We are not alone, reach out, this is what we hear but do others truly understand? Well we do not know unless we start that conversation with others. Others telling their stories helps ease the fears and concerns of judgement and rejection. Charlie has definitely done that. We talk about her story of mental health and how this has led her on a path of self discovery and within that discovery how she can help others. She has some excellent nuggets of wisdom, reflecting on how you must start with yourself and what you can control, that although reaching out is difficult and you may not understand why you feel the way you do, talking to others and finding support can make a real difference. Charlie also wanted to share a youtube video of how just listening to others can help all by itself. Because sometimes we don't want to be fixed, we just need to be heard. Thank you Charlie for taking the time to talk to me and tell your story, I enjoyed nattering with you. And thank you all for listening. Good day, Good brew. YouTube video. https://youtu.be/-4EDhdAHrOg Find Charlie on Instagram @charlie_red_x

Turning 38, closer to 40, gives me the desire to reflect. Coming from the viewpoint of what I expected at 38. A house, a car, wealth, health, a family. The funny thing is I have all of them but none are as I expected.  The markers we set are generally not set by us. They are the traditions and standards passed on, normally with care and the want for happiness but is it our happiness or what others envision happiness for us because what they were sold was happiness and being content in life.  Living my life backwards children first, then house, car and then career it's easier (not easy just easier) to see the flaws and the false advertising or at least feel it's not quite one size fits all. Your path can only be walked by you, which means it can only be forged by you. Yes, there's help along the way and others can teach you skills but the glass ceiling is up to you. Your best all you can do and it is enough for you. Do your best, until you know better, then do better.  Thank you for listening, Good day, good brew.  #mentalhealth #expectation #life

I woke up this morning and saw something that really made the penny drop.  Not being able to see the wood for the tree is a saying that invokes the concept of being lost yet, it's right in front of you. Something which is resonating with a lot of people close to me just lately and especially myself.  These ideas and targets we have for ourselves, our north stars, what happens when we don't reach them, or moreover what happens when we do? What then? What do we do next?  The blackhole we find ourselves in leaves us feeling lost without a sense of direction. Not knowing where to turn. What is the right path? What is our yellow brick road?  What we also need to remember is we are not alone when we feel lost. It is so easy to not want to put on others, to believe we are alone in what we are feeling but I can hand on heart say you are not. Sometimes all it takes is a listening ear.  We have our own answers but support and care and compassion can make it alittle easier. Those that are there for you will listen.  This podcast was inspired by a couple of people close to me, those that are around you can be your mirror and the love and care for them because of this can not be worded.  Thank you for listening, so much love to you all and if you need an ear and feel there is no one, I will do my best to be that.  Thank you agaoin, stay beautiful and good day, good brew.  #mentalhealth #lost

Starting with a big thank you. My last podcast saw a huge influx of listens and I can not be more grateful so many of you took the time to listen to my podcasts, old and new. I speak from the heart and somehow it's connecting with you. I appreciate you all. SPeaking of connecting... Purpose and connection.  Without them we feel lost. We need a goal to work towards, a north star. Purpose gives life meaning, yet meaning is an individual idea. What is meaning for one is pointless to another. Additionally, how we are connected to our own meaning is equally diverse.  Connection involves a magnitude of connotation. From friends, family, partners to a career, a possession or goal. They interlink and become harder to separate the more we engross ourselves in what matters to us.  Purpose involves connection but without connection there is no purpose.  Recently I have felt lost in the position of my north star and I wonder do we ever really know or does it change as we do? leading to the question I think we all face, what's next and what the hell am I doing.  Thank you for listening. Good day, good brew. #purpose #connection #mentalhealth

Something out of the blue can change your view.  A week ago I was taken to the hospital because they suspected I was having a heart attack. What it gave me was a change of heart. This was not some grant, near death experience where people see the error of their ways and change their life story like a movie. Fuck that romantised BS.  What it can make you realise is the support network you have. Who do you call and are you really as alone as you thought you once were.  Many tangents, so be warned. None of my podcasts are scripted or edited. From start to finish you get the full thought process of me speaking from my heart. Nothing fancy, just one yorkshire lass trying to connect with others over a brew.  What is personal is usually experienced generally.  Thank you for listening.  #mentalhealth #alone #together #heartattack

F*ck anxiety, and all its friends like self doubt, fear, and worthlessness. As a long time member of the 'I'm not enough and too much all at the same time' club, day to day can seem exhausting. You look to others believing they have it together when in fact they are just as lost as you. The hope that one day these thoughts will do one and the need for peace of mind. Not wanting to be a burden while craving love and affection you never received. I speak about my own struggles, the management and how counselling helps. This podcast episode is more vlog form this week. Sharing honestly is the best way to help others feel less alone, yet something I feel we all struggle with for fear of judgement and the very thing we are exposing in our most vulnerable times is used against us. All we can do is our best, until we know better then we can do better. Thank you for listening. #mentalhealth #vlog #notalone

We all make plans. Whether they're errands to do or distance far off dreams of one day, but these are just ideas, concepts. We never really know how things and life is going to go. With time and experience plans change, yet we hold on to what we were, rather than what we are. However, this doesn't change the fundamentals of ourselves, yet we are rooted in the structures we made of what we would like our lives to look like, never acknowledging we to, change and evolve. Furthermore, we don't recognise we are supposed to enjoy ourselves, life does not have to be about misery and the daily grind. Plans are the love handles of life, we hold on to them as something for stability as we are understanding what we are doing we're able to let go and hopefully enjoy ourselves. Thank you for listening. I appreciate you all. Share, like and hopefully subscribe. Good day, good brew. #plans #mentalhealth #enjoyment

Emotions. Valid right? yes but to what extent. It is that emotions are valid. You can feel the way you feel. If something upsets you, then it upsets you. If it makes you happy then, by all means be happy. It is when we lend all our responses to our emotions. We all know a moment in our lives of what I like to think of as Hadgrid moments. Shouldn't of said/done that. The more we accept and understand our emotions, the more we control the responses rather than the way we feel, giving an opportunity for reasoning to play a part. This week I meditate on the idea of why we react and how we can lessen it. Because we all know it's not always going to work but naming the demon takes it control, mostly. Thank you for listening. Like, comment, subscribe, sharing and all that jazz. Good day, good brew.  Oooo fyi. I failed my mod 1. Gutted of course and reason why this is late but it's rebooked.

The good, the hope in people, in a person for their innate individualism and creativity they have to share with the world. What is good for others, might not be for some and those that might not be good to you can go on to be a huge beacon of good to others. This is something I believe in and just recently lost it. We all have core beliefs, something we hold on to that makes us, us. The experiences we have been through shapes them and continues to do so as we move through this thing called life. Losing this hope made me realise how important keeping the positive that I had worked so hard to maintain for my own well being, the hope in others, means I lose hope in myself. Because if there is no good in the world, so we decide to be the good, doesn't that mean it does exist. Existential moment. We all have value integral to us. What is yours? Thank you for listening and I'd love to hear your thoughts. #thegood #mentalhealth #corebeliefs

Two weeks away. Between restarting work and coming off the back of a motorcycle (don't worry, I am fine, just a bruised bum and ego), I need to gather my thoughts so they can be expressed in a manner that I feel would be of some value to others. The want to help others is something I feel very strongly about, but just lately have lost that spark, that flame of hope in the good of others and, more importantly, myself. The phrase, no sudden exits, is a way to remind me that we need people here making memories rather than just being one, including me. There has been and will be a lot to overcome in my future, just like others and following the examples led by others such as Rich Roll, someone that inspires me while being at a level that I aspire to be in ideas and colloquial expression. The idea of being the lighthouse, the light that shines to attract those wishing to hear your voice and the information you hold, can only shine if you keep the light, that flame, glowing even in the darkest of times. Thank you for listening, and if any of the subjects ring true for you, there is help out there, such as your support group, local GP, and charities such as Mind and Smartiants. Good day, good brew.