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In this short From the Couch Q&A episode, Dr. Tracy responds to a listener who feels crushed by guilt after she and her husband chose to go no-contact with his sister (and her family) after years of escalating conflict.The listener shares that the tension started around their engagement, with ongoing attacks, scapegoating, and a painful pattern of being blamed for “destroying the family.” Dr. Tracy offers a crucial reframe: in many in-law dynamics, the partner didn’t “ruin” the family, the family system changed when the couple formed their own unit, and some people fight hard to pull things back to the way they were.Dr. Tracy explores the complexity of sibling bonds and family roles, including how guilt and blame can become part of a bigger system (triangles, rescuer roles, unspoken expectations). She also names the emotional whiplash many people feel in estrangement: relief and grief at the same time.LINKS FROM EPISODE:Order my new book! You, Your Husband, and His MotherMy first book: I Didn't Sign Up for ThisGet Relationship Support Inside Be ConnectedWant your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!RESOURCESDiscover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: Take it hereReady to deepen your connection? Download my 100 QuestionsBuild better connection and feel close starting today. Join the 30 Days to Us ChallengeFOLLOW DR. TRACYSubscribe to the podcast https://www.youtube.com/@drtracydFollow on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/drtracydFollow on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
