The Before I Die Series: Topic 10: Girl Power! Ladies! After watching the Wendy Williams movie and documentary I have to tackle this topic of “Female Power”. I was so moved by the rawness of Wendy’s story. As women we have to be careful that the strength and talents that we possess are not taken advantage of. As I watched the movie I saw Wendy, like many of us, give our power away over and over. It’s not that people are bad for us, it’s that we trust to easily when our hearts are being manipulated. You see ladies we are THE PRIZE! No matter how you play it we have the ultimate POWER for many reasons. But individuals that come into our lives who are looking for their opportunity will use our kindness for weakness. What we must do to stop this abuse: Stop bearing things and sweeping it under the rug, be honest with yourself and what you really want and need  Stop not putting focus on the truth and the light because the truth shall set you free Don’t confuse Separation with protection, the manipulative partner wants to keep you blind to what is really happening around you so they don’t lose their benefits By calling out the abuse of any type, you will be free and  it will help you to be able to grow and to move forward. It will help you to release all those feelings of bitterness and hurt shame and guilt. God knows that all of us have our own stories.  He knows who we need and what we need and when we need it. Through prayer and supplication we have to make a request and remain patient to let God answer our prayers. What we miss sometimes is the small but mighty key of God!  He wants us to take that key, turn it to unlock all the wonderful doors to our happiness. The word says taste and see that the Lord is good but you have to trust God all the way to the end with your life. God will give you the desires of your heart but you have to be patient and you have to wait on God so that you don’t end up suffering through to learn the lesson that God has for you!!!! #coach #prayer #wendywilliams #power #gifts

The Before We Die Series Topic: Low Hanging Fruit I was once that low hanging fruit, that woman that had no self-esteem, that woman that had no self respect. I was that woman who was easily manipulated by any one that felt they could do so. I never stood up for myself I never found my power or the strength and who I was and that’s what allowed me to be in situations where others controlled my moves, controlled my actions, controlled how I felt.  Today, I am a stronger person and a stronger version of myself. Today I thank God for that, for giving me the strength to know who’s I am, for helping me to understand that I don’t have to let anybody run over me or treat me poorly.  I made a mistake not standing up to certain people in my life. I would not tell them what I was uncomfortable with, and I allowed negativity into my space which then affected my life. I had no boundaries (the standard that you set for yourself on what you will tolerate and won’t tolerate).  Friend, we have to be so careful as to who we allow in our lives how we allow them in our space. Even   what they are allowed to control or not control.  How to stop being low hanging fruit: 🚦1. We have to first learn how to set boundaries for ourselves.  🚦2. Be bold enough to teach and express to everyone our boundaries  🚦3. Feel safe and strong enough to reject things people and their poor treatment. Other people in our lives shouldn’t be able to control us as Individuals. The other person might get upset but they will understand in time. You have to protect you.  The healthiest relationship is the one they you we have with ourselves and then others will follow our lead. Being the one that is strong enough to stand up for what we want as a person and never being afraid to tell someone how you feel is the truth.  This is my In life now: If they don’t respect your boundaries that Person wasn’t meant to be in your life anyway.... #restore #life #fun #coach #life #coach #love #blackgirlskillingit #femininpower #jesusislord Amen

The Before I Die Series: The Deadly 20%! People miss their blessings 🙏🏽 because they have their eyes on the wrong prize 🏆 Many of us don’t realize the true blessings that are right in front of us. What happens is the 20% of what we are missing in our lives takes center stage. We chase the 20% and forget about the 80% that we have right in front of us.  The Problem : When the 80% leaves, then we realize too late that our blessing was in the 80%!  The Result: God will increase the 80% tenfold and then where are you? Left in the cold wishing you could share in the blessings.  The Lesson: Don’t be a foolish person and chase what you think you want because it makes you feel good for a moment. That high you feel with the 20% will soon fade into reality. Then where will you be?  How to win:  ♦️Take time to invest in the relationships with yourself and your loved ones to keep the happiness flowing, to stay together, to keep moving forward.  ♦️Invest and stay persistent in your goals for your own business and/life it will pay off eventually.  ♦️Stay true to your friends they will help go to places you never dreamed!  You don’t know what blessings the lord has in store for you if you leave to early. Don’t be the one standing on the sidelines wishing you could stand with the 80%! Check out the podcast: https://anchor.fm/restoreucoaching • • • • • #lifecoach #lifecoaching #coaching #businesscoach #personaldevelopment #selfhelp #healthcoach #personalgrowth #selflove #mentor #selfdevelopment #coach #spiritjunkie #motivationalspeaker #relationshipcoach #lawofattraction #selfworth #gratitude #lifelessons #mindset #selfawareness #selfesteem #empower #empowerment #productivity #author #leadership

Before I Die Topic 7: Speak it into existence Believe in yourself! People are looking at you and they are silently saying you will not accomplish your goals. They see you working and investing time in your dreams and they they will highlight the fact that it may not be possible for you. Keep in mind these are folks who have never even tried it themselves. I’ve got news for you all things are possible through Christ that strengthens us! God is the final authority on our hopes and dreams. Repeat after me “I will continue to move in silence and let my blessings tell the story”! Praise Allah! My Aunt Dolly taught me to speak those things that we desire as though they were and one day they will come to pass...you have just got to have faith! Stay strong, stay focused! What are you speaking into existence today? #lifecoach #restoration #belief #worthy #dreams #goals #coach

We blame others when we are not intentional with our time or our purpose. This is an issue that needs attention. If you have taken stock of the areas where you need to improve I am sure “managing time” is on the list. To improve we must be intentional with our time on a daily basis. This will help you meet your goals. The issue I noticed in myself is that even when I had more time and freedom I still was not intentional. I still did not take the advantage of the extra time.  Honestly I realized that procrastination is a problem that I possessed that was keeping me from reaching my true potential. I was often stressed and always trying to meet deadlines. This put a strain on my relationships and my overall life. I wasn’t really able to enjoy the fruits of my labor. To be successful we have to personally deal with our issues that are causing us to not be Intentional with our time. Once you become more intentional we can exist and succeed with any amount of time we possess. The best thing about it is that no matter how busy we are, even when we have less time we can still get more done. It works because we’ve identified what the needs are and we are intentional with ourselves and with our time. Start today! Make a list, check it off.  Even if it’s only two things get in the habit of making a list and being intentional with your time you will see a huge difference in your ability to achieve your dreams! Let’s be a better version of ourselves in 2021! Make sure to check out our other episodes at: https://anchor.fm/restoreucoaching #lifecoach #mindovermatter #intentional #timemanagement #change #peace #success

Grateful for the Struggle The struggles of life come to make us strong. Wait... that applies to those of us who make it through. Those who push through the miry clay of life. We have all been there. I want you to envision your issue as quicksand. First you enter, then you get stuck, then you begin to struggle, then you start to sink, you lose air... for some of us we make that last desperate reach for help. We are pulled to safety. For some they just give up and fall into the abyss and die. For those of US that use our struggles as armor and understand the purpose of struggle I say carry on. God sees you working! He will prepare a place Fior you God says... John 14 (vs 1-4)! If you push through like I did you will be able to make the bold claim: And now I am here with a seat at many tables... feasting on my rewards!!! Those that have never had a true struggle will never understand. Once you get on the other side of the struggle claim Victory! However make preparations so that the next time the Struggle won’t phase you! We made it to the end of the year and that is what counts!! #lifecoach #lifecoachinghappiness #happy #lifestyle #mindset #love #mentalhealthawareness #finishline #brave #struggle #struggleisreal

The Before I Die Series- Topic 4: Releasing the Toxicity Sis! Bro! Stop bearing things and stop sweeping things under the rug. Put focus on the truth and the light because the truth shall set you free. By being honest about your feelings it will help you to be able to grow and to move forward to release all those feelings of bitterness, hurt, shame and guilt. God knows that all of us have our own stories. He knows who we need and what we need and when we need it, but through prayer and supplication we have to make a request known. We have to also be patient to let God answer our prayers. What we miss sometimes is the small but mighty key of God. We should take that key, turn it, and use the key to unlock the Peace that only God can give us. You have to trust God all the way to the end with your life. God will give you the desires of your heart but you have to be patient and you have to wait on God. Releasing those toxic feelings towards people and situations will set you free. The energy you save can then be redirected to other areas. With a renewed focus you can Go back to school, start a business, or help your community. What are you going to let go of today? Be sure to catch up on Episode 3 on Spotify! Before You Die Series! https://anchor.fm/restoreucoaching #coach #life #mentalhealthawareness #happy #love #peace #joy #yolo #lifecoach #lifecoachforwomen #talk #mentalhealth #personalgrowth #habits #healing #spiritualawakening #love #peace #innerpeaceisthenewsuccess

“Before I Die” Topic 3: What is True Success? One of the things that I’ve learned in life is just because you’re professionally successful doesn’t mean that you’re personally successful. Sometimes overcoming our personal issues such as addictions, marital problems, and family problems takes a toll on us. These issues can affect our professional lives. It is very important that we take care of our personal self.  I have been a very emotional creature and if we don’t find ways to control our emotions we can find ourselves in any kind of situation. These situations can happen at any given time, and may not be positive for us. Without emotional control we can let our issues spill over into our lives (personal or professional) and we don’t know how to react because we didn’t want people to know those things about us. There is an old saying that goes “What’s done in dark will come to the light”. Many of us don’t want others to know our secrets or worse if we are in trouble. I am the same. There is a fine line about privacy. However it is sometimes not as simple as just trying to keep it together. Everyone has something that they are trying to hide or trying to deal with personally. In order to maintain balance you want to see help. There are many options such as counseling, support groups, and simply confiding in a trusted confidant. These groups are there to listen and to you work through your issues. The most important thing is to not allow yourself to stay in situations that will be detrimental to you in the long run. When we don’t get help you and your issues will be exposed. It’s better to seek help, and to work through your issues before they affect your life in a negative way.... What do you need help with today?

Before I Die Series: Topic 2: Reflecting For Greatness! Over time I have taken moments to reflect on where I am today. My experiences by in large have defined my life. The impact has been tremendous! I could play a victim role, but honestly its not worth my time or energy to make it a priority. What I am thankful for is second chances and grace and mercy. I’ve done some things that I am not proud of, but guess what, so have so many other people. But one thing that I know is that I can move forward, I can see the other side. It takes willingness to try. It takes being confident enough to admit to yourself that you are the only one holding yourself back! Are we excusing what someone did to us—no—but karma exists to fight our battles. It may take 1 day or 1000 days, but justice will come. Our job is to focus on what we can do to create positive change--- using your gifts and talents will catapult you to a higher level of fulfillment that you may never have known had you not refocused on – and aligned yourself positively. What have been your most valued life lessons?

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