At a Loss
At a Loss
At a Loss
At a Loss is a podcast series of conversations about death, grief and loss. Hosted by Timothy Giles and proudly supported by Davis Funeral services, this podcast brings to the fore, conversations around those subjects we find difficult and sometimes taboo to talk about such as infant loss, suicide, widowhood and even such delicate subjects as embalming, care of the deceased and moving on to new relationships after the death of a spouse.
Episode 16 - A sad truth or a miss truth? - Nic Russell
When Kenzie, Nic Russell’s daughter was 2 she was diagnosed with cancer and sadly died. But there was another challenge, Nic also had a 5 year old son that she needed to support through this journey. In this episode, Nic talks about how important it is to be honest and open with children about death and how she founded Kenzie’s Gift, a research-based support resource especially for children and young people.
Oct 28, 2020
30 min
Episode 15 - How are you being? - Keith King
Weddings, christening, namings and divorce rituals, At 71 years, celebrant Keith King has done them all but his favourite is funerals. Keith tells host Timothy Giles about supporting people through their own death and answers the question of how to die.
Oct 15, 2020
30 min
Episode 14 - Righteous Anger - Reverend Mua Strickson-Pua
Reverend Mua Strickson-Pua has 30 years ministry serving generations through life, and loss. As host Timothy Giles seeks tips from Rev Mua on surviving and thriving, emotions arise, anger and tears, ending in a moment of magic.
Oct 7, 2020
30 min
Episode 13 - Host in the hot seat - Timothy Giles
Our host Timothy Giles swaps seats this week to share his grief. Guest Aston Wells returns. Having shared his devastation and adaptation to life without his treasured brother Sean, he's back to check on Timothy after the sudden death of his big brother Paul.
Sep 29, 2020
30 min
Episode 12 - My Mentor in Mourning - Jill Goldson
Jill Goldson of Family Matters has in an earlier episode, coached us through coping with the losses that come with Covid. Today she shares the more personal and profound struggles she faces, since the death of her husband Malcolm. Has her personal professional skill set as a highly credentialed counselor, researcher and academic eased her grief reflex? Host TImothy Giles is surprised by the answer.
Sep 22, 2020
30 min
Episode 11 - Brother where art thou? - Aston Wells
Fighting Fit. Perfectly describes Sean Wells. Sean's older brother Aston, discovered Sean in bed one morning, cold and dead. He died of natural but still unclear causes. Aston's life collapsed and he tells our host and Wells' family friend Timothy Giles of ten years grief driven risk taking and addiction, a life on the edge, until finally finding acceptance and peace with the grief for his lost and deeply loved brother.
Sep 14, 2020
30 min
Episode 10 - When grief isn't caused by death - Maria Millar
Can you grieve something other than the loss of a loved one? What is this strange feeling of lethargy and sadness if no one had died? In Maria Millar's second episode, she talks to our host Timothy Giles about understanding feelings of grief that are due to a loss other than death. Loss of a job, a dream, a career, a relationship, we grieve all those things and allowing ourselves to can make all the difference.
Sep 8, 2020
28 min
Episode 9 - By her own hand -  Mark Wilson
Suicide touches so many. Leaving wounds and wonderings that are hard to heal. Difficult even to mention. So in this episode Timothy Giles talks with his friend and old workmate, Mark Wilson, about Mark’s experience of his wife’s suicide. Working in mental health communications now Mark takes us through the experiences and emotions of devastating loss. As well as personal insights into how to cope, and to help others heal.
Aug 30, 2020
28 min
Episode 8 - Death did us part - Trish Guttenbeil
This is not the life Trish Guttenbeil signed up for. But when husband Jason was diagnosed with terminal cancer, she lost the ability to chart her future with him. Just nine months later Trish was a widow and sole parent to their four children. In this episode Trish tells host Timothy Giles of the devastating impacts of losing a life partner. Explaining in compelling and moving detail the layers of loss that surpassed the grief previously, felt even though Trish has already experienced significant loss in her life. Even knowing death was coming and when, being experienced in adapting to grief, widowhood arrives a uniquely challenging surprise.
Aug 23, 2020
28 min
Episode 7 - Covid Stops Play - Jill Goldson
Jill Goldson is our first listener that has gotten in touch with us to record her own episode. Jill is the Director of The Family Matters Centre and has over 30 years working to support families, kids and couples. Although her intention was to talk about another subject altogether, with New Zealand now returning to various levels of lockdown due to Covid-19, our host Timothy Giles asks Jill how we cope with challenges of Covid stopping playing in playgrounds, sports fields and perhaps worst of all, in relationships.
Aug 17, 2020
30 min
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