I was on the phone with a friend the other day, crying over a broken promise. Someone I trusted deeply said they'd do something significant, and after many assurances, they didn't.

So yeah. I cried.

And my friend let me. She didn't rush me. She didn't fix me. She just held space.

But here's the thing: I didn't stay there.

A mutual friend, a previous client, had said something really powerful about me. And I thought, if he sees that in me, I'm not going to sit here and wallow. I got up and went to the gym.

Feel your feelings. Then get up and grow.

That's what I'm talking about in this week's episode. Because I think a lot of us, especially men who are going through hard things in marriage, either stuff the feelings down (which rots you from the inside) or stay stuck in victim mode (which makes you completely unproductive).

Neither is Jesus' way.

He cried. He was moved to compassion. He wasn't afraid of His feelings. But He didn't let them dictate His wisdom, His choices, or His values.

The Bible says: "Get angry, but don't sin."

Paul said from prison: "Rejoice in the Lord always, and again I say rejoice."

If he can say that in chains, you and I can say it in our context too.

Listen to this week's episode and then do this: Write down the habits that are hard for you. Not the easy ones, those are already on autopilot. The hard ones. Put them on your fridge. Let your family see you push yourself. Be humble. Be a role model. Be a gangster.

And if you need some people in your corner to help you get there, that's exactly what we built Proactive for. It's our brand new accountability cohort, launching now for graduates, cart closes September 10th.

You're more than a victor in Christ. Now walk in it.

Belah Rose