Successful people ask for help. So why is it so hard to do?
A client of Amy Porterfield's said something that stopped me: though she was resistant to asking for help, staying stuck finally felt worse than asking.
If I had a drinking game with my clients, they'd have to drink every time I say successful people ask for help. I teach it constantly. And still, so many people try to do it all by themselves. They hide. They withdraw. They don't leverage the resources available to them. And they struggle.
So today I'm going through what actually keeps us from asking.
In this episode:
- Why "I've always just been a do it by myself person" isn't a personality trait
- The two very different fears hiding inside shame, and why they produce the same silence
- What you're really avoiding when you avoid asking for help
- Why "I'm not ready to change that" doesn't mean you're not ready for anything, and the Chick-fil-A order that proved it to me
- "I already know what to do" and why it answers a question nobody asked
- The least charitable assumption we make about the people we could be asking
- Why I ask my friends for help with things I could do myself
- Three ways to start asking when asking feels impossible
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