This week, ADHD reWired welcomes Coach Dana Crews back on the podcast! In this episode, Eric and Dana have a vulnerable and open conversation about navigating conflict, the difference between conflict and disagreements, recognizing emotions, and making space for people we love but may also–at times–disagree with! Find more from Dana: All about Dana at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews Second Arrow ADHD Coaching at secondarrowadhdcoaching.com ADHD reWired Episode 498: Will I Ever Be Content? In this episode, you’ll hear discussions and tips about: Is conflict inevitable? What concepts come with conflict? / Thinking about the differences between conflict, disagreements, and avoiding conflict How can we disagree without the intense emotional state that causes more dysregulation? Differences between professional, personal, and family conflicts / Difficulties of transitions and the true size of ‘problems’ Behaviors based on patterns and experiences even though we’re not living in those moments and being stuck living in the past “We don’t have to agree with a person’s perspective.” / It’s not WHAT we’re disagreeing about – it’s about HOW we’re disagreeing. The importance of acknowledging the other person’s feelings / Can I make space? Can I have empathy or compassion for the other person? Holding space also includes active listening and being present / Mindfulness and grounding to be in the present Stating intent: What is the goal? Is the goal to be heard? To be right? To be understood? To come to a resolution? A compromise? (The three Hs: Do you need to be heard, hugged, or helped?) Getting to a place of collaboration, connection, and trust; a lack of conflict isn’t necessarily healthy The power of the pause, non-judgmental awareness, and recognizing one’s own tendencies and patterns of behaviors Starting arguments as a way to stimulate the brain / Feeling understood and also feeling heard can also be stimulating Getting stimulus sustainably and healthfully without it being stressful, unhealthy, or a detriment to ourselves or our loved ones Setting boundaries and laying down expectations when needing to take a break to calm down from a conflict / How to come back after taking care of in-the-moment emotions Possibilities of creative problem solving / Acknowledging one’s role in a conflict without blaming Stepping out of the content of a conflict and separating the emotion from the story you’re telling yourself Identifying and tuning into emotions / “The story I’m telling myself is…” / Avoiding shame & guilt spirals Leaning into emotion vs. pushing away emotion Resources & Honorable Mentions App: How We Feel at howwefeel.org Article :: Turn Towards Instead of Away at gottman.com Article :: Crucial Conversations Skill Summary Book :: Nonviolent Communication by Marshall B. Rosenberg Book :: Rising Strong - Brene Brown Website :: The Center of Nonviolent Communication at Information :: Esther Perel: Understanding and Resolving Conflict How to Resolve Conflict (Esther Perel) Masterclass Information :: Paul Ekman - Emotions Revealed 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups! 🌟 Interested in 1 on 1 coaching? Learn more and get in touch with Dana Crews at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews !
Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A! If you want to join us live on Zoom, go to adhdrewired.com/events to register! You can also find bonus questions & answers from past recordings and get an uninterrupted listening experience of this show on Patreon when you become a Patron at $5.00 a month or more! Check it all out at adhdrewired.com/Patreon! In this Q&A, you’ll hear tips and discussions about: ADHD and long COVID mimicking ADHD symptoms Being a business owner with ADHD and hiring / training processes How involved one should be in helping a partner with their medication regimen Codependency vs. interdependency Observing, support, relationships, and not falling into codependency roles Being an accountability partner for a significant other Chronic pain and negative feedback cycles Negative feedback spirals vs. negative feedback loops Mindfulness in the body and mind and mindfulness-based stress reduction The importance of being transparent about chronic pain with loved ones Feeling safe, expressing needs, and accommodations around chronic pain Can ADHD exacerbate pain? Pain as part of our sensory system, ADHD, and different thresholds Different types of paper planners and accounting for transition time SHART: Sh*t Happens; Adjustment Recovery Time Point of performances Placeholders and flexibility when planning Tips for task-switching instead of avoiding moving from one task to another Practicing taking breaks at least once an hour Sleep, exercise, general self-care, and task-shifting abilities Identifying obstacles then creating and/or accommodating around those obstacles “What are you fearing if you stop now and [transition] to the next thing?” and pattern interruptions The importance of having a growth mindset and seeing setbacks as opportunities\ Resources & Honorable Mentions Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW! At theadhdcreativespodcast.com 🎉 ADHD reWired Episode 516: ADHD reWired’s Coaches Round Table with Kristin Marts and Brian Entler Article: Potential New Treatment for “Brain Fog” in Long COVID Patients Article: Successful Treatment of Post-COVID-19 ADHD-like Syndrome: A Case Report (PMC) Webinar: The Science of Power and Hope from ADDitude Website: Jon Kabat-Zinn Meditations at jkzmeditations.com App: Jon Kabat-Zinn Meditations at jkzmeditations.com/the-app/ TV Show: Community Tool: Erasable Frixion Pens 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups!
In this episode, Emerson Jordan-Wood joins Eric–in person at ADHD reWired HQ–on the podcast! Emerson is a 27-year-old queer, non-binary, trans human. They are originally from Illinois, but have lived brief stints in Iowa, Texas, and most recently Minnesota! They studied civil engineering at The University of Iowa currently work in non-profit construction. Emerson was diagnosed with ADHD in 2021, and self-diagnosed with autism in 2022! They're also an active Alumni member of ADHD reWired’s coaching and accountability groups! In this episode, you’ll hear experiences, struggles, and discussions about: “Transitions are hard” and transitioning gender identities The overlap of ADHD, different means of transitionings, and barriers to access Hoops, hurdles, and executive function nightmares Experiencing gender dysphoria and body disconnect Navigating the medical system and knowing your options “This feels like me.” “Your transition is your transition and it doesn’t have to be based on anybody else’s.” Masking gender, masking as a neurotypical person, then unmaking gender identity Acceptance, freedom, and fully being your authentic self in the world “I was doing what I thought I ‘should’ be doing.” Different perceptions of gender, how people respond and interact with those perceptions, and fitting in Experiencing gender privilege and gender discrimination in the workplace Understanding pros, cons, patterns, and social cues between the gender roles Being misgendered, coming to terms with your identity and doing the work towards acceptance Navigating and learning how to process irritability, anger, frustration, and general emotional dysregulation Struggling with task initiation, living in a constant state of flight, and not “panicking” through life From TikTok to the doctor Feelings of being unprepared, social expectations, and navigating new environments Social cues, dynamics in conversations, and autism The helpfulness of labels and language to describe different struggles to take action and better communicate 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups!
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This week, Jeremy Nagel joins Eric on the show! Jeremy is a neuro-spicy software developer turned startup founder who is slightly obsessed with habits! He likes to start each day with a 2-hour morning routine and sometimes surprises colleagues by busting out a set of pushups during meetings to keep the energy high! When he’s not working on startups, he enjoys cross-country skiing, trail-running, and cycling with his wife. Jeremy also hosts the podcast, “Focus and Chill”, a show about productivity for neurodivergent people! Find more from Jeremy: Check out his website and app at FocusBear.io Find the podcast at podcast.focusbear.io – “Focus and Chill” Get in touch with Jeremy on LinkedIn In this episode, you’ll hear tips and discussions about: Micro-workouts to boost focus, mechanical multi-tasking through energy slumps & maintaining energy “Busy hands, quiet mind.” / Hyperfocus vs. the counterintuitive ideas of taking a break The benefits of actually stepping away and taking breaks Ways that your room or environments affect bigger- or smaller-picture thinking How do you stop when the focus feels good? / “Feeling are convincing liars.” Accountability, and body-doubling Consistency, resiliency, the law of averages, & the importance of learning your own patterns Addressing and dealing with stress, stressors, and burnout through physical activity Micro-workouts as a tool to manage emotional storms and dysregulation Exercise “snacks” and bite-sized workouts: Defining allotted times and types of workouts/movement Self-talk strategies when “I don’t want to!” How do we modify or set up our environments to be more conducive for what we want and/or need to do? Consistency, variations, flexibility in routines, and small actions adding up over time “The more we are able to get ourselves into various routines, the less we are having to tax our executive functions to do the work we’re trying to do within those routines.” “Stopping requires executive function.” Helpful in-the-moment vs. helpful in the long-term, not struggling alone, and self-compassion When we’re doing everything right but our brain has other plans Externalizing executive functioning for days when the EF-tank is low Having limits in place and the power of the Pause Mindfulness, meditation, and dishes as a mindfulness practice Resources & Honorable Mentions Adult Study Hall by ADHD reWired at adultstudyhall.com Book: Burnout - The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle - by Emily Nagoski, PhD and Amelia Nagoski, DMA 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups!
In this episode of ADHD reWired, Skye returns to the show! Skye is an ADHD coach and founder of Unconventional Organization, an international ADHD support service that provides research-backed support to adults with ADHD. She also has years of experience working in adult education and has studied psychology, sociology, and public health. Skye was diagnosed with ADHD as a doctoral candidate before making the decision to leave her candidature to work full time on Unconventional Organization. Find more from Skye: Check out Unconventional Organization at unconventionalorganization.com The ADHD Skills Lab Podcast at unconventionalorganisation.com/theadhdskillslab In this episode, you’ll hear tips and discussions about: Life updates from Skye with a new addition to the family Accepting when routines need to be altered when life circumstances change Dividing different todos, transitions, and location-basing your tasks Adjustments, reinforcements, and externalizing routines Interruptions, picking a task back up post-interruption, and external support Routines to preserve executive functions, transitioning, mental shifting, and adjusting Movement and dopamine to support working memory Dialing down stimulation rather than shutting it off Troubleshooting and problem solving in the moment when an unexpected interruption pops up Resetting, freezing, and externalized dysregulation vs. internalized emotional dysregulation “I have NO routines at all–where do I start?” How important is knowing how long each part of a routine takes? The difficulty of remembering routines and excited vs. working memory Remembering organically vs. being reminded and creating cues Googly eyes? Why not! AI and smart tools for helping with routines “ADHD is not a skill deficit.” …and more! Resources & Honorable Mentions ADHD reWired Episode 449 :: Getting Tasks Done with Skye Tool: reMarkable at reMarkable.com Check out The ADHD Creatives Podcast with ADHD reWired Coach Kristin Marts! theadhdcreativespodcast.com 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups!
In this episode, Eric is joined by Jonathan Kidder! Jonathan is a “kidder”, through and through - bringing comedy through character, as a puppeteer, content creator, and comedian. His big claim to fame is as a puppet character, Busy the Bee, on Waffles + Mochi on Netflix! The L.A. Gay Scene knows Jonathan as Miss Phoenix, The Ultimate Party Foul: Poolside Tarot Card reader by Merman Kidder, and through his party portraits he calls “Kidder-atures”, Kidder makes things fun using the power of personification and character to help him keep track of time! Get the full conversation and an uninterrupted listening experience when you become a Patron at $5 a more at https://www.adhdrewired.com/pateron! Find even more from Jonathan Kidder: Website :: kidderco.com (click here!) Instagram :: @JWKidder Linkt.ee / jonathankidder :: In this episode, you’ll hear tips and discussions about: ADHD, sobriety, and humor for functionality Puppets, time-blindness, and underwear for each day of the week Using your fun, embracing colloquialisms, and addressing your inner critic Experimentation to find what works for your ADHD management Not taking oneself too seriously and perfectionism as the enemy of humor “I’m not always able to make-the-funny” and self-acceptance Ways to make time physical Ways to keep time visual and other tools for managing time blindness Managing our ADHD vs. ADHD managing us The importance of doing and planning what works for you Closing loops, resetting, Chakras, and theme-ing your days Using absurdity and connected ideas to remember things Themes and structuring to help with decision fatigue Resources & Honorable Mentions Book :: Driven to Distraction by Edward M. Hallowell, M.D., and John J. Ratey, M.D. Book :: Addiction to Perfection: The Still Unravished Bride: A Psychological Study - by Marian Woodman Video :: How to Stimulate Your Brain (DOPA Menu) - Jessica McCabe (HowToADHD) Video :: Trailer to Waffles + Mochi (on YouTube) Video :: Pink Sweat Video Shoot (on YouTube) Movie :: Death to Smoochy Movie :: The Happy Time Murders Movie :: Spaceballs Website :: Internal Family Systems (IFS Institute) at ifs-institute.com Website :: Folkmanis Puppets at folkmanis.com Tool :: Time Timer Original 12” at timetimer.com Pithy Nibbles “Humor, for me, is a version of pizzazz!” “Humor is about imperfection and change and being present; perfection and perfectionism is, ‘you can’t have perfection and change.’” “Nobody doesn’t have an ass.” 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups!
Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A! If you want to join us live on Zoom, go to adhdrewired.com/events to register! You can also find bonus questions & answers from past recordings and get an uninterrupted listening experience of this show on Patreon when you become a Patron at $5.00 a month or more! Check it all out at adhdrewired.com/Patreon! ⚠️ Our winter season of coaching & accountability groups starts on January 11th, 2024! Go to coachingrewired.com to find out all the up-to-date information and everything you'll need before we start! In this Q&A, you’ll hear tips and discussions about: Navigating around responses and emotions, family dynamics during the holidays, and discussions around ADHD and neurodivergence Overestimating our capacity to get things done and avoiding / overcoming burnout Time management, energy management, and reframing expectations A strategy for remembering to actually stop your timer when time-tracking Tools/strategies to help with overwhelm, and the role of acceptance and community Using a camera and grid system to organize and declutter a room Emotional regulation practices / A.I. tools and services Intervening to taking breaks even when you “don’t feel tired” and making decisions on a drained brain Cramming for deadlines and zeroing in on sources of procrastination Hybrid planning and the importance of experimentation Scope creep, saying no, learning our tendencies, and having a “parking lot” for our ideas Resources & Honorable Mentions Book: Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Tawwab Book: 168 Hours by Laura Vanderkam Book: Change Your Questions, Change Your Life by Marilee G. Adams Book: The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron Website: GoodInside - Dr. Becky (at https://www.goodinside.com) Instagram: Nedra Tawwab @nedratawwab (Author of “Set Boundaries, Find Peace”) YouTube Video: How to Give Your Brain the Stimulation it Needs (a.k.a. a DOPA Menu!) with Jessica from HowToADHD Adult Study Hall by ADHD reWired at adultstudyhall.com App: Otter.ai Quotable Remembrances “You’re not the jack-ass whisperer” - Brene Brown “You can’t change the people around you, but you can change the people around you.” - The Minimalists (Joshua Fields Milburn and Ryan Nicodemus) “Novelty is great, but be wise about how you use it.” “If we don’t have an accurate picture of what’s going on in our macro life, how can we even begin to know what needs to change?” “If you can’t change it, you can change the way you think about it.” “Am I overcomplicating this?” “If you don’t know where your boundary is first, you are likely to scope-creep.” 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups!
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Our 35th season of ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups are coming up fast! This winter season begins next week on Thursday, January 11th, 2024! Don't miss your chance to join - go now to coachingrewired.com to find this season's schedule and all the details, and to get your name on our interest list, so you can join one of our upcoming final registration events: Tuesday, January 9th (immediately following the Live Q&A); or Wednesday, January 10th at 10am Pacific / 1pm Eastern If those times don't work for you, you can even schedule a 1-on-1 with Eric, coach Kristin or coach Brian, or another member of the ADHD reWired team, who will help you get all the information you'll need to get registered! Growth happens here. Start the new year by starting with you - go now to coachingrewired.com!
This week, ADHD reWired Coaches Eric Tivers, Kristin Marts, and Brian Entler get together for the first ever round-table discussion! You’ll hear stories about troubles and tips for how coaches manage their own transitions, how each person leverages the tools in their ADHD toolbelts, the role of novelty, thriving in a crisis, how different times of day affect each coach, and more! Send your suggestions and ideas of what you’d like to hear from the coaches in future Coaches Round Table episodes to firstname.lastname@example.org with the subject line, “Round Table” You can hear more from Brian, Kristin, and other past guests in all of our recordings of our monthly Live Q&As! Find show notes to this episode and all past episodes adhdrewired.com/podcast! More notes on this amazing episode coming soon! In the meantime, checkout these resources mentioned on today’s show! Podcast :: ADHD reWired Episode #342 - Transitions, Balancing Work, and Relations - with Adison Smith Podcast :: ADHD reWired Episode #429 - Growth Cycles with Brian Entler Podcast :: ADHD reWired Episode #514 - Introducing: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts Book :: The One Thing by Gary W. Kellar and Jay Papasan ADHD reWired Coaching :: About Coach Kristin Marts at https://www.adhdrewired.com/coach-kristin-marts ADHD reWired Coaching :: About Brian Entler at https://www.adhdrewired.com/coach-brian-entler Join our award-winning Coaching & Accountability Groups at coachingrewired.com If you love the show and want to support our work, consider becoming a Patron at adhdrewired.com/Patreon
⚠️ Coming soon to your favorite podcast player: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Coach Kristin Marts, LCSW! Check out more at 🎉 Who is Kristin Marts? The host of The ADHD Creatives Podcast, Kristin Marts, is a multi-talented individual who works as a licensed social work therapist and ADHD coach. She discusses how ADHD affects creativity, drawing from her experience in the arts world. Kristin also shares her journey from being a dancer to becoming a therapist and her passion for working with children and adults with ADHD. She introduces her podcast, which will feature conversations, guests, and entertainment such as parody songs. Kristin invites listeners to join her on Fridays for new episodes. Want more from Kristin? Check out these links: ADHD reWired Episode 514 | Introducing: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts! ADHD reWired's Coaching & Accountability Groups: About Kristin
Dec 29, 2023