Dear Son,
Dear Son,
Derek Johns
Nobody Wants to Pay the Cost | Ep 6 (Pt 2) | Better Together
41 minutes Posted Apr 20, 2026 at 4:00 pm.
Counting Crime Costs
Car Lesson on Value
Prison Reality Check
Ritual vs Relationship
Learning Surrender
God Knows My Heart
Echo Chambers and Pride
Parenting and Boundaries
Paying the Cost Daily
Marriage Covenant Costs
When Commitment Becomes Harm
Mortgage Analogy for Growth
Faith Tested by Loss
Moving Away for Family
Entrepreneurship vs Corporate
Time Wealth and Presence
TikTok Leap of Faith
Calling Off Engagement Regret
Community Challenge Wrap Up
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Counting the Cost: Crime, Faith, Parenting, and the Price of Not Surrendering
In this episode of Better Together, the hosts discuss “counting the cost” across crime, spirituality, parenting, work, and relationships. Joe T explains that before prison, crime felt “lawful” and consequence-free because of his environment, but prison revealed how it was costing him everything. They contrast religious ritual with genuine spiritual formation, emphasizing exposure, accountability, and surrender, including how faith is tested during tragedy like a child’s medical crisis. The conversation also covers the danger of being convinced of yourself, how permissive parenting can stem from resenting structure, and the need to teach consequences. They share personal examples of counting the cost: moving family from the East Coast to Dubai, entrepreneurial risks versus corporate regret, success through content creation, and relationship decisions, ending with a call for viewers to reflect on what something is costing them and what it will cost.
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