WELCOME TO KINK AND OTHER STUFFToday we’re joined by bone fide civilian and horn-bag Son Guzzardi. Son shares some awful teen experiences at Catholic school, their early long-term relationship with an older man and then a joyful exploration – and perhaps late adolescence – as a queer person. Son is now married with kids and we talk about how that squares with being – in their words – a ho. Son talks about finding the kink scene and how empowering that was.We also take some listener calls on non-monogamy, poly and related issues. Finally, we end with a fight about bisexuality and we witness the evolution of The Son from biphobia to open-minded acceptance and also, from their previous codependent ways to valuing autonomy and space. Son is warm, open, funny and very generous in sharing about mistakes they’ve made and how they’ve changed. I absolutely loved this chat and I reckon you will too.PATREON SUBSCRIBERSSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast!For $5 a month you get a bonus epFor $10 a month you get a bonus ep and video contentFor $20 a month you get all that PLUS Nelly will write your online dating profile for you DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

BREAKING UP IS HARD TO DOAh, this one is self-explanatory: break-ups, recovery, heart-break and all the things.A special, personal episode.Ted Talk: how to fix a broken heart HERELIVE SHOW INFO AND TICKETS: HEREPATREON SUBSCRIBERSSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast!For $5 a month you get a bonus epFor $10 a month you get a bonus ep and video contentFor $20 a month you get all that PLUS Nelly will write your online dating profile for you DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERENelly xx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

WADE DUFFIN: GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSIONToday we are joined by aspiring screen-writer and house-dad Wade Duffin who made a massive pivot in middle-age. We talk about Wade's early dating mistakes, the challenges and joys of marriage and, Wade's dealbreakers. We also take a brilliant listener call on how to support someone through divorce and a great letter on "Consensual Noon-Monogamy". A heartwarming and hilarious episode - enjoy!LIVE SHOW TICKETS HERE PATREON SUBSCRIBERSSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast!For $5 a month you get a bonus epFor $10 a month you get a bonus ep and video contentFor $20 a month you get all that PLUS Nelly will write your online dating profile for you DEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr Gilbert Caluya: Bravery is OverratedToday we are joined by academic and author Dr Gilbert Caluya. Gilbert is trained in Critical Thinking Theory; or what we call here at Dear Nelly, Ripping Up the Script.Gilbert talks to me about his shame, pride and how the scripts of "bravery" can be damaging. Gilbert is a Gay, Asian man and we talk about the racism he has experienced in dating, his early dating history, age-gaps and his life as a long-term single man.LIVE SHOW TICKETS HEREPATREON SUBSCRIBERSSign up HERE for bonus content and to support the podcast!For $5 a month you get a bonus epFor $10 a month you get a bonus ep and video contentFor $20 a month you get all that PLUS Nelly will write your online dating profile for youDEAR NELLY PLUSSubscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month.SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr Debra Campbell: don't date your therapist!Deb Campbell is an author and psychologist. I talk to Deb today about her relationships history, her divorce, her remarriage and her experience of DATING HER FORMER THERAPIST (hot tip: don't do that). We take some wonderful listener calls and do the usual memes and other stuff. A cracker ep from an actual expert.Deb's website: HERE (buy her book LOVELANDS via her website - I highly recommend it)BONUS EPISODES:Subscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SPECIAL EPISODE WITH SHITTING WITH THE DOOR OPEN PODCAST: FRIENDS AS SOUL-MATESWe are joined today by two of my favourite people, Wade Duffin and Harley Breen. In a Dear Nelly Special I am joined by TWO guests to talk about a different kind of love - the love of friends. Wade and Harley are LOOSE UNITS and this episode is filled with laughter and dick jokes. We get into the importance of friends, different types of love, mental health and fresh vaj (that will make sense). We take a great (but frightening) listener call about online dating, and we finish up with "stupid shit" an ex-friend has done and "he's a ten but..." - AKA friendship dealbreakers.We talk about "THE ONE": maybe there's more "than one" or, your "one" is a best mate. Food for thought.Please take this opportunity to listen to Wade and Harley's wonderful podcast Shitting with the Door Open: HERE.Enjoy!Nelly xBONUS EPISODES:Subscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERE If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

GERALDINE HICKEY IS BACK FOR SLOPPY SECONDSGezza is back! She asks me what it's like to tackle "Divorce Admin" (hint: it's diabolical). We briefly chat about The Ultimatum: Queer Love on Netflix and how to handle rejection. We take some great listener calls on how to support a friend in a concerning relationship and, how to respectfully navigate a relationship with a trans woman. We also do a letter on TAKING YOUR KIDS ON A DATE and we finish with Gezza's BIG MISTAKE.Geraldine is golden, as always. Enjoy!GERALDINE'S WEBSITE: HEREJacinta Parson's article: HEREDivorce admin list: HERE (scroll down)BONUS EPISODES:Subscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Bev Killick: married after ONE DATEThis may be our funniest episode yet. I laughed so much a little bit of wee came out. Comedian Bev Killick talks us through her first marriage to a man she'd known for ONE NIGHT. We take a beautiful listener call on getting your mojo back and do the memes and all the stuff. Get your Tena Lady ready - this one is a wild ride.Bev's facebook: HEREBONUS EPISODES:Subscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERELove yas,Nelly xxx If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SPECIAL EPISODE 2: THROW AN ELBOW EARLYWhile Nelly is having a short, well-earned break we present to you the first of the series - Best Of Dear Nelly.We'll be back in two weeks but until then enjoy the funniest bits from the first 21 eps, some memes, a Culture Share about "Queen Charlotte" and some new listener calls.BONUS EPISODES:Subscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERENelly x If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SPECIAL EPISODE: ALL THE FUNNY BITSWhile Nelly is having a short, well-earned break we present to you the first of the series - Best Of Dear Nelly.We'll be back in two weeks but until then enjoy the funniest bits from the first 20 eps, some bloopers and some new listener calls! You also get Nelly's take on the Kardashians and some other stuff.BONUS EPISODES:Subscribe to NELLY+ HERE to support the podcast and to get a Bonus Episode a Month. SEND NELLY A MESSAGE:Send Nelly a Voicemail HERE if you have a question or comment. Nelly's website HEREFahey's website HEREProducer Boy website HERE If you love the podcast, please rate, review and spread the word. This stuff works best by word-of-mouth so please share, share and share some more. We can't do this without you!Nelly, Producer Fahey and Producer Sammy xxx https://plus.acast.com/s/dear-nelly. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.