How many of us have felt pressured at one time or another, to make sure our relationship was moving along at the so called "right time". Many of us have had the thoughts, is this moving too quickly, are we falling behind, shouldn't we already be "there" (wherever there is) by now?! As much as we know there is no one size fits all, and no one set timeline that can measure our relationships by, we can still so often fall into that trap of looking around us, seeing what everyone else is up to,...

Up until the summer of 2022, Sarah Valentine was living in New Zealand with her husband and trying to work on her marriage. When Sarah's marriage ended and her world was turned upside down, she made the decision to share her story on social media, with the intent of helping other women who found themselves in a similar situation. Sarah's vulnerability and transparency has reached hundreds of thousands of women across the world, and helped them to feel less alone during one of the bigg...

"The spark", "instant chemistry", "butterflies", these are the markers that so many of us still mistakenly use in dating, when deciding how much we invest in someone. In this episode, I discuss what those feelings can actually mean (spoiler, they aren't always to do with attraction!), I share my personal experiences with these feelings, and how they led me in to anxious relationships over healthy, happy and fulfilling ones. I also share how to listen to your gut, and the difference between ...

One of the most overwhelming and life changing parts of a divorce is splitting the assets and finances. In a lot of marriages, there tends to be one person who is responsible for managing what money comes in and what goes out and if you aren't that person, you can feel like a rabbit in the headlights, not knowing where to turn or what to decide. In this episode I chat with Ceri Griffiths, who is a divorce financial planner and who also holds financial abuse and narcissism qualifications. &n...

The label "high maintenance" can take many different meanings, depending on who you ask, and usually it is not meant in the most positive light. In this episode, I discuss what springs to mind when I hear the words "high maintenance", and how I have been associated with labels like this in the past. When it comes to our romantic relationships there are definitely times when we can be more demanding than normal and there is no deflecting from that! But, there are times when when phrases such...

Grief comes in many forms, from the end of a relationship to the passing of a loved one. In this episode I speak with my brother Jon, to ask him how he used sports and exercise to cope with the death of our dad when we were 6 and 7 years old. Jon discusses how taking up sports helped him to create a connection with our dad, how he learned to no longer need the praise we so often crave from our parents and using his experience to create a new career and help people build their self con...

There are so many factors when it comes to deciding who we find attractive in a romantic sense, and frustratingly, quite a few of these factors can distort how we view this topic. In this episode, I discuss how important it is to find someone attractive if we are in a long term relationship with them, how our ego and the opinion of other's can impact who we find attractive and try to pursue in the hopes of finding long term happiness and finally, what does settling really mean? Could shiftin...

Anyone who has ever used a dating app before will know, the process can feel anything but straightforward... Through social media, it is become more and more common for people to share their experiences of dating, but often, it will be women and men sharing their views separately, and these posts are often negative or strongly driven by one particular view. For a while now, I have been having conversations with my friend Toby, who has always been very open about his experience with dating a...

We've all seen those couples on social media over the years, the couples who post constant mushy, loved up posts about each other, only to notice they have changed their relationship status to "single" a short while later. Throughout my twenties, I was one of those people. I had such a strong need to make sure if anyone was going to be thinking or talking about my relationship, that they would be thinking and saying all the right things, and I would go to great lengths to make that ha...

Divorce burnout is not a term I had heard until recently, but after looking into it, it was definitely something I had experienced and is not something to ignore. In this episode I speak with Claire Black, who shares in depth the reasons why communication throughout the divorce process breaks down so easily, what can be done to help keep things amicable, why time is so important and how to spot the signs of divorce burnout. Claire also shares how to find the positives in something as heartb...