I'm convinced we all need therapy. Finding the right program and the right therapist and the right person in whom to entrust our deepest needs is daunting. Do we call upon a Life Coach or a Psychiatrist? How much is too much to pay? Liz and Debi are asking these questions and do NOT pretend to have the answers. We only know what has and has NOT worked for us. We only know the dangers of toxic hope and we invite you on our journey of discovery.

How many of us think we have all our death ducks in a row? It can be really easy to think all the i's are dotted and the t's are crossed. It's easy to believe we've done the best we can for those we leave behind. However, there are a LOT of i's and t's and those left behind will be left to handle that which is left unhandled.

The right ingredients, the right recipe, and the right amount of time makes for less stress. Having a back-up plan and a team on whom we can depend are some of the key ingredients in success.

Its so easy to raise our expectations to outrageous heights, especailly this time of the year. How open are we to NEW traditions - to NEW experiences? New can be scary. New can be uncomfortable. But just like a pair of really good shoes, NEW can be the best thing we’ve ever dared slip into. Embrace the new.

He was getting better. He seemed at peace. We had so much to look forward to. He went out and got a hair cut. It happens when we least expect it. When a friend or family member takes their own life, we play the last minutes, hours, and days over and over in our mind. What did they say? Maybe it was an accident. Could I have stopped it? Today, our friend Kate stopped by to talk about the day her fiance' Andre' Bush took his own life. Andre' was a light! He was a bright talent, and a beautiful soul, but mental illness robbed him - and us - of all that should have been to come.

Life has a way of throwing us the most unpredictable curve balls. That's so much more than a trope or a cliche'. It's just the damn truth. There are days, weeks, or seasons, when we easily ebb and flow with life. We take the good and we meet the challenges head on. Then there are those really hard seasons when we don't want to ADAPT! We want things to go our way, and if they don't, we kick and scream and throw child-like tantrums. Sometimes we just retreat. In this episode, we also discuss the documentary, 1946. What if the word "homosexual" was never meant to be in the Bible? What if one WRONG translation changed the direction of The Church and started us down a road of hate and misunderstanding? Well, it happened in 1946. Liz's 6 year-old grandchild wrote a song recently called, "I'll Adapt To It". Honestly, if our little ones get the importance of going with the flow and accepting people exactly as they are, why can't we?

Today we talk with Meg about "legacy burdens" of our culture: individualism, materialism, racism, and patriarchy. These are terms that 'describe' the burdens, but being, individual or participating in capitalism in itself is not bad, but when these privileges become burdens then a society can suffer. The idea behind identifying legacy burdens is to un-burden a society; again it's about first becoming aware so we can understand how we got to where we are today. of course this is a broad topic.

Have you noticed how many people use "boundaries" as a reason to not heal or reconcile with friends or loved ones? So many of us are claiming "triggers" as the reason to stay away from people with whom we disagree. There is absolutly a time and place for healthy boundaries, but a lot of people are using "healthy boundaries" as an excuse to not make ammends or to not accept people who simply hold different views and opinions. Liz and Debi discuss this challenge and want to encourage relationship building without excuses.

Our friend Meg is a retired Marriage & Family Therapist. After 42 years working as a hair stylist, she decided it was time for a change. Well, a bit of a change. I mean, we all know how many secrets we tell our stylist. They're already a kind of therapist - a hairapist if you will. Meg encourages us to know our parts and do the work. Come dance with us for a little bit of hairapy.

How many misdiagnosis, unkind interactions, ugly staff experiences, or bad treatments will we endure before we finally find the courage to say "enough", and look for a new doctor? We've been trained to trust doctors, police, first responders, etc..., but they, like you and me, are human. Sometimes they make mistakes, and sometimes they are just not the right man or woman for the job.