In this episode, I dive into one of the most common questions I get asked: “Am I being too rigid or picky when it comes to dating?” We explore the difference between having healthy standards and being overly selective, and why it’s essential to be clear about your non-negotiables, values, and deal breakers. I’ll walk you through how to discern between your wants and needs in a partner, share insights on what it means to date with intention, and show you how to trust your intuition when deciding if someone aligns with your vision for a fulfilling, lasting relationship. If you’re ready to stop second-guessing and confidently attract your forever person, this episode is for you! JOIN ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠'THE NEXT CHAPTER'⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: for women 40+ who are ready to go from feeling unworthy, stuck and lacking hope after divorce, to feeling confident and excited AF to start a positive new chapter in life and love! CONNECT ON SOCIALS: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@thequeenbcollective⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@thequeenbcollective⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Work With Me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://workwithbel.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ SUPPORT THE SHOW: If you loved this episode and the podcast, please rate, subscribe, leave a review, share a screenshot of this episode on instagram and tag me so I know you're tuning in and loving it. Also, share this podcast with a fellow Queen who needs the reminder that divorce doesn't have to be the end of your life or love story - it's only just the beginning!

In this episode, I walk you through the five powerful differences between a high-level, aligned relationship and the average relationship most people settle for. Drawing from my personal experiences, I’ll help you recognise the key signs of a deeply loving, long-lasting relationship and show you why emotional depth, true partnership, and shared goals are non-negotiable. If you’ve ever felt like you’re coexisting with your partner or compromising your dreams for less than you deserve, this episode is for you. It’s time to step into your Queen energy, hold out for the love you truly want, and stop settling for less. You’ll learn: How to differentiate between emotional depth and surface-level connection What true partnership looks like vs. simply coexisting Why trust, aligned values, and uplifting each other are essential for lasting love The importance of stepping into the identity of a woman who attracts this high-level relationship JOIN ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠'THE NEXT CHAPTER'⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: for women 40+ who are ready to go from feeling unworthy, stuck and lacking hope after divorce, to feeling confident and excited AF to start a positive new chapter in life and love! CONNECT ON SOCIALS: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@thequeenbcollective⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@thequeenbcollective⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Work With Me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://workwithbel.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ SUPPORT THE SHOW: If you loved this episode and the podcast, please rate, subscribe, leave a review, share a screenshot of this episode on instagram and tag me so I know you're tuning in and loving it. Also, share this podcast with a fellow Queen who needs the reminder that divorce doesn't have to be the end of your life or love story - it's only just the beginning!

In this episode, I’m diving deep into why dating with intention is the game-changer for attracting a meaningful, aligned, and lasting relationship. I’ve been there—after my divorce, I followed the standard dating advice: swiping constantly, cramming my schedule with dates, and hoping someone would eventually click. Spoiler: it didn’t work. Today, I’m sharing my story of how shifting to dating with discernment completely transformed my dating life—and ultimately led me to the man of my dreams. If you’ve been feeling burnt out, stuck in a cycle of endless swiping, or wondering why you're still single after doing everything the "experts" say... this episode is for you. Learn how intentional dating can help you: Avoid burnout and exhaustion from bad dates Filter out men who aren’t aligned with your values and goals Feel more empowered, present, and confident in your dating journey Attract a high-quality man who’s perfect for you If you’re ready to ditch mindless swiping and start dating with purpose, tune in now! JOIN ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠'THE NEXT CHAPTER'⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: for women 40+ who are ready to go from feeling unworthy, stuck and lacking hope after divorce, to feeling confident and excited AF to start a positive new chapter in life and love! CONNECT ON SOCIALS: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@thequeenbcollective⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@thequeenbcollective⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Work With Me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://workwithbel.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ SUPPORT THE SHOW: If you loved this episode and the podcast, please rate, subscribe, leave a review, share a screenshot of this episode on instagram and tag me so I know you're tuning in and loving it. Also, share this podcast with a fellow Queen who needs the reminder that divorce doesn't have to be the end of your life or love story - it's only just the beginning!

In this empowering episode, we dive deep into how to embody your Queen energy in the dating world to attract the right man for you. Learn four game-changing strategies that will transform your approach to dating after divorce: Speak directly to your ideal partner, not to all men Own your amazing qualities without playing small Consistently show up as the highest version of yourself Stay convicted in your worth and vision, regardless of circumstances Discover how to create a magnetic dating profile, communicate your needs with confidence, and maintain high standards in your search for love. Whether you're new to dating or looking to refine your approach, this episode provides practical advice to help you attract a soul-aligned, lasting relationship. Stop settling for less and start embodying the Queen energy that will naturally draw your King to you. It's time to call in the epic love story you deserve!"

In this episode, we tackle two common dating dilemmas faced by women over 40 after divorce. First, we explore how to know if you're truly ready to re-enter the dating scene after the ending of a long-term relationship. Learn how to recognise the signs that you might need more healing time and how to approach dating with intention when you are ready. Then, we address the frustrating issue of attracting non-committal men and offer practical strategies to filter out players and align with high-quality, relationship-minded men. Packed with real-world advice and empowering insights, this episode will help you approach post-divorce dating with clarity, confidence, and a strong sense of self-worth. Whether you're hesitant to start dating or looking to refine your approach, this episode provides the guidance you need to navigate the modern dating landscape successfully. JOIN ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠'THE NEXT CHAPTER'⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: for women 40+ who are ready to go from feeling unworthy, stuck and lacking hope after divorce, to feeling confident and excited AF to start a positive new chapter in life and love! CONNECT ON SOCIALS: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@thequeenbcollective⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@thequeenbcollective⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Work With Me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://workwithbel.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ SUPPORT THE SHOW: If you loved this episode and the podcast, please rate, subscribe, leave a review, share a screenshot of this episode on instagram and tag me so I know you're tuning in and loving it. Also, share this podcast with a fellow Queen who needs the reminder that divorce doesn't have to be the end of your life or love story - it's only just the beginning!

In this episode, we dive deep into the mindset and identity shifts you need to make to attract a deeply aligned, fulfilling relationship that lasts. It’s not just about tips and tricks — it's about who you become in the process. I’ll guide you through stepping into your Queen energy, building unshakable self-worth, and becoming the truest, most magnetic version of yourself. Whether you're stuck in fear, feeling unworthy, or just exhausted by dating, this episode will help you rise to the next level and attract your dream man. Your transformation starts here. Tune in for a raw, real conversation on creating the relationship of your dreams — by becoming the person who’s meant to have it. JOIN ⁠⁠⁠⁠'THE NEXT CHAPTER'⁠⁠⁠⁠: for women 40+ who are ready to go from feeling unworthy, stuck and lacking hope after divorce, to feeling confident and excited AF to start a positive new chapter in life and love! CONNECT ON SOCIALS: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@thequeenbcollective⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@thequeenbcollective⁠⁠⁠⁠ Work With Me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://workwithbel.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠ SUPPORT THE SHOW: If you loved this episode and the podcast, please rate, subscribe, leave a review, share a screenshot of this episode on instagram and tag me so I know you're tuning in and loving it. Also, share this podcast with a fellow Queen who needs the reminder that divorce doesn't have to be the end of your life or love story - it's only just the beginning!

In this episode, we’re diving into the instant gratification traps in dating that are blocking you from finding real love. When you’ve been single for a while, it’s easy to fall into the cycle of swiping for the rush, texting without meeting, or flirting for surface-level validation. These behaviours might give you a quick dopamine hit, but they’re ultimately keeping you from the meaningful, committed relationship you truly desire. I’ll share my own journey of breaking free from these patterns and how I cleaned up my energy to attract the love I deserved. We’ll explore practical steps to shift your dating habits, set stronger boundaries, and align your actions with your goals. If you’re ready to move beyond the instant gratification cycle and start attracting high-quality men, this episode is for you. Listen now to learn how to clean up your dating energy, embody your Queen energy, and become a match for the deeply fulfilling relationship you’ve been waiting for! If you need extra support in making these changes, I offer 1:1 coaching to help you uplevel your dating life and attract the love you want (Links are below). JOIN ⁠⁠⁠⁠'THE NEXT CHAPTER'⁠⁠⁠⁠: for women 40+ who are ready to go from feeling unworthy, stuck and lacking hope after divorce, to feeling confident and excited AF to start a positive new chapter in life and love! CONNECT ON SOCIALS: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@thequeenbcollective⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@thequeenbcollective⁠⁠⁠⁠ Work With Me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://workwithbel.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠ SUPPORT THE SHOW: If you loved this episode and the podcast, please rate, subscribe, leave a review, share a screenshot of this episode on instagram and tag me so I know you're tuning in and loving it. Also, share this podcast with a fellow Queen who needs the reminder that divorce doesn't have to be the end of your life or love story - it's only just the beginning!

In this empowering episode of "Dating After Divorce," we dive deep into the transformative process of taking control of your life after a significant relationship ends. Divorce and breakups can leave you feeling lost and stuck in a limbo between your past and a future that hasn't yet begun. But today, I'm here to remind you that you are the MF'ing author of your own life! In this episode, you'll explore how to consciously and deliberately reclaim your narrative, move beyond the identity of your past relationship, and start scripting a compelling vision for your future. Here’s what's covered: 1.     Reclaiming Your Identity: Understand how divorce can consume your identity and learn ways to rediscover who you are outside of that relationship. 2.     Setting Intentions: Hear my personal story of how I made two powerful promises to myself post-divorce to cultivate a fulfilling life and attract a deeply loving relationship. 3.     The Power of Scripting: Learn about the powerful tool of scripting – a method of manifesting where you write your desired reality as if it has already happened. Discover how this practice can help you visualise and create the life you want. 4.     Practical Steps: Get practical advice on how to script your ideal life, from using pen and paper to creating vivid, emotive visions that excite and motivate you. 5.     Living Your Vision: Emphasise the importance of not putting your life on hold while waiting for a relationship. Understand how living a happy and meaningful life can make you more attractive to potential partners and help you avoid settling for less than you deserve. 6.     Staying Inspired: Learn how to regularly tap into your vision to stay motivated and aligned with your goals, ensuring that you take action to bring your dreams to life. Join me for an episode filled with personal anecdotes, actionable advice, and inspiring insights to help you become the author of your own story and manifest the life and love you truly deserve. Whether you're fresh out of a marriage or relationship or have been single for a while, this episode will provide you with the tools and mindset shifts necessary to thrive in life and love after divorce. JOIN ⁠⁠⁠'THE NEXT CHAPTER'⁠⁠⁠: for women 40+ who are ready to go from feeling unworthy, stuck and lacking hope after divorce, to feeling confident and excited AF to start a positive new chapter in life and love! CONNECT ON SOCIALS: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@thequeenbcollective⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠@thequeenbcollective⁠⁠⁠ Work With Me: ⁠⁠⁠https://workwithbel.com/⁠⁠⁠ SUPPORT THE SHOW: If you loved this episode and the podcast, please rate, subscribe, leave a review, share a screenshot of this episode on instagram and tag me so I know you're tuning in and loving it. Also, share this podcast with a fellow Queen who needs the reminder that divorce doesn't have to be the end of your life or love story - it's only just the beginning!

Are you feeling frustrated with your dating life? Do you feel like no matter what you do, you're not finding the love you desire? You're not alone, and there is hope! In this episode, I share four powerful questions that can help you uncover the root causes of your dating challenges and guide you towards a more fulfilling love life. What do I actually believe is possible for me when it comes to love? We dive deep into the stories and beliefs that might be holding you back. I'll share my personal journey of overcoming limiting beliefs and how changing your mindset can transform your dating experience. Have I fully declared that I want this relationship? We'll explore the importance of owning your desires and being clear about what you want. I'll discuss how making a firm decision and aligning your actions with your intentions can open doors to meaningful connections. Am I showing up in the world as the Queen who is already in her dream relationship? Learn how to embody the energy of the person you aspire to be. I'll provide practical tips on how to elevate your self-worth, set healthy boundaries, and attract high-value partners. Am I willing to stay in this for the long haul? Finding lasting love often requires patience and persistence. I'll talk about the importance of resilience and staying true to your vision, even when the journey feels long and challenging. Tune in for heartfelt advice, personal anecdotes, and actionable steps that will empower you to navigate the dating world with confidence and clarity. It's time to transform your approach and attract the love you deserve! JOIN ⁠⁠'THE NEXT CHAPTER'⁠⁠: for women 40+ who are ready to go from feeling unworthy, stuck and lacking hope after divorce, to feeling confident and excited AF to start a positive new chapter in life and love! CONNECT ON SOCIALS: Instagram: ⁠⁠@thequeenbcollective⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠@thequeenbcollective⁠⁠ Work With Me: ⁠⁠https://workwithbel.com/⁠⁠ SUPPORT THE SHOW: If you loved this episode and the podcast, please rate, subscribe, leave a review, share a screenshot of this episode on instagram and tag me so I know you're tuning in and loving it. Also, share this podcast with a fellow Queen who needs the reminder that divorce doesn't have to be the end of your life or love story - it's only just the beginning!

In this week’s episode of Dating After Divorce, I delve into the transformative power of owning your divorce story. I share my personal journey of overcoming negative narratives and disempowering beliefs to reclaim my self-worth and open myself up to the possibility of real, lasting love. Discover how reframing your story about your past and divorce can change your perspective and empower you to thrive in life and love after divorce. Plus, learn about my new program, The Next Chapter, designed to help women 40+ go from feeling unworthy, stuck and lacking hope after divorce, to feeling confident and excited AF to start a positive new chapter in life and love. JOIN ⁠'THE NEXT CHAPTER'⁠: for women 40+ who are ready to go from feeling unworthy, stuck and lacking hope after divorce, to feeling confident and excited AF to start a positive new chapter in life and love! CONNECT ON SOCIALS: Instagram: ⁠@thequeenbcollective⁠ TikTok: ⁠@thequeenbcollective⁠ Work With Me: ⁠https://workwithbel.com/⁠ SUPPORT THE SHOW: If you loved this episode and the podcast, please rate, subscribe, leave a review, share a screenshot of this episode on instagram and tag me so I know you're tuning in and loving it. Also, share this podcast with a fellow Queen who needs the reminder that divorce doesn't have to be the end of your life or love story - it's only just the beginning!