Barelyn (previously Bare Ly) is back after a few months of getting swallowed by that thing we call life. Take a listen to the stuff that has happened to them, lessons they’ve learned, and whats to come. Zaddy Bare is back and ready to talk some more about softness. —-Follow us on Instagram (@asoftmess) for more updates and other featured content.

In this episode of A Soft Mess, Bare and Michaela get a chance to ask a local queer therapist questions about how we connect and form relationships with people. Talking about Attachment Theory is so important. So here's a conversation to start you off. Our guest, Lyndsey Lyons (she/her/hers) is a polyamorous, queer therapist living in Boulder, Colorado. She works with individuals and couples in various relationship configurations to form and maintain loving connections in their lives.  She believes that relationships are one of the most powerful tools we have in healing. Her journey to support others began with her own process of healing trauma and learning to embrace secure attachments in her life. Lyndsey practices Diane Poolheller's Somatic Attachment work along with Stan Tatkin's attachment focused therapy for couples. In addition to her private practice at the Love, Sex, and Gender Center, she is also a Psychedelic Therapist at Innate Path, a clinic utilizing medicine assisted therapy for trauma healing. Lyndsey spends much of her free time with her partner, pup, and friends - often while plotting ways to help reduce sexual shame, dismantle toxic systems, and practice authentic connection. // To support the creation of A Soft Mess Podcast, leave a review on iTunes and share your favorite episode with a friend or three! Also, monetary donations can be sent to @thebarecaveco on Venmo!

A Soft Mess is so happy to bring Michaela onto the team. We are both dedicated to open listening and uplifting marginalized voices so this is a perfect match! Get to know Michaela through this short update.

On the newest episode of A Soft Mess, Bare Ly and guests get real about mental illness. What's it like to survive a hard day? Who are some mental health role models? And lots more. If you have a story about mental illness that you want to share, Bare is here to listen. Follow A Soft Mess on Facebook an Instagram @asoftmess and DM us to chat. <3

A short update from your queer host, Bare Ly

This is our special Pride Month episode where we talk to Josie Ivy Nixon about the gender binary, coming out as trans, dating apps, and what it's like to explore the world of love, sex and relationships. If you've ever wondered what it's like to navigate these parts of the world as a trans person, this vulnerable interview is a great introduction to that. 

This month, your host Bare Ly, talks to some guests about asexuality. What is it? What does it look like in people's day to day lives? Do you have to come out as asexual? Do asexual people have sex or date? And more. Check out guest speaker Emily's instagram @asdfiwik <3

The host of A Soft Mess, Bare Ly, is back to answer listener questions. This episode they talk about the process of starting therapy, what healing might look like for someone with a poor memory, and what life is like post diagnosis. 

In this episode, Bare Ly explores the world of editing and publishing with special guests Mike Malpiedi and Ellie Swennson. Mike Malpiedi works over at Game Over Books and talks with us about the day in the life of a small press editor as well as gives tips and tricks to writer's who are looking to submit their work to have it published. Ellie Swennson graces us with her vocal presence in the form of a creative piece, written specifically for A Soft Mess, about the writing process. Check out ASoftMess.com to contact us or support the show!

In Season 2 Episode 2, Bare Ly chats with freelance writers Nicole Hallberg about getting started in the freelance world, writing habits, mental health and more. Check out ASoftMess.com to get involved with the show!