the body that something is wrong. It helps you preemptively avoid mortal risks. If we didn’t have pain you’d likely have died a long time ago. Or more likely […]

You must pass through the valley of good to become great, but striving for perfection stops you from becoming good. You become frozen in fear of failure.

Say “yes”. Say “yes” to others. More than anything, say “yes” to yourself. Give yourself permission to try.  When you are offered something by someone, what is your gut reaction? Is it to accept the offer or is it to deny it? In an attempt to be polite. I know for me, for a long […]

What causes us to drift from those we care about?  How about turning on them? Where does that aggression come from? How do we get there? It all starts at the beginning: meeting them for the first time.  Remember that while they are a physical form in reality, the person you ‘know’ is actually a […]

I like to win. How about you?  It’s only natural, we’re programmed to like it. It’s in our DNA to want to ‘win’ things.  We need to focus on how to build strong relationships. It makes us feel good, bolsters our immediate view of ourselves. Fake self-esteem. In a primitive evolutionary perspective, winning against a […]

When it comes to ideas, there are good ones and there are bad ones. That is not to say that the person who has conceived the idea is good or bad, painted with same brush. This generalisation is intellectually lazy. It saves the person the emotional energy of actually considering all sides. Those that only […]