Pain, fear and anger are hot spots in our lived experience. They’re check engine lights telling us something is off or missing. Some of these feelings come and go in a flash - but others stay smoldering for weeks, months and years. They may fade for a while as our attention is pulled to more pressing matters in daily life, only to return later with renewed urgency and salience.We started Candle & Bonfire to help ourselves and our listeners learn from our own experience, what pains and problems go away on their own… and which ones endure, calling to us for attention and healing. Absence makes small loves fade and large loves grow - just as the wind blows out the candle but fans the bonfire.We owe it to our own hearts to focus, plan and do the work of investing our dreams with life energy. The whole world is pulling at us for time, energy and effort - but we need to give these resources to ourselves first, so that we may be able to offer them to others.