Where you can find real birth mom's talking about real life and adoption. Learn how it went down, and what you need to know before you enter an adoption. (Update new feeds at http://blip.tv/birthmom & _)We support all sides and just tell the truth and want the AP's to know how we really feel. Avoid the agencies micro-managing our lives forever! Read thoughts on the adoption experience from all sides! Read thoughts on the adoption experience from all sides! For more info or to HELP US out with a donation, you can check out all our websites:(We use Birth Mom, because it is currently most identifiable…but also may go by Life Mom, Tummy Mummy, First Mom, or just Mom if you like) In reality most of us don't care what we are called, as long as we are called!) Birth Mothers have parted with a huge piece of themselves. Even the most independent woman will tell you that having a child changes a woman's view of herself. Placing that child is akin to letting go of a piece of your self. It seems that the grief which results from adoption loss more often follows a pattern which is the exact opposite of what one might expect in the case of other losses. Disenfranchised grief is when the grief is connected with a loss which cannot be openly acknowledged, publicly mourned or socially supported. In many cases of disenfranchised grief, the relationship is not recognized, the loss is not recognized or the griever is not recognized. There is a much needed service to women who have placed their child for adoption. There is also an overlooked service to single pregnant woman (one that is pro-life and not on board with an adoption agency) Many women may find best to raise the child alone. There are also many cases where adoption is best for the mother, child, and new parents. In most cases, everyone maintaining a loving relationship with the child is often the best option. The goal is to love our children in the best way possible, whether that means with or without us in