Dear Son,
Dear Son,
Derek Johns
This is a safe space to build upon and reinforce the values of fatherhood. We'll explore the gaps between the current generation of fathers and fathers of generations past, and mature the dialogue that will close those gaps for the generations to come. Whether your passion is to be a great father or peel back the layers of why your father wasn't present in your life (physically and/or emotionally), this is for you. Let's grow through it.
The Art of Masculinity | The Dear Son, Show | Ep 74 w Nate Cottman #fatherhood #manhood #masculine #vulnerability
Enjoy the visual experience here: https://youtu.be/1N1VrNMuEcoDear Son, the world will offer you many definitions of what a man is and how he is expected to behave. Most of these definitions are filtered through the lens of personal experiences. Some may sound logical while others will clearly sound farfetched. It’s important that you understand how to recognize your full range of emotions and embrace them responsibly.   Merriam-Webster defines masculinity as “the quality or nature of the male; the quality, state, or degree of being masculine or manly.” Many will automatically associate characteristics such as brave, strong, fearless, leadership, and assertiveness with being masculine. Conversely, weak, sensitive, fragile, and scared are characteristics commonly associated with being feminine. As a man, you’ll likely have experiences that evoke all of these characteristics if only for a brief moment. In this episode, we’ll get to know Nate Cottman, a viral social media personality and thought leader in the self-love and accountability space, and why he champions the concept of “masculine vulnerability.” He provides a transparent look into his life and how he navigated emotional traumas related to an unsuccessful marriage, losing the relationship with his father, and ultimately his father’s death. We discussed the importance young men being able to cry as an acceptable response to hurt and why processing vulnerable thoughts and feelings is a vital component of being a man. I’m certain that you’ll find this conversation valuable, but please don’t keep it a secret. Be a blessing by sharing this with someone you love.We learned quite about ourselves during this dialogue, and that’s typical. Hopefully, a point or two will prompt you to have similar meaningful discussions in your home. We highly recommend that you consume the entire episode for the best results. Also, meet us in the comments or tag us with your opinion on social media via the links below. As always, we welcome your perspective. It takes a village. Follow Nate: https://instagram.com/fromnatewithlove28-Day Self-Love Journal: https://fromnatewithlove.com#daddyissues #parentingadvice #blackfathers #fatherandson #parentingtips #betterparents #vulnerable Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblacFollow the show:https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcastAlso, if you've made it this far, don't forget to:1. follow this podcast, 2. turn on auto-downloads,3. give this podcast a 5-star rating, 4. leave a stellar written review, and5. share this content with someone who needs it.The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.comSupport the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Johns & Co Apparel: https://johnsandcompany.coLove Kisha J Studios: https://lovekishajstudios.comOther social media: https://twitter.com/dearsonpodcasthttps://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcasthttps://tiktok.com/podcast_popsThe Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma3. Help through telling stories of it all“Better Men. Better Fathers.”Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-son/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Jul 11, 2023
1 hr 5 min
Dear Son, It Isn’t What It Looks Like | The Dear Son, Show | Ep 73 #fatherhood #parenting
Enjoy the visual experience here: https://youtu.be/PFb0F48L4NYDear Son, It isn’t what it looks like! Sometimes we see things and people how they are presented to us, not knowing what is really happening at the core. We live in a microwave, celebratory, highlight reel of a world. Our timelines are constantly flooded with unimaginable lifestyles, wins, and “goals” that shape how we view and value success.  Comparison has been stealing joy for centuries. It may be more pronounced at different stages of life, but it is always potentially there. Think about the elementary school kid that wants the gaming system that some of his classmates have. Perhaps the high school teen wishes she had style like the homecoming queen. There was a period where I compared my success to peers that reached a level that I had not. It's important to focus on your path. There will be parts of the journey that won’t look like what you envisioned, and you may not understand it in the moment. In those moments, don’t start measuring your success based on someone else’s path. Your experiences are shaping your story and uniquely qualifies you to impact the world in a way that can be substituted or duplicated. Remember, at the party, not everyone is celebrating. Some are just trying to temporarily escape the chaos that haunts them daily. When the music is pumping and the drinks are flowing, it all looks the same. Mind your envy.We learned quite about ourselves during this dialogue, and that’s typical. Hopefully, a point or two will prompt you to have similar meaningful discussions in your home. We highly recommend that you consume the entire episode for the best results. Also, meet us in the comments or tag us with your opinion on social media via the links below. As always, we welcome your perspective. It takes a village. #daddyissues #parentingadvice #blackfathers #fatherandson #parentingtips #betterparents #vulnerable Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblacFollow the show:https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcastAlso, if you've made it this far, don't forget to:1. follow this podcast, 2. turn on auto-downloads,3. give the podcast a 5-star rating, 4. leave a stellar written review, and5. share this content with someone who needs it.The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.comSupport the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Johns & Co Apparel: https://johnsandcompany.coLove Kisha J Studios: https://lovekishajstudios.comOther social media: https://twitter.com/dearsonpodcasthttps://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcasthttps://tiktok.com/podcast_popsThe Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma3. Help through telling stories of it all“Better Men. Better Fathers.”Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-son/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Jul 4, 2023
38 min
Dear Son, Don’t Jump Out the Window | The Dear Son, Show | Ep 72 #fatherhood #parenting
Enjoy the visual experience here: https://youtu.be/95JSeJ7-kT4Dear Son, don’t jump out the window for your friends! This is a metaphor for being so passionate about a person or a thing that you rush to defend the person or thing no matter what. Your friend says that someone hurts their feelings, and you’ve already put your boxing gloves on, ready to spar. You don’t even know if the friend antagonized the person, and you really don’t care. It’s up! Jumping out the window doesn’t just apply to negative scenarios. Some people will jump out the window for their love interest. These gestures can be interpreted as endearing or off-putting. What is over the top for one, may be the bare minimum for another. The primary focus is helping our children understand what comes with jumping out the window through sharing life experiences. I’ve been guilty of sheltering my children from my past because much of it was embarrassing. Withholding this information puts them at risk of repeating mistakes that have already taught me the lessons. I’d rather risk temporary embarrassment. We learned quite about ourselves during this dialogue, and that’s typical. Hopefully, a point or two will prompt you to have similar meaningful discussions in your home. We highly recommend that you consume the entire episode for the best results. Also, meet us in the comments or tag us with your opinion on social media via the links below. As always, we welcome your perspective. It takes a village. #daddyissues #parentingadvice #blackfathers #fatherandson #parentingtips #betterparents #vulnerable Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblacFollow the show:https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcastAlso, if you've made it this far, don't forget to:1. follow this podcast, 2. turn on auto-downloads,3. give this podcast a 5-star rating, 4. leave a stellar written review, and5. share this content with someone who needs it.The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.comSupport the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Johns & Co Apparel: https://johnsandcompany.coLove Kisha J Studios: https://lovekishajstudios.comOther social media: https://twitter.com/dearsonpodcasthttps://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcasthttps://tiktok.com/podcast_popsThe Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma3. Help through telling stories of it all“Better Men. Better Fathers.”Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-son/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Jun 27, 2023
45 min
Dear Son, We Can’t Be Friends | The Dear Son, Show | Ep 71 #fatherhood #nofriendzone #parenting
Enjoy the visual experience here: https://youtu.be/4PiplHbIiSAI have a tough time understanding why some parents introduce their child as their best friend. I’m not talking about an adult parent and adult child, but literal kids (toddlers in some cases). There are so many barriers to creating that kind of relationship in my mind, but this conversation may have changed that. There are several circumstances that yield single parenthood. I can understand how parent-child friendships form when they are all they’ve got, or at least they spend a significant amount of time together. How does the friendship line get crossed though? What are those conversations like with a child or adolescent best friend?This conversation isn’t condemning or condescending. It does; however, provoke thought about the boundaries of parent-child friendships. For instance, discipline shouldn’t be discarded for the sake of the friendship. Also, the child shouldn’t assume that the parent is a peer based on the relationship behavior. A big one for me is ensuring that the child maintains a healthy respect for the parent and other adults. Forgoing any of these could set the child up for a rude awakening when they enter the adult world outside of the house. In this episode we provide our perspectives on the importance of being a parent first and provide some real-time conclusions that will spark conversations in your mind and home. Our experiences are different, so our recommendations differ, but they align, nonetheless. Our conversations are unapologetically conducted through the lens of fatherhood because that’s the only experience we’ve had. We welcome the enhancing perspectives of all. We learned quite about ourselves during this dialogue, and that’s typical. Hopefully, a point or two will prompt you to have similar meaningful discussions in your home. We highly recommend that you consume the entire episode for the best results. Also, meet us in the comments or tag us with your opinion on social media via the links below. As always, we welcome your perspective. It takes a village. #daddyissues #parentingadvice #blackfathers #fatherandson #parentingtips #betterparents #vulnerable Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblacFollow the show:https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcastAlso, if you've made it this far, don't forget to:1. follow this podcast, 2. turn on auto-downloads,3. give this podcast a 5-star rating, 4. leave a stellar written review, and5. share this content with someone who needs it.The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.comSupport the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Johns & Co Apparel: https://johnsandcompany.coLove Kisha J Studios: https://etsy.com/shop/LoveKishaJStudiosOther social media: https://twitter.com/dearsonpodcasthttps://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcasthttps://tiktok.com/podcast_popsThe Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma3. Help through telling stories of it all“Better Men. Better Fathers.”Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-son/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Jun 20, 2023
48 min
Practice Doesn't Make Perfect | The Dear Son, Show | Ep 70 #fatherhood #hoopdreams #realitycheck
Enjoy the visual experience here: https://youtu.be/Ti1q8YN92D0Practice DOES NOT make perfect. This is a fact. Practice only makes you consistently good at what you do in practice. Practice wrong…you’ll surely play wrong. Practice long, and you’ll only gain endurance. Perfect practice is the only key to greatness. Don’t you agree?This may initially sound like a harsh take, but it’s pretty sound when you think about it. Repetition builds muscle memory, and eventually creates a habit or an almost subconscious response to an action. For instance, a boxer that is properly trained can rely on his training to be successful in the ring. The boxer that isn’t properly trained will quickly find out how unprepared he is and will spend the rest of the fight in his head trying to simply survive. Both boxers may have trained for an equal number of hours, but only one was perfecting his skills. This conversation isn’t necessarily about sports, though we had a good time with the pseudo greatest NBA player debate. We ultimately realized that the behavior we model as fathers requires perfect practice as well. It’s not good enough to just push our children to be great in sports, education, or any other discipline of life when our actions don’t reflect the character we’re selling to them. In this episode we provide our perspectives on the importance of identifying areas where we need to practice what we preach and provide some real-time conclusions that will spark conversations in your mind and home. Our experiences are different, so our recommendations differ, but they align, nonetheless. Our conversations are unapologetically conducted through the lens of fatherhood because that’s the only experience we’ve had. We welcome the enhancing perspectives of all. We learned quite about ourselves during this dialogue, and that’s typical. Hopefully, a point or two will prompt you to have similar meaningful discussions in your home. We highly recommend that you consume the entire episode for the best results. Also, meet us in the comments or tag us with your opinion on social media via the links below. As always, we welcome your perspective. It takes a village. #daddyissues #parentingadvice #blackfathers #fatherandson #parentingtips #betterparents #vulnerable Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblacFollow the show:https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcastAlso, if you've made it this far, don't forget to:1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications,3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and5. share this content with someone who needs it.The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.comSupport the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Johns & Co Apparel: https://johnsandcompany.coLove Kisha J Studios: https://etsy.com/shop/LoveKishaJStudiosOther social media: https://twitter.com/dearsonpodcasthttps://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcasthttps://tiktok.com/podcast_popsThe Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma3. Help through telling stories of it all“Better Men. Better Fathers.”Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-son/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Jun 13, 2023
48 min
The Curse of Comfort | The Dear Son, Show | Ep 69 #fatherhood #uncomfortable #hardwork #lazy
I’m willing to pay for convenience, and I’m not ashamed of that. When it’s time to travel, upgrade me please and thank you. If I’m driving to an event, front row park me for a fee. If I’m bored on the plane, take my money, and give me internet. I, like many, want what I want when I want it. Unfortunately, that convenience-craving character doesn’t easily detach from my roles as father and husband. Through repetition, it became a way of life and has robbed my family of meaningful opportunities to grow. For instance, I grew up cutting the grass at least weekly, that was my chore. I hated it and couldn’t wait until I was able to make somebody else do it. Instead of teaching my sons how to do it, I just paid someone. Once I realized how my obsession with convenience was impacting how they understand hard work, I adjusted. It’s still a frustrating uphill battle today. For me, providing a comfortable lifestyle for my family was a status symbol. However, I was also frustrated when I didn’t see my children’s’ work ethic showing up in certain areas. That frustration was compounded when I realized that it was my fault. This dichotomy governed my life for several years. In this episode we provide our perspectives on the importance of identifying areas of comfort that are stifling growth, and provide some real-time conclusions that will spark conversations in your mind and home. Our experiences are different, so our recommendations differ, but they align, nonetheless. Our conversations are unapologetically conducted through the lens of fatherhood because that’s the only experience we’ve had. We welcome the enhancing perspectives of all. We learned quite about ourselves during this dialogue, and that’s typical. Hopefully, a point or two will prompt you to have similar meaningful discussions in your home. We highly recommend that you consume the entire episode for the best results. Also, meet us in the comments or tag us with your opinion on social media via the links below. As always, we welcome your perspective. It takes a village. #daddyissues #parentingadvice #blackfathers #fatherandson #parentingtips #betterparents #vulnerable Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblacFollow the show:https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcastAlso, if you've made it this far, don't forget to:1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications,3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and5. share this content with someone who needs it.The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.comSupport the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Johns & Co Apparel: https://johnsandcompany.coLove Kisha J Studios: https://etsy.com/shop/LoveKishaJStudiosOther social media: https://twitter.com/dearsonpodcasthttps://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcasthttps://tiktok.com/podcast_popsThe Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma3. Help through telling stories of it all“Better Men. Better Fathers.”Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-son/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Jun 9, 2023
46 min
She Can’t Be What She’s Never Seen | The Dear Son, Show | Ep 68 #fatherhood #marriage #meettheparents #familybusiness
Dear Son, choose your wife carefully! Choosing a spouse is one of the most important decisions anyone can make in life. It’s a very intentional process, or at least it should be. The process is longer for some than it is for others, but there isn’t a process that guarantees favorable results after “I do.” Many feel like marriage isn’t worth it. I believe a healthy marriage is.People change, that’s just a constant in life. These changes differ by the individual and occur at different phases of life. This can take a toll on any relationship and requires a measure of patience and commitment to grow through it. Marriage is a future bet. Essentially, two people are in love with each other based on where they are individually and what they know about each other up to that point. If both people are going to change, that’s a huge risk to take. In this episode we provide our perspectives on the importance of the selection process, as well as the specific things that we want our sons (children) to focus on. Our experiences are different, so our recommendations differ, but they align, nonetheless. Our conversations are unapologetically conducted through the lens of fatherhood because that’s the only experience we’ve had. We welcome the enhancing perspectives of all. We learned quite about ourselves during this dialogue, and that’s typical. Hopefully, a point or two will prompt you to have similar meaningful discussions in your home. We highly recommend that you consume the entire episode for the best results. Also, meet us in the comments or tag us with your opinion on social media via the links below. As always, we welcome your perspective. It takes a village. #daddyissues #letsgetmarried #blackfathers #fatherandson #parentingtips #betterparents #vulnerable #vowsFollow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblacFollow the show:https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcastAlso, if you've made it this far, don't forget to:1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications,3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and5. share this content with someone who needs it.The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.comSupport the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Johns & Co Apparel: https://johnsandcompany.coLove Kisha J Studios: https://etsy.com/shop/LoveKishaJStudiosOther social media: https://twitter.com/dearsonpodcasthttps://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcasthttps://tiktok.com/podcast_popsThe Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma3. Help through telling stories of it all“Better Men. Better Fathers.”Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-son/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Jun 2, 2023
56 min
A Summer of Correction | Ready vs Prepared | Ep 67 #fatherhood #legacy #parenting #familybusiness
Enjoy the visual experience here: https://youtu.be/n0CImUxDp4sDear Son, are you ready or are you prepared? Those are not interchangeable terms, as some may assume. Let's take an honest look back at various decision points throughout our lives for context. A teenager that doesn't care for his parents' rules, may believe (with full conviction) that he is ready to move out. Emotionally, that may be true, but is he really prepared to handle life independently? Maybe a young woman is so ready to be married that she accepts the first proposal that right, only to learn that she wasn't prepared to be a wife (this happens with men too). There are also scenarios where an individual may have all of the knowledge, skills, and abilities to 'do a thing', but isn't mentally ready to deploy them. Sometimes they need external encouragement to help them realize that they are indeed ready. This isn't necessarily something that one automatically outgrows with age. Consider some of your decisions as a parent, employee, entrepreneur, or business owner that didn't yield the desired results? Were you emotionally ready, but not exactly prepared? I'm guilty of that for certain. In this episode we discussed the importance of objectivity in decision-making. Emotions drive more actions than preparation (in my opinion). Further, we explored what our responsibilities are as parents to first demonstrate, but also guide our children through the stages of preparation and readiness.  We learned quite about ourselves during this dialogue, and that’s typical. Hopefully, a point or two will prompt you to evaluate readiness and preparedness you in your home. We highly recommend that you consume the entire episode for the best results. Also, meet us in the comments or tag us with your opinion on social media via the links below. As always, we welcome your perspective. It takes a village. #daddyissues #accountable #blackfathers #fatherandson #parentingtips #betterparents #vulnerable Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblacFollow the show:https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcastAlso, if you've made it this far, don't forget to:1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications,3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and5. share this content with someone who needs it.The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.comSupport the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Johns & Co Apparel: https://johnsandcompany.coLove Kisha J Studios: https://etsy.com/shop/LoveKishaJStudiosOther social media: https://twitter.com/dearsonpodcasthttps://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcasthttps://tiktok.com/podcast_popsThe Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma3. Help through telling stories of it all“Better Men. Better Fathers.”Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-son/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
May 25, 2023
42 min
Dear Son, It's Bigger Than You | Ep 66 #fatherhood #legacy #parenting #familybusiness
Dear Son, It's bigger than you! Life is a series of choices. Some choices you make, and others are made for you. All of it is connected though, especially within a household. Every member of the family has a unique value to offer that dictates its legacy.Have you ever been curious about how successful families become household names? Johnson & Johnson, the Ford family and many others have created business empires that have survived and thrived for several generations. Do you think there was at least one generation that wanted to do something different? Perhaps, yes...perhaps, no. One train of thought suggests that the family business is mandatory, and everybody must work in it (for some period of time) without compromise. That sounds extreme. Maybe the ideas and principles of the family business were effectively woven into the family rhythm so seamlessly that each generation genuinely wanted to be part of the business when they became of age. To some, that may sound extreme as well. In this episode we discussed how communication, selflessness, and value are the critical pillars of a family's legacy. Further, we explored where the line between directing our children and guiding our children is drawn. Sometimes we do know better as parents. Other times we don't know enough, and our ceiling becomes theirs. Tread lightly. We learned quite about ourselves during this dialogue, and that’s typical. Hopefully, a point or two will prompt you to evaluate what's bigger than you in your home. We highly recommend that you consume the entire episode for the best results. Also, meet us in the comments or tag us with your opinion on social media via the links below. As always, we welcome your perspective. It takes a village. #daddyissues #accountable #blackfathers #fatherandson #parentingtips #betterparents #vulnerable Three takeaways from this discussion:1. Have open conversations with your children about the family's business (or finances, budget, etc.)2. Teach your children the importance of being selfless and how their actions (or inactions) contribute to the family's success. 3. Define what the family views as valuable and evaluate each member's role in creating value for the family. Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblacFollow the show:https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcasAlso, if you've made it this far, don't forget to:1. follow this podcast, 2. turn on auto-downloads,3. give this show a 5-star rating, 4. leave a stellar written review, and5. share this content with someone who needs it.The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.comSupport the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Johns & Co Apparel: https://johnsandcompany.coLove Kisha J Studios: https://etsy.com/shop/LoveKishaJStudiosOther social media: https://twitter.com/dearsonpodcasthttps://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcasthttps://tiktok.com/podcast_popsThe Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma3. Help through telling stories of it all“Better Men. Better Fathers.”Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-son/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
May 18, 2023
52 min
You’ll Be Better Because of Me, Not In Spite Of | Ep 65 #fatherhood #legacy #parenting
Enjoy the visual experience here: https://youtu.be/HqASbXeg_lIDear Son, you will be better because of me, not in spite of me.  A common sentiment amongst parents is the desire to provide a better experience to their children than what they had as a child. Every generation should be greater than the previous one, I agree. Sometimes we need to assess the source of our motivation to do or be better in life. In my opinion, anytime success is rooted in resentment, that’s a dangerous place to operate. Revenge parenting goes both ways. As a child I vowed to do many things very differently when I became a parent, and I had (have) great parents. The challenge is that I didn’t understand the full context of what they were going through as parents to appreciate the life that I was afforded. When I became a parent, I did indeed do things differently. The error in that approach is that I didn’t necessarily consider whether the approach was best for my children. In essence, the spite that I carried from my childhood gripes influenced my parenting approach. I can only imagine how parents that were abused or mistreated as children develop an obsession with being a great parent just to show their parents that they became great humans, despite their childhood experience. Erring on the side of caution feels like the right thing to do. I’m not arguing that. However, we must be mindful of what our children need to thrive in life instead of making them lead characters in our stage play of Revenge Parenting. Give this some intentional thought; it’s a precaution, not an attack.  We learned quite about ourselves during this dialogue, and that’s typical. Hopefully, a point or two will prompt you to evaluate the revenge parenting tendencies displayed in your home. We highly recommend that you consume the entire episode for the best results. Also, meet us in the comments or tag us with your opinion on social media via the links below. As always, we welcome your perspective. It takes a village. #daddyissues #accountable #blackfathers #fatherandson #parentingtips #betterparents #vulnerable Four takeaways from this discussion:1.     Discuss your struggles with your children, even the ones you believe they didn’t see. Be sure to convey how you overcame them or how you’re working through them.2.     Reinforce the importance of communication and be the example of how to do it effectively. 3.     Ask your children if they see you improving as a parent (and as a person).4.     Ask your children if they understand and feel prepared to carry on the family legacy.Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblacFollow the show:https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcastAlso, if you've made it this far, don't forget to:1. follow this podcast, 2. turn on auto-downloads,3. give this show a 5-star rating, 4. leave a a stellar written review, and5. share this content with someone who needs it.The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.comSupport the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Johns & Co Apparel: https://johnsandcompany.coLove Kisha J Studios: https://etsy.com/shop/LoveKishaJStudiosOther social media: https://twitter.com/dearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcasthttps://tiktok.com/podcast_popsThe Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma3. Help through telling stories of it all“Better Men. Better Fathers.”Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-son/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
May 11, 2023
54 min
Load more