Yesterday was my baby boys birthday. 4 years old, I cannot believe it. This sweet child of mine took his sweet time joining us earth side, as it took him 44 hours to get out of my body... It's been a while since I've sat and relived this moment, the best moment of my life. To my fellow mamas listening, what was the most difficult part of labor? I would love to hear! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abeautifulshitshow/support

Dating in 2023...what an absolute fucking shitshow, am I right? I had the pleasure of sitting down with my good friend Bri, and we had a completely unfiltered conversation about our own personal experiences as of late in terms of dating, dating apps, sex, and how our personal relationship with sex has changed over the years. DISCLAIMER: This episode is raw with some R-rated details...so if you aren't interested in hearing such things, this episode isn't for you! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abeautifulshitshow/support

How do we find the balance between showing up for the people that we love, and holding firm boundaries so we can show up for ourselves? I have struggled with people-pleasing tendencies since I was a child, and it wasn't until a few years ago that I learned the term "people-pleaser" and dove into the meaning behind it that I realized that, oh shit...that's me. (el-oh-el) Making sacrifices and showing up for the people that we love is a must. But when you are repeatedly saying yes to things that are negatively affecting you in order to show up for someone else, is this helping or hurting? There is a balance that must be found. You can't truly be there for someone else if you aren't taking care of you, first. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abeautifulshitshow/support

Hey, real quick, can someone send over the manual on how to successfully be a mom while also working full time while also taking care of myself while also chasing my dreams? No? There isn't one? Just recently, I have run full force into the biggest wall of burn out that I've ever encountered. This was right up there with the exhaustion I felt after giving birth and caring for a newborn, no joke. I was trying to do too much and like any normal human, I couldn't handle it. A lot of this being my fault, as I am the queen of thinking I'm sort of superhuman who doesn't have to sleep or eat regularly like normal people. But a lot of this, honestly, is submitting to societal pressures. Mothers are expected to do so much on top of simply just being a mom, as if that is simple. And we try to keep up, but we can't. And I know I can't be the only one who somehow thinks I am failing when I am unable to complete 4 million tasks in one day? It has gotten out of control and as a society, we have to do better and stop with the pressure and unrealistic expectations. But I believe in the power of baby steps, and in the power of building small micro habits to build an easier life. Moms - what is one small thing that you do that makes your day to day life easier? What small suggestion (without being judgmental, please, not dealing with that shit here, thanks) can you offer other moms to help them ease the everyday stressors of just existing in this incredibly beautiful and rewarding but downright taxing role as "mom"? Comment below. Share this episode. Let's get this moving. I need help. I need tips. I know I'm not the only one. Life is one big collective effort. Let's help each other. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abeautifulshitshow/support

I am an all-or-nothing kind of human. I have been known to dive in head first into anything and everything that sparks a light of passion in me. This podcast and blog? A dream of mine in the making for almost a decade. Did I take into consideration everything else I have going on in my life before I committed to doing this once a week? In true Biz fashion, I sure didn't! Last week I was unable to put out last week's episode, as I simply just did not have the time. So I took the week, I reassessed my vision for this platform, I regrouped and came up with a new plan and I began again. We are all capable of so much, but it is also important to look at reality and make sure we aren't putting too much on our plates. You will never reach the finish line if you burn yourself out. Slow and steady wins the race. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abeautifulshitshow/support

It took me a long time to accept the following: 1.) My value is not based around what I do for a living 2.) There will always be someone that judges you, that won't understand the choices that you make, and that has something to say. You cannot let this affect you. 3.) Life is meant to enjoyed. And to fully enjoy my life, I had to let go of the pressures I felt from self-judgement, family, friends, and society. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abeautifulshitshow/support

Guilt is "I did a bad thing", and shame is "I am a bad thing". To know Chase (Aja-Duh) is to love them. A beautiful and hilarious human being with many gifts and talents, being one of my best friends as the most important one...(kidding). We talked about all the things...drag, imposter syndrome, Dungeons and Dragons, substance abuse, but most importantly, being kind even if you don't fully understand someone. Because after all, we're all just doing human things making the most out of our time here, even if that experience looks different than your own. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abeautifulshitshow/support

To know young Biz, is to know a very drunk Biz. She was fun, she was crazy, but she made some poor choices. I used to party like I was getting paid a million dollars a year to do it. And with time, the effects of this caught up to me. Through personal life struggles and self-reflection, I was able to connect the dots and figure out why I struggled with alcohol abuse for as long as I did. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abeautifulshitshow/support

Christine Elise Layer, folks. My best friend, sister (basically) and partner in questionable and impulsive decisions. Our friendship began 11 years ago in Wilmington, NC and continues on in the great city of New York, where things have not been easy. Dating here is...fun. The pandemic? That was also...fun. A rat falling on your naked body? OMG! A blast!!! New York City has rocked us and yet we love her so very deeply. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abeautifulshitshow/support

Love is everywhere. It surrounds us, in all that we are and all that we do. So many of, myself included, have limited our experience with love to be "romantic love" that if we are without, we are not complete and our experience in this life is lacking. If you are struggling with basing your happiness and worth on this one thing, listen. There's a whole world and life out there outside of having a partner. Embrace it. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abeautifulshitshow/support