Two thousand nine hundred seventy seven people lost their lives to terrorist attacks on September 11, 2001. At the heart of this world-changing tragedy lies the question: What makes someone decide to kill thousands of people they’ve never met? While the roots of violent behavior are varied and complicated, there are common threads, many of which loop back to men’s inability to deal with difficult emotions. This week, self-relationship coach and former counter-terrorism officer J Stamatelos returns to the show to talk about how identity feeds into radicalization, the intersection of emotions and violent behavior, the role of modern media in encouraging violence, and much more. For more information about J Stamatelos, visit his website: www.jamesjstamatelos.comResource mentioned in this episode:Cascades: How to Create a Movement that Drives Transformational Change by Greg Satell

To celebrate LGBTQIA+ Pride Month, (no glitter or rainbow-farting unicorns, we promise) Ettore offers Jordan the opportunity to ask him anything about his experience as a gay man. Along the way, the guys touch on corporate rainbow washing, being a straight ally, gay/straight friendships, living authentically, and much more. Enjoy!

Jordan and Ettore recap their recent retreat experience and talk about men's retreats.

In this episode, Ettore and Jordan speak with self-relationship coach J Stamatelos about Internal Family Systems (IFS).  The episode concludes with an edited version of a recent IFS session Ettore and J had together so you can hear the system in practice.  For more information about J Stamatelos, visit his website: www.jamesjstamatelos.com

This week, Jordan and Ettore interview Weston Karnes, creator of Let's Get Real Bro, a card game designed specifically for men. Described as "Cards Against Humanity meets your therapist," Let's Get Real Bro provides a unique way for men to build deep, authentic connections while having a helluva lotta fun.In this episode, Weston talks about his past and challenges, his history with men's work, what brought him to create Let's Get Real Bro, some insider views on the game creation process, and how he's building community one player at a time. The guys also play a round of the game, with some revealing and deeply real results!To get more information about Let's Get Real Bro, visit letsgetrealbro.com.  To reach Weston personally, drop him a line at [email protected]!

This week's episode opens with heartfelt gratitude to our listeners. After that, Jordan kicks off the conversation by asking Ettore a few burning questions that have been on his mind, including:What or who owns us?How do we experience the duality of our inner change pushing up against and expanding old confines and boundaries?What is it like living in our heads trying to wrestle with anxiety and panic attacks? What tools have we found to help us slow down and transition from our minds back into our bodies?What have been the most impactful discoveries in the personal work we've achieved this far?The episode closes with an invitation to listeners to interact and let us know what they'd like to hear.Enjoy!

In this episode, Ettore and Jordan sit down with Mike Sagun, a highly sought-after men's coach and EVRYMAN senior facilitator. We find out how Mike first got involved in men’s work, and we hear about the exciting somatic experiencing work he’s doing now. Along the road, the conversation touches on theater as a safe space, being a gay man in the world of men’s work, the amazing ways our bodies heal themselves, and what it is that men really need. Contact Mike via his website www.mikesagun.com. During the episode, Mike mentions the following books and resources:Better Boys, Better Men: The New Masculinity That Creates Greater Courage and Emotional Resiliency by Andrew ReinerWaking the Tiger: Healing Trauma by Peter A. LevinePeter Levine Somatic ExperiencingThe Male Brain: A Breakthrough Understanding of How Men and Boys Think by Louann Brizendine 

In what is surely their most personal and revealing episode yet, Jordan and Ettore dig deeply into the next of the Big Five emotions: SHAME.  Join them as they share their stories and unpack the difficult feelings.

In this episode, Ettore and Jordan speak with somatic specialist Nick Macaluso. Nick is the creator of Symptom Relief Somatics (SRS), a unique method of holistic health assessment and somatic exercise that combines neurological principles from sports medicine, mindfulness meditation, psychology, and inter-personal biology. Contact Nick or find more information at https://www.symptomrelief.com/.

In this episode, Ettore and Jordan unpack what the phrase "men's work" means to them, where it comes from, and how you can get involved.We're always happy to hear from you! Drop us an email if you have questions about men's work. A few examples of popular men's work resources and groups:EVRYMANMankind ProjectSkillful WarriorsSacred SonsThe Unshakable ManMen Speak (UK)Men LivingMen's Group NetworkThese are only a few of the many groups out there. Do a web search for "men's work," "men's groups," or "men's support groups," and you'll find many more options and resources. Happy men's working!And please remember: Men's work is not therapy, even though it can be very therapeutic. If you are having a severe, ongoing mental health issue (deep depression, schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, and the like), seek help from a qualified licensed professional (therapist, psychologist, psychiatrist, etc.).