Show notes
Courtney is with us this week to work her magic on rejection.— (4:43) Courtney is here to bring the pain and hear rejection types suffer / What’s been opening up for Emeka?— (8:49) How rejection types set the dynamic up so it doesn’t work — a pre-rejection frame— (13:10) Courtney gives a recap/overview of object relations and why it matters— (15:02) Our O.R. is a blueprint for how relationships need to be setup in order for us to feel like a person— (16:24) What separates rejection from attachment & frustration is the cutting off from awareness of the original wound and preemptively shutting down the possibility of being touched there again— (22:44) You reject something by over-affirming and leaning into its opposite — (31:19) 8s seek out vulnerability and heartfulness in others not because it activates their heart, but because the dynamic reinforces what the 8 structure is already reinforcing— (36:29) Emeka realizing that as long as attraction is framed within the experience he’s activating then rejection can’t happen on the basis of heart to heart connection— (40:02) The rejection types are aware that their definition of personhood is a fraction of whole and therefore feel separate and unable to meet others fully— (42:22) Why do rejection types seek out relationships?— (47:36) Aloneness as a baseline for rejection typesGet John’s book on the instinctual drives on amazon or barnesandnoble:https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2TDAA — Become fluent in the dark arts of enneagram typing.Watch recent typing classes on 9 and 6 wings, Kurt Cobain, Courtney Love. And get typed at enneagrammer.comBuy David’s Trifix Booklet here:https://www.enneagrammer.com/store/trifix-venn-booklet-david-grayCall the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about the show at (323) 696-0647. Or you can also email [email protected] or DM us with a pre-recorded voice message
