Show notes
A lot of women are asking the same question right now: “So if my partner gets defensive, I’m supposed to be his therapist?” Dr. Tracy validates why that reaction makes sense, especially when you’re already exhausted, resentful, and carrying too much.She breaks down a common moment: you ask for help in a clear, non-attacking way, and your partner responds with defensiveness because shame gets activated. The key point is this: pausing to say “What’s going on right now?” isn’t you doing emotional labor for them. It’s you using your own agency to avoid the familiar low-road cycle of blame and escalation, so you can redirect back to the actual issue and still get your needs addressed.RESOURCESGet Relationship Coaching & Community Inside Be ConnectedOrder my new book! You, Your Husband, and His MotherWant your questions answered on the show? Submit them here! Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: Take it hereReady to deepen your connection? Download my 100 QuestionsBuild better connection and feel close starting today. Join the 30 Days to Us ChallengeFOLLOW DR. TRACYSubscribe to the podcast https://www.youtube.com/@drtracydFollow on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/drtracydFollow on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
