Case Files of a Fool for Love
Case Files of a Fool for Love
Sage Freda
Join me as I chat with you about my strange adventures in romance and non-monogamy and expanding my definition of love - starting from my strict fundamentalist Christian upbringing all the way through to where I am today, practicing relationship anarchy and still trying to figure life and love out bit by bit. Expect frank discussions of religion, trauma, monogamy, and of course sex. I hope you'll have fun here and most of all, I hope you'll join the conversation!
#12 The gifts of heartbreak
In which I discuss some of my adventures in heartbreak, and the gifts that have come from that. Also featuring: Living in a forest, misadventures with spiders, and internalised capitalism.  About me: My name is Sage Freda and I'm a storyteller and journeyer, currently setting out on some new adventures, travelling and volunteering across South Africa with my dog. I hope you'll come along for the ride! Also, I've launched a Patreon account! If you'd like to support this podcast, and the other projects I hope to start this year, check it out at https://www.patreon.com/sagefreda. Send me questions, comments, or voice messages at sagefreda@gmail.com. My website is www.sagefreda.com, or find me on social media: Instagram and Facebook. Submission guidelines for both this podcast and my upcoming storytelling project: http://www.sagefreda.com/contact-me/ Cover art done by my talented sister, Hannah. Music by Lesfm on Pixabay.
Mar 27
1 hr 2 min
#11 Play, compassion, and the soul's journey, with Nick and Luzuko
My first podcast interview! A lot has happened since I last released an episode, chief of which is that I am now in the Lowveld mountains volunteering at a gentle place called Nyalungu Afrikan Retreat. This space and its people have been exactly what I needed right now, providing life-affirming conversations, a chance to participate in an exciting venture, and time to breathe out the anxiety of the past few months. In this interview I chat with Luzuko, travelling artist and fellow volunteer, and Nick, our host here. We talk about our life journeys, our understanding of God, about ubuntu, and about the soul's journey. You can find Luzuko's Instagram profile here, and his Youtube account here. Find Nick's Instagram profile here, and Nyalungu Afrikan Retreat's profile here. Find out more about Nick and Nichole's vegan leather business through their website.  *** About me: My name is Sage Freda and I'm a storyteller and journeyer, currently setting out on some new adventures, travelling and volunteering across South Africa with my dog. I hope you'll come along for the ride! Also, I've launched a Patreon account! If you'd like to support this podcast, and the other projects I hope to start this year, check it out at https://www.patreon.com/sagefreda. Send me questions, comments, or voice messages at sagefreda@gmail.com. My website is www.sagefreda.com, or find me on social media: Instagram and Facebook. Cover art done by my talented sister, Hannah. Music by Lesfm on Pixabay.
Feb 10
1 hr 23 min
#10 The one about masturbation
Growing up in a very religious setting, I had very little information about sex, sexuality, and especially masturbation. In fact, I had never even heard about masturbation until the age of 15. My own self-explorations were shrouded in shame and guilt, and only about a decade later did I manage to shake off most of the damaging stories I'd internalised as a child. In this episode I explore the toxic shame around self-pleasure that is passed on through generations; I share my own story and also those of many others' who sent me their experiences. I discuss the fact that girls never spoke about masturbation, even as boys in high schools made frequent jokes about it (and why there might be this stark difference), and explore the influence of the church and society on this. Finally I read you a few striking letters from listeners who, like me, have had complicated and painful journeys towards embracing the right to feel pleasure. Also, I've launched a Patreon account! If you'd like to support this podcast, and the other projects I hope to start this year, check it out at https://www.patreon.com/sagefreda. About me: My name is Sage Freda and I'm a storyteller and journeyer, currently setting out on some new adventures, travelling and volunteering across South Africa with my dog. I hope you'll come along for the ride! Send me questions, comments, or voice messages at sagefreda@gmail.com. My website is www.sagefreda.com, or find me on social media: Instagram and Facebook. Cover art done by my talented sister, Hannah. Music by Lesfm on Pixabay.
Jan 18
1 hr 19 min
#9 Walking naked into the new year: A life update
What a ride it's been. Life has been rolling and twisting into unexpected directions for me, and I don't think it's about to let up. So in this episode I share with you what's been happening for me. The lessons I am learning, sometimes achingly slowly. The grief and the overwhelmingly beautiful moments that have been my companions in this time. And I share with you some of my dreams and plans for the year ahead. Also, I've launched a Patreon account! If you'd like to support this podcast, and the other projects I hope to start this year, check it out at https://www.patreon.com/sagefreda. About me: My name is Sage Freda and I'm a storyteller and journeyer, currently setting out on some new adventures, travelling and volunteering across South Africa with my dog. I hope you'll come along for the ride! Send me questions, comments, or voice messages at sagefreda@gmail.com. My website is www.sagefreda.com, or find me on social media: Instagram and Facebook. Cover art done by my talented sister, Hannah. Music by Lesfm on Pixabay.
Jan 11
54 min
#8 Notes from the underworld
Just when I thought I was getting my act together, Life snuck up on me and took me on a winding journey into the underworld. This is the story of what I'm hearing, seeing, and feeling there. It's about wrestling with prayer, wondering about what's next, and saying my goodbyes to life as I have known it. In this episode I mention the content creator Purity to Polyamory, writer Sophie Strand's wonderful essay 'The body is a doorway', and Martha Beck and Rowan Mangan's podcast 'Bewildered', which is bewilderingly funny. I recommend giving all three a follow.  About me: My name is Sage Freda and I'm a storyteller and journeyer who currently lives on a farm in South Africa with my dog and too many books. I am setting out on some new adventures soon and hope you'll come along for the ride! Send me questions, comments, or voice messages at sagefreda@gmail.com. My website is www.sagefreda.com, or find me on social media: Instagram and Facebook. Cover art done by my talented sister, Hannah. Music by Lesfm on Pixabay.
Dec 2, 2021
1 hr 3 min
#7 Do not avert your eyes
Grief caught me unawares this past month, and it's been a strange and beautiful journey. In this episode I talk about my grandpa, who passed away recently, about my forefathers, and about grappling with my heritage. I explore the aloneness I have been sitting with recently, and the joy I have somehow experienced in this process. I also read you a piece of my writing that was recently published in The Dark Mountain Project's annual publication (Issue 20: Abyss), titled 'Do not avert your eyes'. About me: My name is Sage Freda and I'm a storyteller and journeyer who currently lives on a farm in South Africa with my dog and too many books. I am setting out on some new adventures soon and hope you'll come along for the ride! Send me questions, comments, or voice messages at sagefreda@gmail.com. My website is www.sagefreda.com, or find me on social media: Instagram and Facebook. Cover art done by my talented sister, Hannah. Music by Lesfm on Pixabay.
Nov 5, 2021
50 min
#6 On the scary art of listening to oneself
I've spent most of my life either feeling ashamed of or resolutely ignoring my body. However, over the past few years I've come to integrate more and more my physical being into my sense of self, and have learned that my body holds a lot of truth. I am still relearning how to honour myself through honouring my body, and this is taking me into scary new adventures. In this episode I give you an update on these new adventures, both physical ones (quitting my job, aaargh!) and inward ones.  I quote Clementine Morrigan in this episode, a writer who writes mainly about trauma-informed polyamory and cancel culture. You can follow her on Instagram at @clementinemorrigan.  About me: My name is Sage Freda and I'm a storyteller and journeyer who currently lives on a farm in South Africa with my dog and too many books. I am setting out on some new adventures soon and hope you'll come along for the ride! Send me questions, comments, or voice messages at sagefreda@gmail.com. My website is www.sagefreda.com, and my social media: Instagram and Facebook. Cover art done by my talented sister, Hannah. Music by Lesfm on Pixabay. Song at the end: 'Hello my old heart' by The Oh Hellos.
Oct 7, 2021
52 min
#5 Intimacy and shame
Recently I've been thinking about how intimacy often goes hand in hand with searing vulnerability and even shame. So in this episode I explore that experience; I ask what intimacy really is, and play a message from a friend about conflating intimacy with sex, and relearning intimacy in adulthood. I share some recent embarrassing moments from my life, and the fears those awoke in me. I also talk about the heritages of shame and self-denial that are passed on to us from our ancestors, and discuss how I have witnessed that in my own family. About me: My name is Sage Freda and I'm a storyteller and journeyer who currently lives on a farm in South Africa with my dog and too many books. I am setting out on some new adventures soon and hope you'll come along for the ride! Send me questions, comments, or voice messages at sagefreda@gmail.com. My website is www.sagefreda.com, and my social media: Instagram and Facebook. Cover art done by my talented sister, Hannah. Music by Lesfm on Pixabay.
Sep 15, 2021
55 min
#4 Christianity and the myth of The One
The dream of finding The One has been with us since at least the story of Adam and Eve, and for most of us it touches on some of our most fundamental beliefs. In this episode I look at the effect that Christianity had on my childhood romantic dreams, and at how it shapes society at large's monogamous ideals. I chat about how we might reimagine relationships if we stopped viewing them in a moralistic light; and I play a voice message by a listener, James, which delves into loneliness, religion, and connectedness. I end off by reading listeners' moving definitions of 'being in love'.  Podcasts mentioned: The art of asking everything, and Tara Brach. Books mentioned: Sex at dawn, and Untrue. About me: My name is Sage Freda and I'm a storyteller and journeyer who currently lives on a farm in South Africa with my dog and too many books. I am setting out on some new adventures soon and hope you'll come along for the ride! Send me questions, comments, or voice messages at sagefreda@gmail.com. My website is www.sagefreda.com, and my social media: Instagram and Facebook. Cover art done by my talented sister, Hannah. Music by Lesfm on Pixabay.
Aug 29, 2021
52 min
#3 Being in love, and other drugs
In this episode I have a rant about menstruation and birth control - and people's opinions about that - and then another rant about using antidepressants - and people's opinions about that. I also talk about the difference between feeling resistance and feeling a clear 'no'. Finally I wonder what it actually means to be 'in love', and expand on some of my recent experiences with relationship anarchy.  If you're interested, here are some posts I've written about non-monogamy: here, and here. My Instagram handle is @sagefreda89, and my Facebook page is sagefreda89. Or send me an email at sagefreda@gmail.com  Podcast cover art was done by my talented sister, Hannah.  Music by Lesfm on Pixabay.
Aug 24, 2021
46 min
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