Do Different to Be Different! Create the person YOU want to be!
Create the person YOU deserve to be by creating a true partnership by starting with your own individual wellness practices.
1. A commitment to your individual principles and healing has to come before a commitment to the partnership. There is no partnership without individual wellness. Be responsible for your own physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual and wellness resources
We don't control anyone except ourselves! Learn to control yourself by connecting to your principles because connection is always better than control.
2. Reward and punishment in and of itself lessens the chance that people will do things because it's the right thing to do. Most of the time when we use reward and punishment, people are trying to get the reward or avoid the punishment. That's not always a good idea. What if someone offers a greater reward? Are they going to change their behavior and their principles based on that or do we get to do what's best based on our own principles?
Honesty and equanimity ~ When you are not truly honest with yourself or others, it doesn't feel very good. Equanimity is the idea that everybody has equal value.
3. Once acknowledged do not bring up the past. We can't change it. It makes us self-righteous and makes us forget our part in our commitment to change. The worst part about living in the past or bringing up the past is you do not see the progress of the present people change. Even if it's incremental, it's important to understand that we all change. Sometimes we take three steps forward and two back, but we still made that step forward.
Be the partner you want to have! Set up Rules of Engagements for when we are sad or scared in discussion such as no yelling, no swearing in anger, no name calling and no blaming or shaming.
If you don't know what to do: Be kind, Be Respect and get more information.
Always Own Your Part First!
"Punished by Rewards" Author: by Alfie Kohn
Suzi's challenge: Have the courage to talk about what happened and how it affected you!
You deserve to heal and be the person you want to be and create the life you want to live.
Music credit to Kalvin Love for the podcast’s theme song “Bee Your Best Self”
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