I'm joined by Clinical Psychologist Dr Emma Svanberg dremmasvanberg.com and Parent Infant Psychotherapist Benedicta Bywater benedictabywater.com SummaryThis conversation delves into the complexities of parenting, emphasizing the importance of shared values between partners, the navigation of differing parenting styles, and the emotional dynamics that arise in family life. The speakers discuss the significance of understanding individual backgrounds and experiences, referred to as 'maps', and how these influence parenting decisions. They explore the role of societal expectations, gender dynamics, and the impact of trauma on parenting. The discussion highlights the necessity of open communication, emotional awareness, and the acceptance of discord as a natural part of family life.TakeawaysSharing parenting values is crucial for effective co-parenting.Understanding individual parenting maps can help navigate differences.The 'troll' analogy helps externalize conflicts in parenting.Mundane aspects of parenting often lead to unspoken tensions.Gender roles significantly impact parenting dynamics.Emotional awareness is key for both parents.Defensiveness can hinder effective communication in parenting.Societal expectations create additional pressures on parents.Understanding trauma can help parents navigate their children's experiences.Discord in family life is normal and can be healthy.ChaptersKeywordsparenting, shared values, co-parenting, emotional awareness, gender roles, trauma, family dynamics, communication, parenting strategies, societal expectations