Welcome to episode 17 of the Chill the Fuck Out Pausecast! In this episode of The Pause Ashleigh discusses her recent panic attack, how it came about, what she did to recover and how overwhelm affects survivors. Sponsors: www.audibletrial.com/3P3gkX https://www.childresscpa.com/contact-us.html Resources: https://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/issues/emotional-overwhelm https://myonlinetherapy.com/why-do-i-feel-overwhelmed/ https://www.calmclinic.com/anxiety/symptoms/feeling-overwhelmed https://www.psychalive.org/loving-trauma-survivor-understanding-childhood-traumas-impact-relationships/\

Welcome to episode 16 of the Chill the Fuck Out Pausecast! In this episode of The Pause, Ashleigh discusses how to heal and overcoming coping through numbing and apathy, how to navigate feeling again, and why it matters. Resources for this episode: https://jedfoundation.org/resource/understanding-apathy/ https://www.verywellmind.com/apathy-lethargy-and-anhedonia-379832 https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8077060/ https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/psychpedia/apathy

Welcome to the 15th episode of the Chill the Fuck Out Pausecast! In this episode of The Pause, Ashleigh discusses numbing, detachment and apathy as a coping mechanism that starts as a natural survival skill and turns into a maladapted coping mechanism that keeps us from living. She discusses how it feels, how it affects us long term and tips for addressing it. In Part 2 she discusses treatment, healing and growth options. Resources for this episode: https://www.verywellmind.com/emotional-numbing-symptoms-2797372 https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5036455/ https://jedfoundation.org/resource/how-to-deal-with-apathy-and-feeling-numb/ https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/what-is-apathy

Welcome to the 14th episode of the Chill the Fuck Out Pausecast! In this episode of The Pause, Ashleigh discusses Stress Tolerance aka the Window of Tolerance from the perspective of a survivor, and tools to help survivors improve their over all window of tolerance. Resources for this episode are: https://dictionary.apa.org/stress-tolerance https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/psychpedia/window-of-tolerance#:~:text=People%20who%20have%20experienced%20a,or%20inflexible%20as%20a%20result. https://www.frasac.org.uk/resources/Window-of-Tolerance-Guide-.pdf https://www.restoredhopecounselingservices.com/blog/2019/12/3/understanding-the-window-of-tolerance-and-how-trauma-throws-you-off-balance https://www.victimsa.org/blog/trauma-and-window-of-tolerance https://mi-psych.com.au/understanding-your-window-of-tolerance/

Welcome to the 13th episode of the Chill the Fuck Out Pausecast! In this episode of The Pause, Ashleigh discusses Binge Eating Disorder, as it affects survivors of childhood trauma, neglect and abuse, her experiences with BED and what we can do about it. Resources for this episode: https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/binge-eating-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20353627 https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/learn/by-eating-disorder/bed https://www.verywellmind.com/when-does-overeating-become-binge-eating-3495807 https://kidshealth.org/en/parents/binge-eating.html https://www.cdc.gov/obesity/basics/adult-defining.html https://www.nbcnews.com/better/health/seven-second-rule-how-avoid-being-seen-easy-target-ncna789226

Welcome to episode 12 of the Chill the Fuck Out Pausecast! In this episode of The Pause, Ashleigh discusses meditation as a part of the healing journey and the considerations it might take for a survivor of childhood trauma, neglect and abuse to benefit from meditation practices. Resources for this episode: https://www.headspace.com/meditation-101/what-is-meditation https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-meditation-2795927 https://www.nccih.nih.gov/health/meditation-in-depth https://health.cornell.edu/resources/health-topics/meditation https://www.artofliving.org/us-en/meditation https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/meditation/in-depth/meditation https://www.headspace.com/articles/meditating-with-ptsd https://www.thescienceofpsychotherapy.com/is-mindfulness-safe-for-trauma-survivors/ https://mindworks.org/blog/healing-trauma-through-meditation/ https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/mindfulness-meditation-and-trauma-proceed-with-caution-1021154

Welcome to the 11th episode! In this episode of The Pause, Ashleigh is discussing self care options, why it's so hard for survivors of childhood trauma, neglect and abuse to benefit from these practices and how we can overcome our obstacles to live well, in part by using self care practices. Resources for this episode are: health.harvard.edu/blog www.diffen.com/difference/Subconscious_vs_Unconscious_mind www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/unconscious highlandspringsclinic.org/blog/the-importance-of-self-care-after-trauma/ www.rainn.org/articles/self-care-after-trauma psychcentral.com/health/trauma-informed-mindfulness www.mindful.org/the-science-of-how-mindfulness-relieves-post-traumatic-stress/ www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/mindfulness-insights/201909/what-is-trauma-and-can-mindfulness-help-treat-it www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/consumer-health/in-depth/mindfulness-exercises 101 Self Care Practices for Trauma Survivors www.beautyafterbruises.org/blog/selfcare

Welcome to episode 10 of the Chill the Fuck Out Pausecast! In this episode of The Pause, Ashleigh discusses boundaries. Personal boundaries with yourself and with others, her experiences with setting boundaries, the difficulties of setting boundaries for those who are survivors of childhood trauma, neglect and abuse, how to choose boundaries and how to set boundaries. Resources for this episode: https://www.loveisrespect.org/resources/what-are-my-boundaries/ https://uhs.berkeley.edu/sites/default/files/relationships_personal_boundaries.pdf https://positivepsychology.com/great-self-care-setting-healthy-boundaries/ https://www.theresiliencecentre.com.au/boundaries-why-are-they-important/

Welcome to episode 9 of the Chill the Fuck Out Pausecast! In this episode of The Pause, Ashleigh discusses validation, what it is, why it matters, her experiences with invalidation and validation, and how to have these hard conversations giving tips for supportive listeners and survivors. Resources for this episode: https://1in6.org/ https://themighty.com/2021/01/validation-is-important-in-supporting-trauma-survivors/ https://www.thinkunbroken.com/blog/finding-validation-trauma-coach https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/escaping-violence/10-ways-to-validate-a-survivor https://ca.ctrinstitute.com/blog/how-to-practice-validation/ https://ineffableliving.com/how-to-validate-someone/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/pieces-mind/201204/understanding-validation-way-communicate-acceptance https://www.amazon.com/Power-Validation-Addiction-Out-Control/dp/1608820335

Welcome to the first episode of the Chill the Fuck Out Pausecast! In this episode of The Paus Ashleigh discusses what childhood trauma, neglect and abuse is, some of her experiences, and why it matters. She introduces herself and The Pause, and discusses language to help us all understand the discussion from her perspective. Trigger warning: Ashleigh touches on all types of childhood trauma and abuse, and she gives and example of childhood sexual trauma at 5:17-5:32. Resources for this episode are: https://www.nctsn.org/what-is-child-trauma/about-child-trauma https://www.samhsa.gov/child-trauma/understanding-child-trauma