Why does divorce hurt so much when no one died? Because so much actually did. In this episode of the Cupid’s Coach Podcast, host Julie Ferman welcomes Cat Hurley, an Albuquerque-based psychotherapist specializing in grief, divorce, life transitions, and identity. Cat shares her professional expertise and deep passion for grief work to help individuals process major life shifts and rebuild meaningful, resilient lives.Julie and Cat explore the concept of "disenfranchised grief"—losses like divorce, pet loss, infertility, or career shifts that society often fails to recognize or support. Together, they break down modern grief models, the difference between being alone versus feeling lonely, and how to create grounding daily rituals. Whether you are navigating the end of a long-term marriage or learning how to carry heavy emotional weight, this episode offers compassionate tools to help you move forward with clarity and self-worth.Inside this Episode:Understanding Disenfranchised Grief: Why societal judgment makes unacknowledged losses—like divorce or pet loss—feel so isolating.Alone vs. Lonely: How sitting with yourself after a relationship ends can become an empowering tool for self-discovery.Rethinking the 5 Stages: Moving beyond linear grief models toward a dynamic balance of mourning and restoring your life.The Ambiguous Loss of Divorce: How to navigate the ongoing uncertainty when an ex-partner is still physically or psychologically present.Continuing Bonds: Practical ways to honor lost relationships, from writing dissolving letters to establishing comforting personal rituals.Supporting Grieving Children & Teens: Honest, age-appropriate strategies to help adolescents navigate major family transitions.Connect with Cat Hurley: Explore resources and coaching with @Kat_The_Grief_Therapist on social media or visit her website.Connect with Julie Ferman: Ready to transform "me" to "we" and rebuild your love life on purpose? Register for free matchmaking at JulieFerman.com.#CupidsCoach #CatHurley #GriefTherapy #DivorceGrief #LifeTransitions #HealingJourney #DisenfranchisedGrief #DatingAdvice #RebuildingAfterDivorce

My interview with Katherine Woodward Thomas is a permanent element in my 30-Day Boot Camp Course. Sharing it with everyone. To know Katherine is to love her. Her contribution to all of us lives on forever. 

Why They Disappeared: Coping with Ghosting & Betrayal with Gretta PerlmutterHave you ever been left on "read" forever? In modern dating, few things are as frustrating or painful as a sudden, unexplained ending. In this episode of the Cupid’s Coach Podcast, host Julie Ferman welcomes Gretta Perlmutter, a Certified Post Betrayal Transformation® Coach and host of the Coping With Ghosting podcast. Gretta shares her professional expertise and personal journey through "ghosting on repeat" to help you understand why people disappear and how to reclaim your peace of mind.Julie and Gretta break down the distinction between breaking a "social contract" and healthy self-protection, while exploring the surprising statistics that show ghosting is a multi-generational trend. Whether you're dealing with a "micro-ghost" on an app or a disappearance after a real date, this episode provides the courageous communication tools you need to move from victimhood to closure.Inside this Episode:Defining Ghosting: Why withdrawing without explanation is different from leaving an abusive situation.The Ghosting Stats: A look at why women (55%) are actually more likely to admit to ghosting than men (46%).Accidental vs. Intentional: Distinguishing between a lost phone and a lack of moral fiber or vulnerability.The "Obituary" Phase: Moving past the urge to Google why they stopped texting.Courageous Communication: Practical scripts for checking in on a date and how to end things respectfully.The Healing Journey: Why your value doesn’t depend on a ghost's approval.Connect with Gretta Perlmutter: Explore resources and coaching at CopingWithGhosting.com.Connect with Julie Ferman: Ready to find a person who will never ghost you? Register for free matchmaking at JulieFerman.com.#CupidsCoach #GrettaPerlmutter #Ghosting #BetrayalHealing #DatingAdvice #RelationshipBetrayal #Closure #PostBetrayalTransformation

Sexual Wellness & The Orgasm Gap: Better Intimacy with Jeff AbrahamWhy are we comfortable spending hundreds on haircuts and gym memberships, but silent when it comes to our sexual health? In this "spicy" and essential episode of the Cupid’s Coach Podcast, host Julie Ferman sits down with Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent, to bridge the gap between "me" and "we" in the bedroom.Jeff shares his fascinating journey from semiconductor engineering to leading a top sexual wellness brand, all inspired by the legacy of urologist Dr. Ronald Gilbert. They dive deep into the "Orgasm Gap," the reality of physical changes as we age, and why open communication is the most powerful tool you can bring to a relationship. This episode is a masterclass in removing shame and optimizing intimacy for men and women at every stage of life.Inside this Episode:The Arousal Gap: Understanding the biological timing differences between men and women and how to close the 13-minute "orgasm gap".Performance vs. Intimacy: Why we need to ditch the "Olympic event" mindset and focus on mutual connection.Sexual Wellness After 50: A candid look at intimacy post-prostate surgery and navigating erectile function as we age.The "Porn Fantasy" Trap: Why comparing your real life to edited scripts is a recipe for anxiety and inadequacy.Communication is Key: How to ask for what you need—and what you don't want—without bruising your partner's ego.The "Pay It Forward" Philosophy: Why focusing on your partner's pleasure is the ultimate secret to a long-lasting, satisfied relationship.Connect with Jeff Abraham: Explore educational resources, physician tutorials, and wellness products at Promescent.com.Connect with Julie Ferman: Ready to find a partner to share your life with? Register for free and private matchmaking at JulieFerman.com.#CupidsCoach #SexualWellness #Promescent #Intimacy #DatingAfter50 #RelationshipGoals #OrgasmGap #MensHealth #WomensHealth #JeffAbraham

Are we being honest with ourselves? What's our part in the successes and failures we have had in communication, in all of our relationships? How much courage can we muster up, to find the answers to those questions? We're doing this personal growth work together. Thank you for joining me in this oh-so-challenging conversation. 

Healing After Trauma: Reclaiming Your Power and Confidence with Angeline ConstantinouHow do you reclaim your life when your past is rooted in trauma? In this powerful episode of the Cupid’s Coach Podcast, host Julie Ferman sits down with Angeline Constantinou, author, podcast producer, and founder of Let’s Break the Silence. Angeline shares her raw and inspiring journey from surviving domestic violence and financial abuse to becoming a global voice for empowerment.Julie and Angeline dive into the difficult but essential process of unlearning toxic beliefs and breaking the "trauma bonds" that keep singles stuck in a cycle of victimhood. Whether you are recovering from a difficult divorce or looking to regain your confidence before re-entering the dating world, this conversation offers a roadmap for moving from victim to victory.Inside this Episode:• Breaking the Taboo: Why we must speak openly about domestic violence and abuse to heal.• The Victimhood Trap: Understanding how rehashing trauma on first dates can repel healthy partners.• The Power of Forgiveness: Why letting go of grudges—even toward abusive siblings or parents—is essential for your own health and peace.• Rewiring the Brain: Practical steps to overcome limiting beliefs through inner work, shadow work, and meditation.• Holding Your Center: Using breathwork and the mantra "This is not about me" to navigate triggers and difficult people.• Speaking Your Life into Existence: How real, raw vulnerability (and Angeline's viral 18-minute video) can change millions of lives.Connect with Angeline Constantinou: Find resources, coaching, and her nine-week signature program at LetsBreakTheSilence.com.Connect with Julie Ferman: Ready to start your new chapter? Register for free and private matchmaking at JulieFerman.com.#CupidsCoach #LetsBreakTheSilence #DomesticViolenceAwareness #HealingTrauma #VictimToVictory #SelfLove #DatingAdvice #AngelineConstantinou

Unblocking Love: Somatic Healing, Mental Load, and Authentic Connection with Linda SandervilleAre you living a life that requires constant escape? In this episode of the Cupid’s Coach Podcast, host Julie Ferman sits down with Albuquerque-based psychotherapist and yoga teacher Linda Sanderville to discuss how to unblock your heart and body for real connection.Linda shares her unique somatic approach, combining psychotherapy with yogic philosophy to help high-achievers manage emotional dysregulation and reset their "mental load". Discover how to stop being "crazy busy," set honest boundaries, and tap into your Capital S Self—the wise inner knowing that already knows how to win at life.Inside this Episode:• The Body-Mind Link: Why emotional dysregulation shows up physically and how to listen to your body’s signals.• The Mental Load Reset: Strategies for multi-passionate women to create spaciousness for romance.• Beyond the "Hot Factor": Why prioritizing emotional safety over visual "hotness" leads to lasting satisfaction.• Intergenerational Gifts: Centering family strengths and healing just as much as generational wounds.• The "Legs Up the Wall" Challenge: A simple, 10-minute daily practice to settle your nervous system.• Radical Honesty: Using the principle of Satya (truthfulness) to stop deceiving yourself in your dating life.Whether you are navigating a "dating detox" or looking to deepen your current relationship, Linda’s perspective will help you move from victimhood to resiliency.Connect with Linda Sanderville: Visit SatyaCounselingAndYoga.com for consultations, blog insights, and restorative yoga resources.Connect with Julie Ferman: Ready to move from "Me to We"? Register for free and private matchmaking at JulieFerman.com.#CupidsCoach #SomaticHealing #MentalLoad #DatingAdvice #YogaForLove #EmotionalRegulation #LindaSanderville #RelationshipGoals

Why is emotional intelligence (EQ) the #1 quality modern women are looking for in a partner? In this episode of the Cupid’s Coach Podcast, host Julie Ferman sits down with fabulous dating and relationship coach Chris Gillis. Known for his deep understanding of human consciousness and "emotional fluency," Chris explains how men can move past "spreadsheet logic" to create real, lasting chemistry.Julie and Chris explore the "empathy loop" and why acknowledging feelings must always come before trying to fix problems. Whether you're a "nice guy" struggling to get a second date or a high-achieving professional looking to deepen your connections, this conversation provides the tools to shift from performing to actually being seen.Inside this Episode:Spreadsheets vs. Soul: Why treating a woman like a problem to be solved kills chemistry and how to prioritize empathy instead.The Empathy Loop: Mastering the art of vulnerable disclosure and responding with validation.Childhood "Cheat Codes": Using early memories to bypass defensive walls and build instant comfort on a first date.Masculine & Feminine Energy: Understanding the "king and queen" dynamic and why men must lead with emotional safety.The "I'm Sorry" Test: Why the ability to admit fault is a marker of high-level emotional maturity.Detaching from the Outcome: How showing up with curiosity rather than an agenda can lead to unexpected romance.Connect with Chris Gillis: Find more coaching resources at ConsultantChris.com or follow him across all platforms @ConsultantChris.Connect with Julie Ferman: Ready to find your person? Register for free and private matchmaking at JulieFerman.com.#CupidsCoach #ChrisGillis #EmotionalIntelligence #DatingAdvice #RelationshipGoals #EQ #Masculinity #DatingStrategy

Is online dating leaving you feeling more disconnected than ever? In this episode of the Cupid’s Coach Podcast, host Julie Ferman welcomes the ultimate people connector of Santa Fe, Maggie Lamb. As the founder of Local Singles, Maggie has built a thriving community of nearly 2,000 members dedicated to face-to-face interaction, networking, and authentic romance.Julie and Maggie dive into why building a local social circle is essential for your emotional health and how to navigate the transition from "married" to "single" with a growth mindset. Whether you live in New Mexico or are just visiting, this episode reveals the magic that happens when you step out of your comfort zone and open your heart to new possibilities.Inside this Episode:The "Tiny Town" Advantage: Why meeting singles in person is the best way to bypass the superficiality of dating apps.12 Connections in 1.5 Hours: A look at Maggie’s unique, structured small-group socials that foster deep, meaningful conversation.The "Revolving Door" Myth: Why seeing familiar faces at events is a comfort, not a roadblock, and the importance of consistent attendance.Mindset for Success: How to shift your energy from "finding a person" to "contributing to the room" to boost your natural magnetism.Safety and Privacy: Practical tips for high-profile or private singles, including the use of "calling cards" and Google Voice.The Santa Fe Secret: Debunking the rumor that there are no good single men in the desert.Connect with Maggie Lamb: Join the community and find upcoming events at LocalSingles.me or find the group on Meetup.Connect with Julie Ferman: Ready to jumpstart your social life? Register for free and private matchmaking at JulieFerman.com.#CupidsCoach #MaggieLamb #SantaFeDating #InPersonConnection #Matchmaking #DatingAdvice #RelationshipGoals #LocalSingles

Are you living in "boy psychology" or stepping into your true strength as a man? In this episode of the Cupid’s Coach Podcast, host Julie Ferman sits down with coach, entrepreneur, and author Mike Raboor to discuss his direct approach to mindset, discipline, and accountability.Mike dives deep into the concepts from his new book, "Man Up," exploring why modern culture often promotes weakness through a "dopamine economy" of immediate comfort. He shares his personal journey from a multimillionaire lifestyle of external validation to finding true internal peace through "self-applied suffering" and radical responsibility.Inside this Episode:• The "Disciplined Savage": Understanding when to embrace your inner strength and how to tame it with honor and respect.• Radical Responsibility: Why "manning up" means taking ownership of every area of your life.• Breaking the Comfort Addiction: The power of a 4:00 AM protocol, cold plunges, and morning rituals to reprogram your brain.• Boy vs. Man Psychology: Why a man produces more than he consumes and the importance of serving your community and family.• The Truth About Modern Dating: Why "Mr. Nice Guy" is actually boy psychology and why alpha women struggle to find men who can lead.• Peace Over Happiness: Why happiness is just an expectation met, while peace comes from the process of becoming who you want to be.Connect with Mike Raboor: Find more about his protocols and coaching at mikesuniversity.com or follow him on Instagram @mikeradoorConnect with Julie Ferman: Ready to find your "Natural Match"? Register for free and private matchmaking at JulieFerman.com.#CupidsCoach #MikeRaboor #ManUp #Masculinity #PersonalGrowth #DatingAdvice #RelationshipGoals #MindsetMastery