Discerning Marriage
Discerning Marriage
Theology of the Body Institute
Discerning Marriage is a weekly podcast hosted by Elizabeth Busby, MTS, MS, LMFT. Regardless of your state in life, you can begin preparing for marriage right now. Whether you are single, dating, seriously dating, engaged, on a break, or grieving a breakup, you can make use of this time for fruitful growth toward becoming a healthy and holy spouse. Intentional discernment of marriage starts today, even if you haven't given or received an engagement ring.
Why Looks Matter More Than You Think + Why You're Still Single + Marriage Advice Ruining Dating
What keeps good people single? In this candid conversation, Catholic matchmaker Madigan shares the hard truths she's learned from working with thousands of singles. We discuss unrealistic expectations, dating app culture, ghosting, attraction, self-improvement, and why so many people struggle to find a spouse despite deeply desiring marriage. Madigan also shares her own unexpected love story, practical advice for discerning marriage, and her framework for knowing when you're choosing wisely versus settling. Whether you're single, dating, or helping someone discern their vocation, this episode offers hope, challenge, and a fresh perspective on modern Catholic dating.commitmentism.com/šŸ“ø Elizabeth’s InstagramšŸ‘©ā€ā¤ļøā€šŸ‘Ø If you’re seriously dating and thinking about getting engaged, check out our Next Step course to help discern if you’re both ready for engagement.Theology of the Body Institute Resources: šŸ”„ ⁠3 FREE sessions of our flagship course on the TOB⁠ šŸ’¬ Text TOB to (404) 647-7682 āš”ļø ⁠Support us & get access to leading TOB formation⁠ šŸ“š ⁠Course schedule⁠ šŸ”ļø ⁠Pilgrimages⁠ šŸ›ļø ⁠Store⁠
Jun 30
1 hr 3 min
Why Good Catholics Stay Single + The ā€œI Doā€ Test + How to Keep Your Kids In the Faith As Adults
What does it actually take to build a marriage that lasts?In this episode, Dr. Gregory Popcak shares the surprising story of proposing after just two months of dating, how he and his wife Lisa built a 37-year marriage, and why prayer became the foundation of everything they created together. We discuss why so many faithful Catholics struggle to find someone to marry, the difference between piety and genuine devotion, how to identify humility while dating, and the single best predictor of future marital success.We also dive into parenting, why treating children like projects backfires, what causes adult children to drift away from their parents, and the habits shared by families who successfully pass on the faith. This conversation is packed with practical wisdom for discerning marriage, building strong relationships, and creating a home where faith truly comes alive.Dr. Gregory Popcak's WebsiteIgnite Hope Discerning Marriage Retreat InfoSpotifyšŸ“ø Elizabeth’s InstagramšŸ‘©ā€ā¤ļøā€šŸ‘Ø If you’re seriously dating and thinking about getting engaged, check out our Next Step course to help discern if you’re both ready for engagement.Theology of the Body Institute Resources: šŸ”„ ⁠3 FREE sessions of our flagship course on the TOB⁠ šŸ’¬ Text TOB to (404) 647-7682 āš”ļø ⁠Support us & get access to leading TOB formation⁠ šŸ“š ⁠Course schedule⁠ šŸ”ļø ⁠Pilgrimages⁠ šŸ›ļø ⁠Store⁠
Jun 16
1 hr 8 min
Should You Pursue Him First? + Men Who Aren’t Ready to Date + The Problem With ā€œTrust Your Feelingsā€
What do you do when you keep making eye contact with someone at Mass… but he never talks to you? Should you wait for someone who ā€œisn’t ready yetā€? Can you discern marriage and religious life at the same time? And how do you know if the peace you feel in a relationship is actually from God — or just emotions?In this Q&A episode, we dive into modern Catholic dating, discernment, masculinity, red flags, vocation anxiety, spiritual clarity, pornography, confession, desire, and the very real fear of making the wrong life decision. This conversation is honest, practical, deeply personal, and full of the kind of advice most people are too afraid to say out loud.Ignite Hope Discerning Marriage Retreat InfoFr. Ambrose Criste episode linkšŸ“ø Elizabeth’s InstagramšŸ‘©ā€ā¤ļøā€šŸ‘Ø If you’re seriously dating and thinking about getting engaged, check out our Next Step course to help discern if you’re both ready for engagement.Theology of the Body Institute Resources: šŸ”„ ⁠3 FREE sessions of our flagship course on the TOB⁠ šŸ’¬ Text TOB to (404) 647-7682 āš”ļø ⁠Support us & get access to leading TOB formation⁠ šŸ“š ⁠Course schedule⁠ šŸ”ļø ⁠Pilgrimages⁠
Jun 2
30 min
Falling in Love Every 10 Days + "Spicy" Truth on Divorce + Theology of Heartbreak X Fr. Gregory Pine
In this powerful episode, Father Gregory Pine joins Elizabeth Busby to tackle the "spicy" reality of divorce and the permanence of marriage. They navigate the painful process of discerning a breakup, offering a "home run" of practical advice for anyone currently in the trenches of heartbreak. By exploring Thomistic wisdom and the necessity of "training the tongue," Fr. Gregory reveals how to stop catastrophizing and start "recollecting" your soul during times of loss. Ultimately, this conversation calls you higher—challenging you to look beyond your current relational status and anchor yourself in your "uppercase V vocation": partaking in the eternal bliss of the Trinity.Ignite Hope Discerning Marriage Retreat InfošŸ“ø Elizabeth’s InstagramšŸ‘©ā€ā¤ļøā€šŸ‘Ø If you’re seriously dating and thinking about getting engaged, check out our Next Step course to help discern if you’re both ready for engagement.Theology of the Body Institute Resources: šŸ”„ ⁠3 FREE sessions of our flagship course on the TOB⁠ šŸ’¬ Text TOB to (404) 647-7682 āš”ļø ⁠Support us & get access to leading TOB formation⁠ šŸ“š ⁠Course schedule⁠ šŸ”ļø ⁠Pilgrimages⁠ šŸ›ļø ⁠Store⁠
May 19
47 min
Answering "Devil's Advocate" Questions About French Kissing Before Marriage
In this unscripted ā€œdevil’s advocateā€ Q&A, we respond to real questions challenging Catholic perspectives on dating and physical intimacy—especially kissing during engagement. Is it helping discernment or sabotaging it? Drawing from St. John Paul II and real-world counseling experience, this conversation unpacks the stages of dating, the purpose of engagement, and the difference between emotional bonding and intentional formation. If you’ve ever wondered how far is too far—or how to date with clarity, freedom, and purpose—this episode offers a vision that calls you higher, not just further.Ignite Hope Discerning Marriage Retreat InfošŸ“ø Elizabeth’s InstagramšŸ‘©ā€ā¤ļøā€šŸ‘Ø If you’re seriously dating and thinking about getting engaged, check out our Next Step course to help discern if you’re both ready for engagement.Theology of the Body Institute Resources: šŸ”„ ⁠3 FREE sessions of our flagship course on the TOB⁠ šŸ’¬ Text TOB to (404) 647-7682 āš”ļø ⁠Support us & get access to leading TOB formation⁠ šŸ“š ⁠Course schedule⁠ šŸ”ļø ⁠Pilgrimages⁠ šŸ›ļø ⁠Store⁠
May 8
27 min
Red Flags vs Spiritual Warfare + Not Discerning Marriage + Lower Your Standards (Not Like You Think)
What if the way you’ve been ā€œdiscerning marriageā€ is actually keeping you stuck?In this episode, Fr. Ambrose Criste breaks open a radically freeing vision of vocation, relationships, and spiritual warfare. We unpack how to tell the difference between real red flags and emotional or spiritual attacks, why fear and overthinking can paralyze your discernment, and the surprising truth that you may not need to ā€œdiscern marriageā€ at all.We also dive into tough, practical questions—pornography in relationships, what you can (and can’t) compromise on, why ā€œlowering your standardsā€ might actually mean reordering them, and how to move forward with clarity and peace instead of anxiety.If you’ve ever felt stuck, afraid of making the wrong choice, or unsure how to move forward in love, this conversation will challenge you, ground you, and call you higher.šŸ“ø Elizabeth’s InstagramšŸ‘©ā€ā¤ļøā€šŸ‘Ø If you’re seriously dating and thinking about getting engaged, check out our Next Step course to help discern if you’re both ready for engagement.Theology of the Body Institute Resources: šŸ”„ ⁠3 FREE sessions of our flagship course on the TOB⁠ šŸ’¬ Text TOB to (404) 647-7682 āš”ļø ⁠Support us & get access to leading TOB formation⁠ šŸ“š ⁠Course schedule⁠ šŸ”ļø ⁠Pilgrimages⁠ šŸ›ļø ⁠Store⁠
Apr 24
43 min
Depression & Openness to Life + When Marriage Doesn’t Come + Sexual Struggles and Purpose | Q&A
This Q&A episode with Elizabeth dives into some of the most honest and difficult questions around love, marriage, and personal struggle. From navigating depression while remaining open to life, to the deep ache of unwanted singleness, to breaking free from pornography and building a life of virtue—this conversation doesn’t shy away from the real battles.We explore how to approach dating with courage, how to grow during seasons of waiting, what it actually means to live out God’s design for marriage and intimacy, and how to make wise, intentional decisions about work, family, and relationships.If you’ve ever felt stuck, discouraged, or unsure how your desires fit into God’s plan—this episode is an invitation to rise higher, think deeper, and walk forward with purpose.
Apr 7
27 min
When Love Ends Without Closure + Learning to Suffer Well in Dating + Rethinking Physical Boundaries in Dating | Q&A
In this Q&A episode of Discerning Marriage, Elizabeth answers questions about heartbreak, waiting for marriage, and dating with intention.What do you do when someone you love moves on without giving closure? How do you keep hope when waiting for marriage feels harder with time? And how should couples approach physical affection while living chastely?Elizabeth discusses forgiveness vs. reconciliation, why suffering can deepen hope, the importance of physical boundaries, and practical ways to stay connected in long-distance relationships.If you're discerning marriage or healing from heartbreak, this conversation offers wisdom, encouragement, and a Christ-centered vision for love.šŸ“ø Elizabeth’s InstagramšŸ‘©ā€ā¤ļøā€šŸ‘Ø If you’re seriously dating and thinking about getting engaged, check out our Next Step course to help discern if you’re both ready for engagement.Theology of the Body Institute Resources: šŸ”„ ⁠3 FREE sessions of our flagship course on the TOB⁠ šŸ’¬ Text TOB to (404) 647-7682 āš”ļø ⁠Support us & get access to leading TOB formation⁠ šŸ“š ⁠Course schedule⁠ šŸ”ļø ⁠Pilgrimages⁠ šŸ›ļø ⁠Store⁠
Mar 27
29 min
Men vs Women Is a Lie + The Hidden Language of Men + Why Relationships Fail X Alison Armstrong
What if many conflicts between men and women come from misunderstanding—not bad intentions?In this episode of Discerning Marriage, Elizabeth Busby sits down with relationship researcher Allison Armstrong to explore what decades of studying men reveal about how men and women think, communicate, and experience love.They discuss why men often prioritize respect while women seek connection, how misunderstandings about feelings and support create conflict, and why chemistry alone isn’t enough for lasting love. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married, this conversation offers a hopeful vision: men and women learning to understand each other so they can truly thrive together.šŸ“ø Elizabeth’s InstagramšŸ‘©ā€ā¤ļøā€šŸ‘Ø If you’re seriously dating and thinking about getting engaged, check out our Next Step course to help discern if you’re both ready for engagement.Alison's resources:Own Your Own Ultimatums webinarThe Queen's Code audiobookIn addition, your viewers can receive the following products for FREE using the promo codes and instructions below:Thrive Your Life webinarClick on "FOR ME"At check out, enter promo code AlisonThrive2025 (promo code expires 6/30/2026)Making Sense of Men: A Woman's Guide to a Lifetime of Love, Care & Attention from All Men eBook, available on the Alison Armstrong Mobile AppClick on "FOR ME"At check out, enter promo code AlisonGift2025 (promo code expires 6/30/2026)Theology of the Body Institute Resources: šŸ”„ ⁠3 FREE sessions of our flagship course on the TOB⁠ šŸ’¬ Text TOB to (404) 647-7682 āš”ļø ⁠Support us & get access to leading TOB formation⁠ šŸ“š ⁠Course schedule⁠ šŸ”ļø ⁠Pilgrimages⁠ šŸ›ļø ⁠Store⁠
Mar 11
57 min
He Hated Christianity + Navigating Major Moral Disagreements + More Than a Piece of Paper X Sips with Serra
Adrian Lawson from Sips with Serra joins Elizabeth to share the full story behind his marriage journey: meeting his wife in high school, dating for seven years, converting from atheism to Protestantism to Catholicism, and navigating major moral disagreements along the way. They discuss what actually changed when he became Christian, why marriage is more than ā€œjust a piece of paper,ā€ how to handle conflict without turning on each other, what it’s like when spouses don’t share the same faith, the process of having a marriage recognized by the Church, and how perseverance in truth leads to deeper unity. This episode is about love that matures, conviction that costs something, and a marriage built on more than feelings.šŸ“ø Elizabeth’s InstagramšŸ‘©ā€ā¤ļøā€šŸ‘Ø If you’re seriously dating and thinking about getting engaged, check out our Next Step course to help discern if you’re both ready for engagement.Theology of the Body Institute Resources: šŸ”„ ⁠3 FREE sessions of our flagship course on the TOB⁠ šŸ’¬ Text TOB to (404) 647-7682 āš”ļø ⁠Support us & get access to leading TOB formation⁠ šŸ“š ⁠Course schedule⁠ šŸ”ļø ⁠Pilgrimages⁠ šŸ›ļø ⁠Store⁠
Feb 27
55 min
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