On this episode of BQAD, BJ and LeBron from the Messy Thoughts podcast join David for a hilarious, honest and very freaky conversation about bathhouses, cruising, sexual fantasies, communication and consent.

We talk about how their friendship and podcast began, their most memorable sexual adventures and what first-timers should know before stepping inside a gay bathhouse.

From getting a room and bringing shower shoes to handling rejection and not spending the entire night waiting for “Prince Charming,” we share the lessons we have learned from navigating these spaces.

We also discuss the complicated boundaries around touching and consent in sexual environments, why verbal communication still matters and how to confidently say—or receive—a respectful no.

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