Why we do it to ourselves

This is a short one. But it meant a lot to me. I've had several people blast me recently about personal things and I felt a need to get it off my chest.

From the days of my youth i was told what it means to be a man...  now I've reached that age I try to do all those things the best I can. no matter how i try i find my way to the same old jam.  Its so true,  we're becoming the people we are now from the time we first open our eyes in this world.  we begin forming relationships and emotions, fears and behaviors before we even realize. in today's world what it means to be a "Man" is much different than it was.    I look at the lessons I learned and how they created a flawed and self destructive " man" i was at times.  How I overcame it and continue to grow today. 

Focusing on negativity is a survival instinct. It's a self defense mechanism designed to keep you alive. But it can lead to all sorts of faulty coping skills in your personal life if not understood.

Its a real problem internally that what happened to you often becomes in your mind as what happened BECAUSE of you. Generalizations and faulty thought process creates real problems in relationships. Lets discuss it and hopefully learn better ways.

We said before that trauma often evolves from what happened to us into what happened BECAUSE of us. Our need to attach to often flawed adult figures during our youth can create a environment in which we can't escape, so it becomes our job to then try to fix it. This job can become a core personality trait, ad a driving force in our life. One with good and bad consequences.

This episode deals with trauma. What it is, the different kinds and the effects it can have on our life. I am not a therapist and this podcast deals with some pretty heavy subject matter. It is up to the listener to decide if they are okay with it.

This is a follow-up to the first episode. It details my struggles and my faulty coping efforts.

This is a very brief introduction to my background.

This is the first of multiple episodes about my life. My past trauma and my life as a child. This episode deals with sexual molestation, sexual abuse, parental abuse and how negative coping skills are formed