20 Something W/ Aidan Steinbach

Today we had our first female guest. It was amazing to talk about very real and prevalent issues in society and in our personal lives. It is almost impossible to understand what the grass is like on the other side of the farm. Especially when instead of a farm, it’s how much things cost, how you get treated in public, and what you can or cannot do. On this episode, we talked about the differences between men and women, if pretty privilege exists, what it’s like to live in the city you grew up in, the biggest turn offs for men and women, and so much more. If you are interested in being a guest in the podcast, shoot me a message. I’d love to have you. Even if you’re a complete stranger.

Had a great conversation with a friend of mine named Jack. We talked about life post grad, moving to Charlotte, how our childhood affected us, and dating Italian women. Jack is a packers fan (could you imagine) who currently lives in Philly. We talked a lot about how our unique childhoods forged us into the men we are today. Life is a confusing journey that different people take different days. We talked about how our each unique journeys have been lonely but fruitful.

Welcome to the last solo episode of my podcast. Starting this weekend, I am filming with other people, and it will be more interview style. I will have 5 to 7 questions prepared and they will come with a couple questions for me. It will be much more discussion focused. But before we get there… We have one last wrap up to get through. I touch on a lot this episode. I talk about the current state of my romance life. I talk about my family. I talk about the next steps for me career wise. To be honest, it feels like I say a lot, but I don’t actually say anything at all. And that’s why I’m making the transition that I am. The podcast started to feel empty and performative. It felt like I was giving brief life updates as opposed to touching on the real life discussions I really want to have. I think one of the hardest things for me to wrap my brain around… Is that life is good. Life is stable. For the first of my life, I’m not dating a psychotic Italian woman. I’m not making massive amounts of money and spending massive amounts of money. I’m not drinking a crazy. Life is just…consistently good. To most people, you would smile. But for me… Calm weather makes me the most stressed. I feel the most like myself in the middle of a storm, in the middle of chaos. I’m trying to train myself to enjoy the simple times in life.

What’s up guys- couple apologies to make starting off. First of all, I’m sorry it took me a month to actually film another episode. Second of all, I’m sorry that it’s just audio. I really wanted to get one out and I knew that the only way that that was gonna happen was if I just recorded. So here it is. Transparently 20. Transparently a mess. Transparently in need of some sleep. A lot has happened since we spoke last. It was the 15 year anniversary my mother‘s death. I went to my college’s homecoming. I started taking dating seriously… And it almost worked? Overall, life is good. Next weekend will be the first weekend I’ve actually been alone in my apartment in a month and a half. And I know what you’re thinking, this guy is fucking cool… No, I literally have just not been at my home because I think I’m Bruno Mars. The problem is, I’m not Bruno Mars… Even though I’m pretty sure we’re the same height. What I am, is confused. And the more time I spend in my 20s… The more I realize the confused is a pretty common state of being. So if you’re 20 something years old, and you’re a little bit confused, and some days you’re in love, and other days, you wanna be alone, and you love your job, but you never wanna work again… Give it a listen. It might be for you. In the great words of Tik Tok… We’re so fucking back.

Swear to God, I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. I mean, I’m just fucking happy.  Work is good. Friends are good. The new city is good. Things are kind of falling into place. There is definitely an uphill start to adulthood because there are so many things that you don’t really think about before you have to do them… But now that they’re locked down, shit is good  Hella interactions with my exes recently. Some good some bad. The next time someone asks me where my confidence comes from, I’m gonna tell them it’s because my exes Venmo me money to talk to them… That shit is insane. I performed stand-up last week. It was super fun and went super well. Going to perform it again next week… Pretty excited.  As a closer… If you think that nobody noticed when you didn’t post your man on National Boyfriend Day… you are dead wrong. I was studying. I was taking notes. Welcome to the 2023 2024 draft.

What a good episode. Started the episode by talking about why most personal trainers fail and my experience in the industry. After working with over 70 different clients and reading hundreds and hundreds of medical journals… it all comes down to the simple fact that most people don’t have the time in the day. Then we talked about the coronavirus and the misinformation epidemic. Why do people feel like getting medical advice from a politician would be a good idea? Would you go to your Dog Trainer or a police officer if you had a weird lump on your chest? Probably not. So how has politics shifted into this misinformation adventure? I think that I’m better than 90% of the people I meet because of the things I’ve experienced in life. Thinking that I’m better doesn’t stop me in anyway from always trying to learn from those around me. Just because I am more fit than my father does not mean that he is not more of a medical expert than me. Just because I understand the stock market at a greater degree than my sister does not mean that she can’t teach me a thing or two about the law. It is so incredibly important to think that you’re better. It is so incredibly important to be confident yourself. But don’t be so cocky that you think you can’t learn something from someone else. I’ve learned from homeless people, doctors, and college dropouts outs…life is the greatest teacher of them all. Finishing off, strongly, with a letter to my ex

Discussing a 5-year beef and my stance on hyper-religious individuals. Diving into religion and how it can, far too often, be used for persecution instead of love and compassion. Have you ever used the "recommend to a friend" function on a dating app? Has ANYONE???? I am here for my success. Fuck you, I'm not recommending shit. One of the worst parts about breaking up with someone is you can't listen to "their" songs anymore. How many names, songs, COLORS, and so much more have been ruined simply because you responded to a text you shouldn't have... One of the biggest questions of our time is how in the world do you live WITH your parents AND have no money...WHAT IN GOD'S NAME ARE YOU EXPENSES??????

Starting strong with why I only date people who look a certain way and ending even stronger with the age-old question every man is asked. Value is a huge focus of this episode. What value do you add to someone's life and what value do others add to your life? How do you determine that value? Is life as a short man more difficult and why do I make it look so easy??? Do you have to settle if you want to marry, or will I get with Jennifer Aniston? I feel very refreshed these days. Had an amazing weekend, talked to some beautiful people, laughed a lot, and got paid. I think once I refocused on myself and the things that added value...my own value increased. Anyways, let's get into it.

Life is crazy. Kids are overmedicated. Adults who graduated college are living with their parents. Some of the strongest people in the world would rather be the weakest.  Tackled some challenging issues on this one. Talked about my journey through being medicated and my current stance on medication. Talked about how sometimes it can be frustrating to see kids who went to the same school I did, just live with their parents and travel all the time. I have to remind myself that it looks like they’re having the time of their lives, they’re stuck in their parent's house…living their parent's rules. Going to start producing some content for Tik Tok and reels this coming week. I’m pretty excited about it. It’s something that I don’t have a whole lot of experience in, but I think it’ll be a really cool learning moment. After all, if I can get 180,000 TikTok followers just by showing my face… How hard can it be when I’m actually saying something serious?  I’m assuming very hard… Like exceptionally hard   

Pretty wide-ranging episode. Starting with how if ONE MORE of my friends gets married I will be calling in a bomb threat and covering everything from sexual education to suicide awareness. Can you get back with an ex? What would you say to your past self? Can you sleep with someone on the first date? I don’t know. But I certainly have opinions... I think my favorite part about this podcasting process is I get to find out my own answers to questions I never really asked myself before this.