Hello everyone! Can you believe this is already our year-end episode? We are keeping it light and indulging in a long Me Time episode today. Get ready for a cozy chat about my guilty pleasure- Hallmark holiday movies and some of my end of the year rituals that might add a sprinkle of magic to your year's end. Links and resources:Connect with me on my websiteWomen of Wonder (W.o.W) FoundingMembersInformation for Women of Wonder(W.o.W) Community 

Hello everyone! Here we are, smack in the middle of all the holiday buzz! There is so much going on at this time of year. So today, I want to talk about my family's little traditions and routines during the holiday season while focusing on you and how you take care of yourself amidst all the holiday craziness- especially if there are children in your life.It can get hectic and even overwhelming around this time of year, so join me for some ideas on staying sane while enjoying the holiday season!Links and resources:Connect with me on my websiteWomen of Wonder (W.o.W) FoundingMembersInformation for Women of Wonder(W.o.W) Community W.o.W Landing Page

Today, we are diving into a topic that resonates deeply with me and probably with many of you. We are talking about the art of letting go. As a parent with older kids transitioning into young adults, I have found that mastering the art of loosening the reins is not just a skill but a necessity. Join me as we explore the nuances of the letting-go process and discover how pivotal it can be to strengthen and preserve your relationships with your children as they mature.Links and resources:Connect with me on my websiteWomen of Wonder (W.o.W) Founding MembersInformation for Women of Wonder(W.o.W) Community W.o.W LandingPage

Today, we are discussing one of my all-time favorite topics- boundaries! The issue of boundaries has been making waves across social media platforms lately. However, in their true essence, boundaries are frequently misunderstood or misrepresented. So, today, we will unravel their complexities. Given the vast array of boundaries, I doubt this will be a one-time discussion. But for now, we will talk about boundaries in general. Join me as I explore the definition of boundaries, explain why they are essential and how to establish them, and the art of living a fulfilling life with well-defined boundaries in place.Links and resources:Connect with me on my websiteWomen of Wonder (W.o.W) Founding MembersInformation for Women of Wonder(W.o.W) Community W.o.W LandingPage

Hey everyone! I'm excited about today's topic because it hits very close to home for me. I spent a few years as a holistic health coach before getting into the mental health realm, and being a mom myself, the subject is not only near and dear to my heart but also a part of my everyday life. Today, we are looking into holistic and organic parenting. In my personal experience and professional background, I have seen many opinions on what is right, safe, or even dangerous for our children. So, join me as I navigate ways of being a holistic mom and share my take on what it truly means to parent organically.Links and resources:Connect with me on my websiteWomen of Wonder (W.o.W) Founding MembersInformation for Women of Wonder (W.o.W) Community W.o.W Landing Page

We are addressing an intricate subject today. In broad terms, the topic is kids and social media. But I also want to explore the broad implications of children using smartphones early on, because I think that encompasses issues beyond social media.Personal Experience with Kids and Technology I have had hands-on experience navigating the digital landscape both personally and professionally. I am also constantly fielding questions from other parents, caregivers, and teachers seeking guidance on managing kids' interactions with social media and phones.The Wild West of ParentingParenting in the digital age often feels like the Wild West. It is an ongoing learning process with little comprehensive guidance. There are no clear instructions for handling children's use of phones and social media, leaving parents to choose between allowing unrestricted access and imposing complete restrictions. It is a nuanced journey with no one-size-fits-all solution.Setting Age-Appropriate Boundaries for Phone Use In my perspective, delaying giving smartphones to children is crucial. I advocate for no access before sixth grade because younger kids often cannot navigate the social implications of phone usage. The transition to middle school might necessitate a need for a phone, but I still recommend strict parameters and limitations to instill healthy habits early on.Parental Guidance on Social Media Use When you allow children to use phones and access social media, it is crucial to exercise parental oversight. Educating kids about the public nature of their online presence and guiding them through responsible use is imperative. Open conversations about social interactions, setting rules on phone usage during family time, and maintaining access to their devices for monitoring purposes are all crucial components.Responsible Parenting in the Digital Era Taking a responsible approach to parenting in the digital era is essential. Setting rules early on and respecting established boundaries lays the foundation for responsible tech use. Having parental access to a child's phone should be seen as a tool for guidance rather than a means of punishment.Navigating Serious Conversations and Parental Oversight When monitoring my kids' phone activities, I found it essential to pick my battles wisely. Constantly spying or nit-picking on trivial matters could desensitize them to more serious discussions. The effectiveness of enforcing parameters lies in parents reserving serious discussions for matters that truly warrant attention.Balancing Oversight and Autonomy Maintaining a balance between oversight and respecting a child’s autonomy is challenging yet essential. I refrain from addressing every minor issue unless external boundaries get breached. That approach reinforces the idea that some behaviors have more significant consequences. It is not about controlling their every move but rather a delicate dance of setting parameters, respecting their space, and intervening when their well-being is at stake.Lessons in Appropriate Behavior and Privacy While I do not delve into trivial matters, I use opportunities to teach lessons in appropriate behavior. It is about instilling a sense of responsibility rather than enforcing arbitrary rules. The goal is to help your child understand the broader implications of their actions and foster a thoughtful approach to their online interactions.Fostering Trust Setting parameters around phone usage should serve as guidance rather than strict control. By focusing on significant issues and respecting their privacy within reasonable limits, you can foster the trust that forms the foundation for open communication-...

When preparing for college with your child, many questions and concerns are going to come up. Even though I am neither a college counselor nor an expert on college admissions, I have gone through the process twice before with my kids, and I am currently leading a parents club of my own. So, I have many insights to help you stay sane and maintain a healthy relationship with your child as they prepare for college.The First Step In my experience, the first step in guiding your child towards their college journey is knowing they have a unique path to follow and understanding it may differ from the one you took. Examining and Managing Your Expectations  As parents, we must tune into our expectations to avoid them getting in the way when we guide our children in their college journey. We often bring our college-related baggage into this process, so recognize your biases, hopes, and insecurities and address them to ensure that you do not inadvertently impose them on your child.Having Open ConversationsTalk openly with your partner about your expectations and financial limits, and include your child in the conversation. Discuss your child’s responsibilities and practical aspects of attending college, like student loans and their future financial implications. Honest and forthright conversations will help your child to align their expectations and make informed decisions. Be prepared to listen and support their choices, even if it means considering alternatives to traditional college paths.Guiding Without Forcing Helping your child figure out their next steps should be a collaborative process. Avoid dictating their decisions or forcing them into a specific direction. Instead, offer guidance and let them take the lead, allowing them to explore their options and make informed choices.Narrowing Down the OptionsAs you work through the process, narrow down the list of potential colleges based on your financial contribution, geographical preferences, and your child's interests. It is essential to stay flexible, as their preferences might evolve.Knowing the College Application Process Get to understand the college application process. Learn about early decision, early action, rolling admissions, essays, and financial aid forms for each school your child is considering. That knowledge will help you support your child in the application process without taking over.Avoid Doing It for Them While you might want to write their essays or complete their applications, it is crucial to let them handle the process themselves. That empowers them to take ownership of their future and learn valuable life skills.A Family JourneyWe live in New York, so we explored campuses in our region and around DC during family visits and took our kids to visit various colleges when we traveled around the country. Seeing diverse campus environments and deciding where they felt comfortable helped them know what they wanted in a school.Being supportive College admissions can be unpredictable. Your child may get into unexpected schools or face disappointments. Be supportive and proud of their efforts, and remember that the college experience is just the beginning of their lifelong journey.Celebrating AcceptanceWe believe in celebrating acceptance, as it is a significant achievement. When our kids received acceptance letters, we visited the schools they got into to help them get more excited about their choices.Understanding the Admissions Process Your kid's school and guidance counselor can provide information on the admissions process, application requirements, and insider...

I am delighted to welcome you to the first episode of Am I a Bad Mom?My name is Dr. Cristie Ritz-King. I am a trauma therapist and maternal mental health specialist. But more importantly, I am a mother of three nearly grown adults, with one teenager and a couple of adults still under my roof. While I have tons of certifications and degrees, I believe that it is my real-life experience of being a mom and spending the last two decades connecting closely with other moms that have deepened my insight, added to my knowledge, and fired my passion for the exciting new journey that lies ahead! The Inception of this PodcastI started this podcast before the pandemic in 2020 with a clear purpose in mind- to shed light on the conversations we hesitate to have, our unspoken feelings, and the questions we are too afraid to ask. It was all about fostering open and honest dialogues, addressing challenging topics, and encouraging discussions within families and relationships.The Transition to Ask Your MotherOver time, the podcast evolved into Ask Your Mother, which retained the same mission of addressing unspoken questions but extended its reach to offer guidance to adults who lacked mentor figures in their lives. It became a resource for those navigating different stages of their parenting journey, offering insights and support.The Goal of the Am I a Bad Mom PodcastThe primary goal of Am I a Bad Mom is to provide a supportive resource for parents and offer a place where we can delve into topics we might otherwise not speak about anywhere else. This podcast aims to help parents understand they are not bad parents and should not feel bad about having those thoughts, feelings, and questions. It is about normalizing behaviors and explaining why they happen so parents can become more confident and feel less anxious about making decisions.Prioritizing Parental Mental HealthMy commitment to parents, both mothers and fathers, stems from my belief that nurturing the parent-child relationship is crucial for the well-being of children. This podcast is not just about maternal mental health but also about embracing the broader aspects of parental mental health. It encompasses all types of parenting relationships, including those in heterosexual and homosexual partnerships. The objective is to prioritize this relationship to benefit the kids.Your Role in the PodcastI encourage listeners to leave reviews, subscribe, and share the podcast. I am eager to address all your questions and concerns, so if you have any parenting or adulting inquiries, please email me at [email protected]. I aim to help you feel better about yourself and your parenting journey, and I am thrilled to have you on board!Links and resources:Connect with me on my websiteWomen of Wonder (W.o.W) Founding MembersInformation for Women of Wonder (W.o.W) Community W.o.W Landing Page