In this episode, we dive into pleasure, sexual empowerment, and confidence with the incredible Goody Howard MPH, MSW. Goody is a world-renowned sexologist, educator, and consultant who has dedicated her life to empowering others through sexual exploration, education, and awareness. From hosting sexual skill workshops to creating sex-positive professional development opportunities, Goody layers her focus on pleasure with her engaging and energetic presentation style. Today, we’ll be discussing the journey to sexual liberation, how confidence in the bedroom translates to other areas of life, and practical tips to empower your sex life within marriage. Podcast Mentions Find Goody Howard: Click Here Goody Instagram: Click Here Support this Podcast: Click Here Therapy for Black Men: Find a Therapist Therapy for Black Girls: Find a Therapist BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/ TalkSpace: https://www.talkspace.com/ CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/ Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/

There are moments in our relationships where communication breaks down, and things can start to feel overwhelming. In today's episode, we explore a concept from Dr. John Gottman’s research that can help explain why. The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse represent four harmful communication patterns that, when left unchecked, can lead to the downfall of a marriage. Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling—these destructive behaviors don’t just harm the relationship; they destroy connection and intimacy. But there is hope! In this episode, we’ll not only discuss these patterns but also explore antidotes to help you turn things around and strengthen your marriage. Podcast Mentions Support this Podcast: Click Here Black Love Doc: Black Love Show John Gottman:  The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work The Four Horsemen by The Gottman Institute: The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling Therapy for Black Men: Find a Therapist Therapy for Black Girls: Find a Therapist BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/ TalkSpace: https://www.talkspace.com/ CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/ Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/

Today, we’re diving into the critical role of understanding personal values in marriage. Understanding your values isn't just about recognizing what's important to you—it’s fundamentally about how these values shape your beliefs, decisions, and behaviors within your relationship. In this episode, we will explore: What Values Are: Gain a clear understanding of what values are and how they shape your beliefs, decisions, and behaviors within your marriage. The Consequences of Not Understanding Your Values: Discover what can go wrong when you don't understand your values and how this can lead to conflicts, inconsistent behaviors, and weakened boundaries in your relationship. How to Identify Your Personal Values: Learn practical steps to identify your own values, including self-reflection, assessments, and feedback from loved ones. Respect and Acceptance in Marriage: Understand the importance of respecting and accepting both your own values and your spouse’s values, and how to creatively navigate differences to strengthen your relationship. Podcast Mentions Support this Podcast: Click Here Personal Value Assessment: Click Here Therapy for Black Men: Find a Therapist Therapy for Black Girls: Find a Therapist BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/ TalkSpace: https://www.talkspace.com/ CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/ Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/

Everything has a good side right, but what’s the good side to anger? Today, we learn how to express anger in healthy ways to become better at using it rather than bottling it up, or hurting those around us. You will learn: The purpose of anger as an emotion and it’s biological & societal roots. Effective strategies for men to manage their anger in the moment and beyond? Guidance on how couples can rebuild trust after conflict. Podcast Mentions Support this Podcast: Click Here Guest Info Find Jared Kiddoe: Authentic Marriages Jared Kiddoe:  Instagram The Anger Control Workbook: ⁠Click Here⁠ Emotional Intelligence Explained: ⁠Click Here⁠ BMT Worksheet Emotional Intelligence: ⁠Click Here⁠ Atlas of the Heart by Brene Brown: ⁠Click Here⁠ Feelings Wheel: ⁠Click Here⁠ Therapy for Black Men: ⁠Find a Therapist⁠ Therapy for Black Girls: ⁠Find a Therapist⁠ BetterHelp: ⁠https://www.betterhelp.com/⁠ TalkSpace: ⁠https://www.talkspace.com/⁠ CBT Thought Diary: ⁠https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/⁠ Libby Audiobook Library: ⁠https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/

In this episode, we’re exploring the vital role of emotional intelligence (EI) in marriage. Emotional intelligence isn't just about managing other people's feelings or being overly aware of their emotions—it's fundamentally about understanding and managing your own emotions effectively. We’ll look into how EI starts with you, its importance in improving communication and conflict resolution, and how to develop and apply it in your relationship. In this episode, you will gain: A Clear Understanding of Emotional Intelligence: Learn what EI is, how it impacts your ability to manage your own emotions, and how it affects your interactions with others. Insights into Common Toxic Emotional Behaviors: Discover the most common toxic ways people handle emotions and how these can negatively impact your marriage. Practical Tips for Developing and Applying EI: Get actionable advice on how to build emotional intelligence, apply it in your daily life, and enhance your relationship with your partner. Podcast Mentions Support this Podcast: Click Here Emotional Intelligence Explained: Click Here BMT Worksheet Emotional Intelligence: Click Here Atlas of the Heart by Brene Brown: Click Here Feelings Wheel: Click Here Therapy for Black Men: Find a Therapist Therapy for Black Girls: Find a Therapist BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/ TalkSpace: https://www.talkspace.com/ CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/ Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/

Today, we are diving into a topic that we have never discussed before on the show: caretaking and its effect on marriage. Caretaking can involve caring for someone who is physically or mentally ill, be it a parent, relative, or spouse. Recently, we've been thrust into the caretaking role with our ailing parents, and we're navigating this new stage of life while sharing our experiences, how we deal with it individually and as a couple, and offering tips that have helped us manage this challenging phase. You will receive: Coping strategies for managing the stress of caretaking. Encouragement & Acknowledgment for those who are experiencing caretaking in their marriage. Instruction on how to discuss caretaking responsibilities with others. Podcast Mentions Support this Podcast: Click Here Support for Caregivers: Click Here Therapy for Black Men: Find a Therapist Therapy for Black Girls: Find a Therapist BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/ TalkSpace: https://www.talkspace.com/ CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/ Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/

In today's episode, we have a candid conversation about the ups and downs of marriage, focusing on growth, trust, and emotional capacity. We take an unfiltered look into our marriage, discussing our struggles and how we navigate them. Inspired by prominent voices in the black marriage community, we emphasize the importance of sharing both the highs and the lows to provide a realistic view of marital life. Podcast Mentions Support this Podcast: Click Here John Gottman:  The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work Kevin and Melissa Fredricks: Marriage be Hard Beleaf in Fatherhood: How Married Are You? Therapy for Black Men: Find a Therapist Therapy for Black Girls: Find a Therapist BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/ TalkSpace: https://www.talkspace.com/ CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/ Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/

In this episode, I address what I. believe is the result of long term porn use in relationships.  While some argue it can enhance sexual experiences, others say it breeds discontent, and an inability to connect intimately with one's partner.  I will be drawing insights from my personal experiences and those of members in my recovery group who claim shattered marriages, career losses and even deeper dives into other forms of addiction. Podcast Mentions Support this Podcast: Click HereSampson SocietyCovenant EyesUnwanted by Jay Stringer Therapy for Black Men: Find a Therapist Therapy for Black Girls: Find a Therapist BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/ TalkSpace: https://www.talkspace.com/ CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/ Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/ Z-Library: Digital Library

Did you know that 69% of marital conflicts will not be resolved why because these conflicts stem from fundamental differences between the the two individuals in the relationship. These problem are less about the bills, family, or sex but more about how the individual sees and responds to these issues. Lets talk about it, in this episode we will discuss where natural differences come from,  how to accept your spouse as a whole person good and bad, our experience and how learning this helped our marriage.  Podcast Mentions Support this Podcast: Click Here Therapy for Black Men: Find a Therapist Therapy for Black Girls: Find a Therapist BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/ TalkSpace: https://www.talkspace.com/ CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/ Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/ Z-Library: Digital Library

This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/BLACKMARRIAGE and get on your way to being your best self. In this episode, we talk about the sometimes controversial topic of gender differences and similarities in the context of marriage. We discuss how men and women, especially in the Black community, are more alike than we often think. We address the stereotypes spread by the media and common social beliefs, highlighting the need for critical thinking and self-education to strengthen and support marriages. Podcast Mentions BetterHelp: Get started today and enjoy 10% off your first month. Support this Podcast: Click Here Therapy for Black Men: Find a Therapist Therapy for Black Girls: Find a Therapist BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/ TalkSpace: https://www.talkspace.com/ CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/ Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/