Introducing our new series, Kink Journeys, where each week we'll follow a listener of pod as they go through a pivotal moment in their journey. This week we meet Grey, a trans man at the beginning of his medical transition who's seeking to answer the eternal questions in life — how do we take up space while still finding ourselves? How binary should gender even be? And, most importantly, how does an adult man fuck? Follow him at @greytheteaman. Lina is currently on maternity leave! If you're curious about all that, she has curated a series of written posts releasing every 1.5 weeks on Patreon and Substack, many of which are free, and several contain bonus content. You can still get all our regular bonus content in both those places, except Patreon has the Discord server and Substack does not. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. We will be back to our regularly scheduled programming in mid-October.  Even though Lina is on leave, she's still offering a limited quantity of Ask A Sub Office Hours. Book your one-off slot or package here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month alongside all your other benefits.  Follow us on Instagram at @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

A caller wants to know why kinky rejection hurts more than any other rejection and wonders if maybe, possibly, there's a way to avoid it?? Asking for a friend?? Lina gets into some solid reasons why the ouch is so ouch, how to make it ouch in a good way, and how to apply some time-honored strategies to healing the ouch. Say 'ouch' again…. Ouch. Lina is currently on maternity leave! If you're curious about all that, she has curated a series of written posts releasing every 1.5 weeks on Patreon and Substack, many of which are free, and several contain bonus content. You can still get all our regular bonus content in both those places, except Patreon has the Discord server and Substack does not. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. We will be back to our regularly scheduled programming in mid-October.  Even though Lina is on leave, she's still offering a limited quantity of Ask A Sub Office Hours. Book your one-off slot or package here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month alongside all your other benefits.  Follow us on Instagram at @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Introducing our new series, Kink Journeys, where each week we'll follow a listener of pod as they go through a pivotal moment in their journey. This week, we hear the final installment of M's journey, and learn about what roles softball, juggalos, and witchcraft have to play in a life well lived in a room of one's own. Lina is currently on maternity leave! If you're curious about all that, she has curated a series of written posts releasing every 1.5 weeks on Patreon and Substack, many of which are free, and several contain bonus content. You can still get all our regular bonus content in both those places, except Patreon has the Discord server and Substack does not. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. We will be back to our regularly scheduled programming in mid-October.  Even though Lina is on leave, she's still offering a limited quantity of Ask A Sub Office Hours. Book your one-off slot or package here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month alongside all your other benefits.  Follow us on Instagram at @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Introducing our new series, Kink Journeys, where each week we'll follow a listener of pod as they go through a pivotal moment in their journey. This week, we're catching up with M a few months on from her first interview, to check in on her new life and cheer her on in her self care.  Lina is currently on maternity leave! If you're curious about all that, she has curated a series of written posts releasing every 1.5 weeks on Patreon and Substack, many of which are free, and several contain bonus content. You can still get all our regular bonus content in both those places, except Patreon has the Discord server and Substack does not. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. We will be back to our regularly scheduled programming in mid-October.  Even though Lina is on leave, she's still offering a limited quantity of Ask A Sub Office Hours. Book your one-off slot or package here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month alongside all your other benefits.  Follow us on Instagram at @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Introducing our new series, Kink Journeys, where each week we'll follow a listener of pod as they go through a pivotal moment in their journey. This week, we meet M as she navigates the wreckage of what is truly one of the worst breakups Lina has ever heard about. But in spite of the male audacity in this episode, we promise you'll be inspired by M's humor, witchy wisdom, and iconic penchant for cussing her way through self care. Lina is currently on maternity leave! If you're curious about all that, she has curated a series of written posts releasing every 1.5 weeks on Patreon and Substack, many of which are free, and several contain bonus content. You can still get all our regular bonus content in both those places, except Patreon has the Discord server and Substack does not. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. We will be back to our regularly scheduled programming in mid-October. Even though Lina is on leave, she's still offering a limited quantity of Ask A Sub Office Hours. Book your one-off slot or package here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month alongside all your other benefits. Follow us on Instagram at @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

This month on the Deep Dive series, we're graced with the presence of one of London's preeminent kink queens Miss Gold — Dominatrix, photographer and creator of the iconic One Night parties.. She shares with us how her SW career has influenced her photographic gaze, her specialty in *the kink* most people list as their hardest of hard limits, and her thoughts on mothering be it of humans or hand-reared kittens. In signature Ask A Sub style, this interview goes anywhere and everywhere and we know you'll have fun keeping up. Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune.  Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Get your slot at Ask A Sub Office Hours here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month.  Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

A caller is doing trauma therapy and wants a good lens to explain the value of kink in their healing journey. In response, Lina checks in on how we're interpreting the word 'healing' when it comes to kink (ableism — be gone!), gives some reflections on what kinds of messages our bodies give us in scenes, and somehow in the midst of that coined the phrase that is our episode title this week, once again making the English language just a little bit worse 🫶 You're welcome. Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune.  Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Get your slot at Ask A Sub Office Hours here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month.  Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Sign up for Lyft here! Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

In honor of U.K. father's day we're getting into 'Daddy' as an honorific, whether it always implies age play (Sometimes? Yes? No?) and how nobody has to do anything they don't want to do but maybe getting curious is what saves us all from the shame monsters. Get the Summer Deep Dive schedule here Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune.  Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Get your slot at Ask A Sub Office Hours here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month.  Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Sign up for Lyft here! Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

A listener wants to know what to do about their well-meaning but vanilla therapist, and in response Lina earns her gold star Therapist's Favorite badge by exploring the ins and outs of the therapeutic relationship, how to resource your therapist and yourself, and takes a weirdly polyamory-informed stance on getting your needs met.  Links: A Walker In LA | Murder Mystery Yacht Orgy | Summer Deep Dive Schedule Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune.  Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Get your slot at Ask A Sub Office Hours here. Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month.  Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Sign up for Lyft here! Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad