In this episode, I talk to Clare Cui from @bethathealinggirl about anxious attachment, intellectualizing emotions, and other ways we hold ourselves back in dating and relationships. We talk about the deep conditioning that drives us to seek control through logic, how we end up triggering ourselves without realizing it, and the confusion between intuition and anxiety. Clare shares how anxious attachment often hides in plain sight for high achievers, and we dig into why so many of us look for safety in others instead of creating it internally. This conversation is packed with mic-drop moments and hard truths that will get you thinking differently about your emotions, how you handle them, and how that relates to your love life.Check out Clare's podcast, Be That Healing Girl PodcastPARTNERSArmoire is giving DI listeners 50% off their first month!Get an extended free trial of Dipsea!Get a discount on your Galatea membership!CONNECT WITH ME:Ask a question for me to answer on the podSlide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENTFree texting templates & dating FAQ guideGet more dating advice from me on YouTubeDating Intentionally on TikTokRead more on the blogDATING COURSESSwipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating AppsHow To Identify Your Needs 1-hr Classhttps://dating-intentionally.mykajabi.com/offers/2NMTrWo4/checkout SUPPORT THE PODRate on Apple Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.