It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you have a tumultuous relationship history, is "boring" maybe a good thing? If you feel yourself becoming resentful in your relationship because your sacrifices outnumber your partner's, what to do? And not one, not two, but THREE heavy-hitting platonic friendship questions! What does Shandy consider a "friendship-reconsidering" level crime? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.FastGrowingTrees.com and use code SHANDY at checkout for an additional 15% off! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE! - Go to https://www.earthbreeze.com/SHANDY for 40% off! - Go to https://quince.com/shandy for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Q1: Does Healthy = Boring? 10:35 - Q2: My Friend Accused Me Of “Bitching & Complaining” And Our Friendship Is Suddenly Over—What Happened?! 23:50 - Q3: My Friend Moved Out Of Town And Now Zoom-Joins Our In-Person Hangs—Am I The Asshole For Disliking This? 33:46 - Q4: Should I Let My Friend’s Outrageous Wedding Request Make Me See Her Differently? 46:03 - Q5: I’ve Sacrificed More For This Relationship Than My Boyfriend Has And Am Feeling Resentful—Help! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

At the heart of so many relationship questions we've received—and relationships in general—is a common thread: EMPATHY. This "healing force", as our esteemed guest calls it, has the power to not only heal our relationships with others, but with ourselves. So why do so few of us understand its powers? Today we're honored to be joined by THE foremost expert on empathy, Dr. Judith Orloff, dubbed “the godmother of the empath movement.” Dr. Orloff is a board-certified psychiatrist and the New York Times best-selling author of several books, including 2017's landmark "The Empath’s Survival Guide" and her latest, "The Genius of Empathy: Practical Skills to Heal Your Sensitive Self, Your Relationships, and the World". Today she helps dispel the misconceptions around empathy, demonstrates how to draw healthy boundaries, and explains the transformative, healing power of SELF-empathy. She explains why it's OK that your partner isn't the same empathy "type" as you, whether or not you can have too much empathy, and how to approach someone whose beliefs you fundamentally disagree with. Today's conversation is the warm hug you needed and will hopefully inspire healing in your more complicated relationships, especially the one you have with yourself. Thank you to our sponsor! - Go to https://www.rocketmoney.com/SHANDY to save money and cancel unwanted subscriptions with just a few taps! More Dr. Judith Orloff: - The book, "The Genius Of Empathy": https://bit.ly/3U6uCRk - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/judith.orloff.md - Website: https://drjudithorloff.com Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To The Legendary Dr. Judith Orloff! 3:41 - What Is Empathy & Empathy Vs Compassion 5:10 - What Are Her Thoughts On The Term “Empath” Becoming Mainstream? 6:52 - The Biggest Misconceptions About Empathy 10:32 - Drawing Boundaries 16:19 - Is Empathy Something We’re Born With? Nature Vs Nurture 17:31 - Can One Really Become *More* Empathic? 20:38 - The Empathy Types 23:13 - Mismatched Empathy In Relationships 29:19 - Tips For Self Empathy 31:24 - How Can I Make Empathy Work In A Way That Isn’t Ultimately To My Disadvantage? 34:04 - Is Self Awareness A Prerequisite to Self Empathy? 34:54 - Tips For Avoiding Empathy-Deficient Types 37:10 - When It Feels Like Someone Doesn’t Deserve Empathy 39:19 - Empathy Vs Enablement 43:29 - Is There Such A Thing As Too Much Empathy? 45:12 - Sharleen’s Takeaways 46:11 - Tips For Empathizing With Someone Whose Beliefs You Fundamentally Disagree With 49:06 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Just 3 weeks after our Love Fest with Gerry Turner and Theresa Nist, the couple announced in a Good Morning America interview that, after only 3 months of marriage, they're getting divorced. Many of you wanted to hear our take on this bombshell news, particularly in the wake of such a recent Love Fest. So today, in a first-of-its-kind bonus episode, we're answering your burning questions Q&A style. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save 35%! - Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save up to 60% off your subscription! - Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50! - Go to https://www.FastGrowingTrees.com and use code SHANDY at checkout for an additional 15% off! Our Love Fest with Gerry and Theresa: https://youtu.be/hWCr91mBGb0?si=y_xga_xJH9MhReo3 Referenced "bet" of Andy's: https://www.instagram.com/reel/Ce-GWUtDbhq/?igsh=Znhkamk2bGhrNDAw Time Stamps: 0:00 - Introduction 2:41 - How Shocked Is Shandy? 6:46 - When Did You Record The Love Fest With Gerry & Theresa? 7:29 - Was Dear Shandy The Source Of The Tea That They Were Living Apart? 10:07 - Why Do You Think It Didn’t Work Out? 16:20 - When Recording The Love Fest, Did You Sense Anything Was Off? 20:28 - Do You Think They Were Honest On Your Love Fest? 20:39 - Did ABC Push Them To Come On Dear Shandy? 21:20 - Is There A Dear Shandy Love Fest Curse? 26:07 - Did Andy Bet Money On How Long They Would Last? 27:00 - Do You Think 3 Months Was Enough To Determine It Wouldn’t Work? 27:10 - If You Two Met At Gerry & Theresa’s Age And Lived Far Apart, What Would You Have Done? 29:00 - Does This Make You Love The Golden Bachelor Less? 29:44 - Do You Think Gerry Will Get Back Together With Leslie? 30:25 - Should Golden Bachelor Follow A Love Is Blind Format And Cast People From The Same City? 31:06 - Should The Franchise Scrap Golden Bachelorette? 32:27 - Why Do You Think They Did The Televised Wedding & Do You Think Production Feels Guilty? 34:37 - Bonus Question  35:03 - Closing Thoughts If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

She's baaaack! For the first time ever, and by popular request, we've brought BACK a Hot Topic guest to pick up where we left off! Our first episode with Maria Avgitidis—4th generation matchmaker and host of the Ask A Matchmaker podcast—was such a hit that you asked for more! In case you missed our Confessions Of A Matchmaker episode with Maria, aka Part 1, it's here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-shandy/id1525795747?i=1000597672805 Today Maria returns to answer follow up questions from Part 1, but also to give us her tough-love and honest take on the rules of dating. Sharpen your pencils, Shandies, because Dating School is in session! How is swipe culture affecting dating today? What's Maria's 12-Date Method, and her Pre-Date 3-2-1 Prep? Who pays on the first date, and does she believe in living together before getting engaged? Finally, what is Maria's "controversial" opinion, and will Shandy agree or disagree? As always, Maria's brutal honesty is a breath of fresh air and Shandy's delighted to welcome her back! Thank you to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.drinkAG1.com/DEARSHANDY to get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D3K2 AND 5 Free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! - Go to https://www.FastGrowingTrees.com and use code SHANDY at checkout for an additional 15% off! - Go to https://jennikayne.com and use code DEARSHANDY to get 15% off your first order! - Go to https://www.shopbeam.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout for up to 40% off! More Maria: - Agape Match: https://agapematch.com - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matchmakermaria - Ask A Matchmaker Podcast: https://plinkhq.com/i/1521530338?to=page Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome BACK To Matchmaker Maria! 2:41 - How Does She Define Her 93% Success Rate? 8:49 - What’s The Most Awkward Conversation She’s Had To Have With A Client? 11:38 - Decisions Paying Clients Make That Frustrate Her 16:21 - What Would She Say To People Who Think Her Matchmaking Fees Are Too High? 24:46 - How Swipe Culture Affects The World Of Matchmaking 29:01 - The 12-Date Rule 40:30 - Pre-Date 3-2-1 Prep 47:44 - Who Pays On The First Date? 52:29 - Maria’s Controversial Opinion 56:30 - What If Someone Never Gets Asked On A Second Date? 59:39 - Living Together Before Getting Engaged 1:09:01 - Moving For Love & “Importing” 1:14:53 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! How important is "niceness" in a partner, and is it enough? If you have a massive crush on someone out of town, how do you escalate from casual, sporadic dates to long-distance relationship? If you and your partner agree to boycott an establishment and he lies about having caved, is this a red flag? Finally, an epic Am-I-The-Asshole question, board game edition! Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.cbdistillery.com and use code SHANDY for 20% off! - Go to https://oakessentials.com and use promo code SHANDY15 for 15% off your first order plus a free gift! - Go to https://www.FastGrowingTrees.com and use code SHANDY at checkout for an additional 15% off! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Introduction 0:54 - Q1: Is “Nice” Enough? 7:06 - Q2: My BF Lied About Visiting An Establishment We Had Agreed To Boycott—Is This A Red Flag? 21:28 - Q3: I Have A Huge Crush On A Girl & Don’t Know How To Escalate Things—Help! 42:37 - Q4: The Transient Nature Of My Career Has Left Me Unmotivated To Date—Help! 53:08 - Q5: Am I The Asshole, Board Game Edition If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's GOLDEN Love Fest time! 🎉 Today Shandy is joined by a couple whose love story they are very familiar with, as Charity's season was hotly recapped here at Dear Shandy! The world fell in love with Charity & Dotun's relationship, and Shandy is thrilled to have them join for what can truly be described as a double date! Today Charity and Dotun give the juiciest, most satisfying and SPECIFIC answers about their first impressions, common misconceptions, beliefs that have changed, and of course, how they fight! Finally, a hilariously exhausting Newlyweds Game, exhausting because too much fun was being had! Who knows who better? Watch on to find out! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.shopbeam.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout for up to 40% off! - Go to https://quince.com/SHANDY for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns! Go to https://www.rocketmoney.com/SHANDY to save money and cancel unwanted subscriptions the easy way! - Head to https://www.factormeals.com/SHANDY50 and use code SHANDY50 to get 50% off! More Charity: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/charitylawson TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@charity.lawson More Dotun: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dotunolubeko TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@dotunolubeko Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Charity & Dotun! 4:20 - Is Shandy Together? 5:23 - First Impressions 20:20 - How They Complement Each Other 23:10 - How Their Partner Is Different Than They Imagined For Themselves 31:50 - Early Hurdle 35:59 - How They Fight 42:25 - Most Common Misconception 49:49 - Beliefs About Relationships That Have Changed 55:33 - The Newlyweds Game 1:14:53 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 28 recaps! Today we're breaking down the Finale and After The Final Rose! Thank you to our sponsors... - Go to https://prose.com/DEARSHANDY for 50% off your first subscription order today! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE! - Go to https://www.skims.com and get free shipping on orders over $75! - Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save 55% off your subscription! - Go to https://www.FastGrowingTrees.com and use code SHANDY at checkout for an additional 15% off! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:39 - Finale Kick Off 3:07 - Joey’s Family 10:31 - Daisy’s Final Date 17:52 - Kelsey’s Final Date 22:15 - Proposal Day 24:51 - Daisy & Kelsey 28:18 - The Breakup 35:27 - The Proposal 37:14 - After The Final Rose 42:07 - Bachelorette 51:10 - Andy’s A-Game 52:12 - Shandy Word Watch 53:32 - Night One Predictions 54:58 - Special Introduction If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's GOLDEN Love Fest time! 🎉 Today Shandy is joined by none other than the Golden Bachelor himself, Gerry Turner, and his blushing bride, Theresa Nist! The world stopped to watch these two fall in love late last year, then again when they tied the knot on live television in January, and Shandy is beyond thrilled to host this exclusive post-wedding interview! (Psst: turns out Theresa is a Shandy!!!) Today Gerry and Theresa describe how they complement each other, their love languages, what their early hurdle has been (spoiler alert: it's ongoing!), and of course, how they fight! Finally, a delightful Newlyweds Game revealing many fun tidbits about this beautiful couple! Who knows who better? Watch on to find out! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.earthbreeze.com/SHANDY for 40% off your subscription! - Go to https://www.drinkAG1.com/DEARSHANDY to get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D3K2 AND 5 Free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase! More Gerry: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/goldengerryturner/ More Theresa: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/theresa_nist/ Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Gerry & Theresa! 2:34 - First Impressions  6:32 - Three Adjectives 8:13 - How They Complement Each Other 13:00 - Gerry Becoming Golden Bachelor 15:29 - Love Languages 16:46 - Early Hurdle 22:24 - How They Fight 25:27 - Common Misconceptions 28:01 - Beliefs That Have Changed 30:29 - Love Advice 32:17 - The Newlyweds Game 44:14 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 28 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 10, aka Women Tell All! Thank you to our sponsors... - Go to https://oakessentials.com and use promo code SHANDY15 for 15% off your first order plus a free gift! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 0:30 - Women Tell All Kick Off 4:17 - The Hashing Out Of Drama 12:11 - Lexi Hot Seat 12:55 - Jenn Hot Seat 16:39 - Maria Hot Seat 24:23 - Tulum/Last Week’s “Cliffhanger” 29:59 - Rose Ceremony 31:17 - Rachel Hot Seat 35:32 - Joey Hot Seat 36:16 - Bloopers 39:32 - Previews 40:05 - Shandy Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

By extremely popular demand, Shandy is back to recapping Love Is Blind, Season 6! Today we're breaking down the Reunion! Thanks to our sponsors... - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com:/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save up to 35%! - Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50! - Go to https://prose.com/DEARSHANDY for 50% off your first subscription order today! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping + Surprise For Andy 1:33 - Overall Thoughts 6:13 - Sharleen’s Best Dressed 7:56 - Amy & Johnny 9:25 - Jeramey, Sarah Ann & Laura 19:11 - Trevor 25:04 - AD & Clay 31:52 - Highlights 36:36 - Jessica & Jimmy 40:05 - Megan Fox 43:31 - Chelsea 45:39 - Brittany & Kenneth 48:26 - Matthew 50:13 - Chelsea & Kwame 50:56 - The End If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices